Break Through Self-Doubt and Fear…Tuesday Tips

Happy Tuesday friends...as you go about your week, remember not to let self-doubt and fear creep into your life as you go about trying to accomplish your goals or healing process.

Self-doubt and fear interfere with our ability to achieve or set goals. Self-doubt and fear are the voices in our head telling us, “You’ll never succeed, so why try?” and “who do you think you are?” Self-doubt and fear are also what make us listen to those voices and decide to give up before we get started. (don’t let this be you)

While many people experience self-doubt and fear at some point in their lives, they take action anyway. Others remain stuck or are confident in only one area of their life, such as work. They are too afraid to try new things like going back to school, entering new relationships or learning new skills.

When we let self-doubt and fear rule our lives, we miss opportunities. We predict and believe that nothing good will happen to us, so we don’t try anything new, and refuse to take even low-level risks. This leads us to discount people or situations that could help us reach our goals. While self-doubt and fear can come in different forms and from different sources, we can learn to break through them.

I struggled with self-doubt for years as a child, a teen, also throughout my adult life. Fear kept me from pursuing so goals and dreams I wanted to accomplish.

This resulted in me never being my true self, so it was hard to step out of my shell, although I’m a very outgoing person I let fear and doubt rob me from my best life. Not anymore…๐Ÿ˜Š

Today I have a successful cleaning and new mentoring business. I have close friends, and a wonderful son and grandson. Learning from my life and others, I'm raising him to believe in himself, understand his feelings, and not be afraid of his fears. You too can learn to let go of your fears in order to live your best life by using these simple tips I provide here below:๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿพ
If you need help overcoming feelings of self-doubt and fear, please read these ten techniques and processes that have helped me get to this place in my life.

1๏ธโƒฃ Make a list of your fears. Only by admitting that they exist can you seek solutions.

2๏ธโƒฃ Write down how these fears affect your life.

3๏ธโƒฃ Become aware of the voices in your head and write down those negative messages.

4๏ธโƒฃ Start building a support system of friends and eliminate people from your life who foster feelings of negativity.

5๏ธโƒฃ Join a support group of people who have similar issues.

6๏ธโƒฃ Change each negative message to one that is affirming and constructive.

7๏ธโƒฃ Read books that help you feel better about yourself.

8๏ธโƒฃ Be aware of your past, and be willing to let go of it.

9๏ธโƒฃ List your goals and the actions you need to achieve them.

๐Ÿ”Ÿ Take one of those actions every day. Each time you do something that brings you closer to achieving your goals you will feel better about yourself.

When fears and self-doubts come back, and they still do, I break through them by using the tools and skills I’ve learned and now teach. They work.๐Ÿ˜Š

Have an awesome Tuesday,

๐“ž๐“ต๐“ฒ๐“ฟ๐“ฒ๐“ช ๐“‘. ๐“ข๐“ฑ๐“ฎ๐“น๐“ฑ๐“ฎ๐“ป๐“ญ

Life Empowerment Mentor/ Transformation Coach

“Helping women like myself who suffer from depression…build their confidence up in life, businesses, and relationships! Helping them find that inner strength to overcome their illness”

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Also, listen to my podcast on Why Fear Might Be Holding You Back:

https://anchor.fm/yojourneystartshere/episodes/The-Fear-Of-Failure-And-Why-Fear-Is-Holding-You-Back-e4hmr4.

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Tip Tuesday…How To Live With Joy๐Ÿ˜Š

Good morning friends, well it's October but if you live in my neck of the woods it's still 90 degrees๐Ÿ˜ฉ....I'm so ready for fall, but until then I'm still going live with Joy...๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ‚

Living with joy can sometimes be a challenge.

When things appear to be going against our will, we tend to experience this as pain, suffering, or that weโ€™re having a bad day. Recognizing that we are in control of our feelings, and that we have the choice to live in joy, or in fear is the first step to creating a life full of joy and positivity.

One principle that we all need to acquire is the ability to see all situations, people, and events from a positive perspective. Instead of viewing bad things in life as a prompt to get upset and angry, try to view the โ€œbad thingsโ€ as lessons that are helping you grow, helping you to become as whole of an individual as possible. Too many times, we think that the outer world, the physical reality is creating our day, causing us to be sad or unhappy; however it is the opposite that is true. We create our day, we create the circumstances for joyous living.

The most important lesson is that โ€œbeingnessโ€ precedes experience. In order to be happy, we first need to โ€œbe happyโ€ inside, and this internal happiness radiates outward through every cell of our bodies and creates the outer experience of a smile, or a laugh, or an intimate connection between two people. It is in this โ€œbeingnessโ€ that we have the ability to see and to choose our feelings, desires, goals, and dreams, which then enables us to manifest an outer reality based on our true selves.

We create the reality in which we experience joy, anger, love, and fear. Because we have the ability, the free will, to choose our reality, we can make that conscious choice to try to just be happier, more grateful, and more sensitive. This happiness though will never come if you are looking outside of yourself first. Because, what we just learned is that in order to be happy we have to have the internal feeling of happiness to then create that happiness in our daily lives. Remember that your beliefs about reality create your experience of it.

So, start changing your negatives into positives, gain clarity, and open your heart by looking inside yourself. When we start changing ourselves from inside out, the universe will respond to us in ways in which we could never imagine. The ability to start manifesting your goals and dreams is already inside of you. Take the leap to start living in joy today.

Have an amazing day and find some reason to live with joy regardless of your circumstances or where you aren’t in life….

Live with joy my friends,

๐“ž๐“ต๐“ฒ๐“ฟ๐“ฒ๐“ช ๐“‘. ๐“ข๐“ฑ๐“ฎ๐“น๐“ฑ๐“ฎ๐“ป๐“ญ

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I help women like myself who suffer from depression…build their confidence up in life, businesses, and relationships! Helping them find that inner strength to overcome their illness!

How can I help you๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’ž

๐Ÿ’“Here are some comparisons:

*Everyone else has a better car

*Everyone has a better marriage

*All my friends are well off

*My neighbor house is bigger

*Most women are prettier than me

I totally get it. I did it too โ€“ but (thankfully) not as often as I once did.

๐Ÿ’“We are slaves to comparison and that’s not good, remember what you see on the internet is not their real life….let me say that again, โ€what you see on the internet is not their real lifeโ€!!!!๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ

๐Ÿ’“ Consider what we already know

Until we learn to celebrate + adore ourselves wholly for exactly the way we are today, in this package, at this weight, mascara streaked tears, with a manicure that is 10 days past due and looming grey hairs, we will never love another. Because when you believe you are enough, you stop screaming + start listening; youโ€™re kinder and gentler to yourself + kinder and gentler to others.

Olivia

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Self~Love Series Day2

#selfloveday2

#transformationtuesday

๐Ÿ’“ You need to learn to accept yourself.

๐Ÿ–ŠTake a piece of paper. Now write down all your flaws. Write down everything that you hate about yourself. After you looked at it, now tear it up! You need to see the negative stuff but not keep that crap around.

You need to learn to accept yourself with flaws… but today my dear๐Ÿ˜˜

๐Ÿ–ŠNow write down a list of the things that you love about yourself. Be kind to yourself. You will soon discover there are plenty of things to love about yourself. Then you can stop comparing yourself to others.

๐Ÿ’“Remember you are Uniquely You for a reason….โ˜บ๏ธ

Olivia

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Self~Love Day2: No More Comparisons

#selfloveday2

#transformationtuesday

๐Ÿ’“Good Morning beautiful souls, Day 2 of my Self-Love Series, today I want to focus on โ€™comparisonsโ€™!

๐Ÿ’“We spend so much time comparing ourselves to the social media selves of others, that we forget all about our true self.

๐Ÿ’“Be who God created you to be, not what you imagine you should look or be like.

Have an amazing dayโ˜บ๏ธ

Olivia

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3 Tips to Become Self Aware๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿพ

๐ŸŒŸ3 ways to become self-aware

1. Assess your self-talk

The first step in self-awareness is to listen to yourself. Whatโ€™s going on in your mind? Is it a series of negative thoughts that make you feel pretty crappy? Or are you always looking on the bright side?

In practice: Take a couple of minutes each day to sit in silence and listen to the tone of your inner voice. One way of getting your inner voice going is to stand in front of a mirror and hear what youโ€™re saying to yourself about how you look. It might even help to write down your thoughts so that you can get a better idea of how positive or negative they are.

2. Use your senses

Your senses (sight and sound, in particular) can provide you with huge insights into your own and other peopleโ€™s feelings, and situations in general. But these senses are often viewed through the filter of our self-talk. For example, a frown doesnโ€™t always mean that someoneโ€™s angry, and a groan doesnโ€™t necessarily mean that the person youโ€™re talking with is bored, despite what your inner voice might be saying.

In practice: The next time you feel that someone is judging you, or has made you feel bad about yourself, take a step back and write down why you think this. Ask yourself, โ€˜Could I have interpreted what was said/done differently?โ€™ You might find that your interpretation was clouded by your own negative thoughts.

3. Tune into your feelings

This can be hard if youโ€™re not the kind of person who likes to think too deeply about your feelings. Your feelings are spontaneous and emotional responses to the things you experience. Like your senses, they give you good information about whatโ€™s going on around you, should you choose to tune into them.

There are some physical signs that you can look for that might help you to โ€˜readโ€™ your feelings. They include:

A warm feeling in your face might mean youโ€™re embarrassed.

A feeling of โ€˜butterfliesโ€™ in your tummy can mean youโ€™re nervous.

Clenching your teeth might mean youโ€™re angry.

Olivia

Self Awareness, Transformation Tuesday

#transformationtuesday

#unleashyourgreatness

#selfawareness

๐Ÿ”…Good morning luvs, as you go about your morning! Be aware of your surroundings you know, the things you make time for, the people you spend time with, and the actions you take. All this gives you a sense of self awareness

๐Ÿ”…Self awareness is about learning to better understand why you feel what you feel and why you behave in a particular way. Once you begin to understand this concept you then have the opportunity and freedom to change things about yourself enabling you to create a life that you want. Itโ€™s almost impossible to change and become self-accepting if you are unsure as to who you are.

๐Ÿ”…Having clarity about who you are and what you want can be empowering, giving you the confidence to make changes.

๐Ÿ”…I had to become aware of the person I was in order to move to the next phase God wanted me to! Yes, itโ€™s hard to make that change, but it’s so well worth it in the end! โ˜บ๏ธ

Olivia

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