Tip Tuesday…How To Live With Joy😊

Good morning friends, well it's October but if you live in my neck of the woods it's still 90 degrees😩....I'm so ready for fall, but until then I'm still going live with Joy...😊🍂

Living with joy can sometimes be a challenge.

When things appear to be going against our will, we tend to experience this as pain, suffering, or that we’re having a bad day. Recognizing that we are in control of our feelings, and that we have the choice to live in joy, or in fear is the first step to creating a life full of joy and positivity.

One principle that we all need to acquire is the ability to see all situations, people, and events from a positive perspective. Instead of viewing bad things in life as a prompt to get upset and angry, try to view the “bad things” as lessons that are helping you grow, helping you to become as whole of an individual as possible. Too many times, we think that the outer world, the physical reality is creating our day, causing us to be sad or unhappy; however it is the opposite that is true. We create our day, we create the circumstances for joyous living.

The most important lesson is that “beingness” precedes experience. In order to be happy, we first need to “be happy” inside, and this internal happiness radiates outward through every cell of our bodies and creates the outer experience of a smile, or a laugh, or an intimate connection between two people. It is in this “beingness” that we have the ability to see and to choose our feelings, desires, goals, and dreams, which then enables us to manifest an outer reality based on our true selves.

We create the reality in which we experience joy, anger, love, and fear. Because we have the ability, the free will, to choose our reality, we can make that conscious choice to try to just be happier, more grateful, and more sensitive. This happiness though will never come if you are looking outside of yourself first. Because, what we just learned is that in order to be happy we have to have the internal feeling of happiness to then create that happiness in our daily lives. Remember that your beliefs about reality create your experience of it.

So, start changing your negatives into positives, gain clarity, and open your heart by looking inside yourself. When we start changing ourselves from inside out, the universe will respond to us in ways in which we could never imagine. The ability to start manifesting your goals and dreams is already inside of you. Take the leap to start living in joy today.

Have an amazing day and find some reason to live with joy regardless of your circumstances or where you aren’t in life….

Live with joy my friends,

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Tuesday Thoughts…What if you looked on the inside for healing💫

Are you looking inwards for your healing? Here's why you should!👇🏾

People today are starting to recognize the value of self-talk. At one time people thought of those that talked to self as someone with a mental ailment. This is not true today. Experts are recognizing that self-talk is a healthy tool that we all can use to find answers to our questions and resolve many problems. 

At one time, people thought outer appearance made the person. However, today, people are starting to realize that beauty is skin deep, while inner beauty is to the bone. Today people are running to find ways to develop self. 

Recently, personality development courses opened to help these people find their way. Now, people are not spending countless of dollars on improving their looks, rather they are spending more time and money to find ways of healing the hidden self.😊

The hidden being is decided on the inner conscious. We all have several hidden personalities that we do not recognize. These personalities often come out, usually when feelings are expressed. 

To understand one’s feelings, one has to use his or her self-talk tools. Most of us can manage our job tasks on a daily schedule, but when it comes to managing our feelings and emotions, often it becomes a struggle. Using self-talk tools can change this behavior. 

As humans, we often struggle to abandon bad behaviors, or habits. The common problem we face today is greed. We see this by examining human behaviors. You probably noticed that on several occasions when a person made a small lump sum of cash, they often want more. Instead of accepting that they have what they need, many people will thrive to make more money, and often find themselves down and out at the end;  Life seems to be nothing more than the almighty dollar, i.e. most people’s goal in life. 

People tend to believe that they can attain happiness and love by making more money. The fact is these people often find themselves stressing, because they failed to realize that finding love, joy, and peace is the true road to self-development. Success or failure is not what makes a person. What makes a person is fighting through the hidden messages in the subliminal mind to discover self. 

We all battle emotional responses, such as anger, sadness, joy, et cetera and these emotions ignite from failures, depression, and success and so on. We all feel down at times. There is no way that we can escape the feeling of sadness, joy, anger, et cetera, but there is a way we can all take control of what we express and feel. 

Another problem we face is dependency. Many people in the world today depend on others to pick them up when they are down. This leads to major problems, simply because not one person has the power to heal you, but you. 



To work through all of these problems, we must depend on self, and develop a winning attitude to build confidence. By changing our approach, we can see that the world is our own based on how we accept it. If a body is unhappy, then the world will seem like a miserable place to live. One of the common sayings today is, “Life is a B, and then you die.” This entire negative is causing them to miss the benefits of living. 

In each of our lives, some of us are fortunate while others are unfortunate. We must realize that everything we endure takes place to help us learn. For instance, a severely traumatized person may have lived a life of overwhelming violence. There is a point to be made here. Of course, this person is the victim and has no responsibility of what has occurred in his or her life, yet the point is made clear at the end of this person’s journey. 

We can all live and learn from each other. Despite what type of life you have lived you can develop a positive attitude and win the game of life. By holding onto negative thoughts, you only defeat the purpose of living. Life is too short, so develop a winning attitude and healing the hidden self will fall into place.

Hope you enjoyed this post, healing from the inside has helped me a lot in my journey. I had to find out why I was depressed and how I could change the things on the inside…..

Have an awesome day friends…

Lady O💞

Life Empowerment Mentor/ Transformation Coach

Tuesday Thoughts…Life is Wonderful☺🧡

Happy Tuesday Friends....

Life Is Wonderful, yes I do believe that now!!😁


It is so simple and so easy to get what we want that we have a hard time to believe it. We are programmed to do things the hard and difficult way, in order to get what we want. We can not believe that we can get anything without hard labour, sweat and tears, obstacles 
and misery.

This is nothing else but a tough old programmation, a conditioning from our childhood. If you are like me, you were bombarded as a child with expressions from adults about how hard life is and how we have to struggle to get something. We were submitted to a hazardous universe or a God of revenge who could pick us out without any reason to take revenge on us for something we did wrong. We needed to avoid being bad or wrong, but disease could strike us anyway. Sometimes they even said : “It’s again a good one who’s punished, and the bad one take off easily like usual without paying anything!”. We learned that life wasn’t fair. We lived in fear and thought life was a valley of tears, fear, struggle, pain, disease 
and death?

How would it have been if they’ve told us the truth? The truth, nothing but the truth?🤷🏾‍♀️ That life is easy, wonderful. That miracles happen all the time and that we have the  power to make them happen in our own life! That the universe loves us. That there is wealth and health for everyone. That we don’t live in a universe of scarcity but of abundance. That we only have to put the right thoughts in our heads to make these dreams real for us.

What would your life have looked like if your parents and teachers would have taught you the truth?

You we would have suffered much less! You would not have believed you were less than nothing. You would not have been filled with fear over your ears of getting sick or failing, of being stupid or being not good enough.

If you would have known from the beginning that you were a creation of the Creator, that you will always remain, that you will always be around, that you were created for a reason, and when you find this reason you will be happy, what would your life look like now? If you were told that you had talents, unique qualities, that make you a special person, and that you are on earth with the mission to offer these talents to others, where would you be right now and what would you be doing now?

Isn’t it nice? The Genius who created this whole thing did really well : we are sent to earth with a mission and to be able to assume our mission we are already fully equiped from the beginning : we are gifted with natural talents and all we have to do is develop our talents and offer them to the world! Simply said, we have to do what we can do easily already and what we are talented for, and than happiness, satisfaction, love, money and everything we want comes flowing our way!

It is so beautiful, this concept! All we have to do is to do what we love! And of course we need to stop once for all to think we don’t deserve happiness or wealth or health. All these thoughts are wrong because they go against the principles of creation of the Universe.

We are already wonderful! We are already loved! We are already rich! We are already free! We are already intelligent! We are already healthy!🙌🏾💪🏾
Why? Because we were all this before we started our life. It is the way we really are. It is the way we were created, we were born. This is the truth about ourselves. Everything else is “learned” afterwards. 

The good news is whatever is learned can be un-learned. Every programmation can be changed and replaced by a new program.

And again, life is wonderful, because a positive thought is 10,000 times more powerful than a negative thought. So you don’t have to take another 40 years to undo the negative conditioning in your head. One positive thought can counterbalance 10,000 negative ones.

Can you imagine? Aren’t we lucky? 

If you choose to do so, you can rapidly turn around your negative program in your head. Go to the bookstore, buy some books with positive thoughts, put them at every toilet in the house, in the bathroom, in your bedroom, in your living room, and read them whenever you think of it or see them. It doesn’t matter if you read one page after another or if you just open the book as it falls in your hands. The message you will receive will be the right one for you at that very moment.

Every morning you start your day by saying thank you to the Universe for your bed, your house, the roof over your head, the people living with your, the water coming out of your tap, the light switching on by a simple gesture of your hand, the food available, the choices you can make that day, the love you received in your life and the love you will receive, the miracles which will happen today and the air you can breath. 

In your car, listen to CD’s with positive programmation. Listen to them while you make dinner, clean the house or iron your clothes.

Surround yourself with positive people and stop nourishing negative social talk. Don’t watch television unless there is some really positive program.

There is a lot you can do to take a positive turn in your life. Don’t think you can do nothing. You are responsible for your life now. Make your choice! Know that every thought you think is either one which will weaken you, or one which will make you feel stronger.
The choice is yours!

Have an amazing day friends….

Remember you can always reprogram your mind….

Tuesday Tips….You Are Worthy💞

Happy Tuesday friends….

A lot of times individuals feel disgruntled because they don’t feel appreciated by other people. That’s understandable. Naturally we all long to be appreciated by others. But if our happiness hinges on the encouragement of others, we may occasionally find ourselves being needlessly discouraged.

The answer is to encourage yourself! Here are a few ways to do just that.

1️⃣Small pieces of bigger blessings.

While encouraging yourself, it’s great to kickoff with the long-familiar and obvious things like family, friends, your home, and so forth. But once you’ve named those things, try to be more particular.

For example, if you’re grateful for your family, individually list the members of your family and then compose a detailed listing of all of the ways you’re thankful for that particular family member. The same can be true for the other biggies. For example, if you’re thankful for your home (and you ought to be, even if it’s humble!), list the particulars about what you value about your home.🙂

Think through every facet of your home, and individually, list what you’re thankful for. They are things you take for granted, and yet would certainly miss if you didn’t have them! I’ve found it helpful to center on one small aspect of the various big things in my life daily and list utterly everything I can think that will encourage me.

2️⃣List of your gifts.

We frequently center on what we’re not good at, or ways we go wrong or wish were different. But we all have assorted gifts and abilities. Centering on those things can provide a good deal of encouragement. Nothing is too little to list! Or, as in the case above, begin with something big, and then list utterly everything you are able to dream up that comes under that certain category. Generallyspeaking, every talent that you have includes multiple “sub talents.” Be particular!

3️⃣Recall the past.

Occasionally when setbacks happen, like not being able to pay the rent on time, remind yourself of the fact that you’ve always managed to keep a roof over your head in the past, and that somehow things will work out this time also.

As well, when remembering the past, occasionally it’s great fun to think way back, even to childhood, about fun, interesting, and exciting experiences. Frequently this makes me laugh, and it also helps me to see how rich and terrific my life has been – and without doubt, will continue to be.

4️⃣Name your cares.

This might seem like an unusual way to be encouraged, and I’ll acknowledge that initially naming my cares sometimes causes me tension! But, naming my cares is often the first step in coping with the issues impending, and as I deal with them, I’m encouraged.

As well, as I name my cares – particularly if write in my journal about them – I frequently see that they are not as bad and scary as I thought. Frequently, when I journal about my cares or the things I’m baffled about, I find that I’m blowing things out of proportion and that the situation isn’t nearly as bad as I initially believed. That’s encouraging!

Remind yourself of encouragement from other people. Yes, this is about encouraging yourself, but occasionally you are able to do that by remembering past encouragement from other people. Maybe no one has done anything to encourage you this past week or even month, but we’ve all had moments of encouragement from other people in the past.

Have an awesome day and be encouraged friends….

Daily Reminder….💞

💞Happy Tuesday friends….

This is your reminder that you are not obligated to remain the same person were, last week, yesterday, last month, or last year!

Choose today that you won’t stay where you are, chose to heal, chose to stop drinking, chose to stop putting yourself down!

All it takes is one step forward my dear….

Have a Terrific Tuesday…..💞

𝓛𝓪𝓭𝔂 ‘𝓞’

Transformation Tuesday…..

#transformationtuesday

We’ve all heard amazing stories of rags to riches stories, people who’ve turned their lives around and went from zero to hero. Yet, even as we marvel at their success, we never think that we are capable of such ourselves. It is such negative thinking that keeps us at our low-paying jobs, stuck in our crappy little apartments and in our mediocre lives. But we can change our lives, simply by harnessing the power of our minds, specifically the power of positive thinking.

Like all things in life, learning to turn negative thoughts into positive ones will take time, but the process itself is really quite simple.

• Stay fit and healthy. A healthy mind needs a healthy body to reside in. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle is one the fundamental ways to stay positive without any psychological involvement. Regular exercise is scientifically proven to elevate mood and reduce stress. A healthy diet is also essential – make sure you fuel your body with the right foods.

• Use positive affirmations. Many of us are our own worst enemies, constantly pulling ourselves down with negative self-talk. Encourage yourself with daily positive affirmations and drown out the voice of negativity.

• Choose your company well. Negativity, like positivity is contagious. Surround yourself with positive people who support you and avoid those who sap your energy and motivation with their relentless negativity.

• Smile! The simple act of smiling is physically proven to help you stay positive and make you happier Allow yourself to be open to humor, share a laugh with a neighbor or smile at the cashier when she rings up your purchases. You’ll be surprised at how good it’ll make you feel.

Practice these simple steps everyday and eventually you will find yourself breaking away from the chains of negativity. Start changing your life today😉

𝓛𝓪𝓭𝔂 ‘𝓞’

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Tuesday Tips💞

#tuesdaytips

▫️Focus: Life has plenty of distractions, but you have to keep your eyes 👀 focused on your happiness and goals.

▫️Open Your Mind: Always try to see the good in all things, open your mind to new things and step out your comfort zone.

▫️Stay Away From Drama: This tip is self explanatory, if it causes you your peace ☮️ get the hell away from it fast 💨

▫️Take Chances: Again step out of your comfort zone, color your hair, join a gym, call him/her up, just try something that makes you happy.

▫️Smile More: Yes I know life sucks sometimes, but remember you are beautiful 💋and frowning adds wrinkles 😁

It doesn’t take much to get out of that funk and create a little happiness for yourself….💞

𝓛𝓪𝓭𝔂 ‘𝓞’💋

Journaling Is Healing…

#tuesdaythoughts

How many of you journal? If not why not? Journaling can be very beneficial to your healing and it gives you a chance to write all those negative thoughts on paper 📝 instead of being stuck inside your brain causing stress!😣

I love to journal and love coming up with different questions to ask myself, then I come back to my journals to see if my answers have changed…you know to see my growth!

So if you don’t journal, you can write these questions and answers down and stick them in your bible or favorite book for later!📝

Here you go:👇🏾

•What habit would you most like to break? What habit would you most like to start?

• What are you most proud of?

•What are you most afraid of?

•Who would you like to connect (or reconnect) with? Why?

•What practical skills do you wish you had?

•If you could make one change in the world, what would it be?

•What excites you?

•What do you wish you did more of?

•Let’s jump forward a year. What would you like to have achieved in the past year?

Happy Journaling,

𝓛𝓪𝓭𝔂 ‘𝓞’💞

Take Charge and Slay Your Goals….

#takechargetuesday

👉🏾Procrastination is a monster that lurks in the lives of every single individual. It is the bane of time management, the number one cause of time wastage, and the ultimate killer of momentum.

Therefore, to be able to effectively control your time and make every second count, it is vital for you to slay that procrastination monster!

Like all other important activities worth doing in life, slaying the procrastination monster is something that requires a huge amount of discipline and willpower, especially at the start.

The master key to doing that, however, is pretty simple. It is to simply start the day doing the activity you dread most. In self-help guru Brian Tracy’s words, “Eat That Frog!”

The rationale behind this method is that once you get over and done with the most dreaded activity, you would be feeling such a sense of accomplishment and invincibility that you know nothing else can stop you. You will also gain a huge amount of momentum that will leave you rolling over the rest of the activities of the day without trouble.

Instead of slaying many procrastination monsters all throughout the day, all you have to do is to slay the king at the starting of the day, and the rest of the procrastination minions will automatically diminish in power, or even disappear altogether, making your day much more pleasant, with a much clearer sense of direction.

However, do note that this activity does need some getting used to, as I believe there are people who have successfully slain the procrastination monster and ended up feeling traumatized about all the time they have lost all their lives.

Do not underestimate the power of this skill due to its simplicity. Its simplicity is where its beauty lies! Once you start getting the feel of how to slay that procrastination monster, you will start shaving hours off unwanted shuffling and deliberating, and finally start getting things done in the fastest and most effective manner!

Take charge of your life and slay those goals….you still have time girl🙌🏾

Lady ‘O’

𝓛𝓲𝓯𝓮 𝓔𝓶𝓹𝓸𝔀𝓮𝓻𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽 𝓜𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓸𝓻

#upgradeyourthoughts

Different kinds of thoughts

💫There are 3 kinds of thoughts: automatic, assumptions and core beliefs.

Automatic thoughts

We are constantly thinking about things, all day long. These are automatic thoughts. There is no basic problem with these thoughts unless they are almost always negative.

Assumptions

Assumptions are the rules that we live by. They involve conditional statements or demand statements. For example: ‘People should be nice to each other’, ‘I should be perfect’. They are restrictive and not always true.

Core beliefs

These are strong, absolute statements we make, that we take as fact. They include:

I am…

others are…

the world is…

If our core beliefs are very negative and unbalanced they can contribute to having more frequent negative automatic thoughts.

Exactly what are you thinking?

Olivia