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Break Through Self-Doubt and Fear…Tuesday Tips

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Happy Tuesday friends...as you go about your week, remember not to let self-doubt and fear creep into your life as you go about trying to accomplish your goals or healing process.

Self-doubt and fear interfere with our ability to achieve or set goals. Self-doubt and fear are the voices in our head telling us, “You’ll never succeed, so why try?” and “who do you think you are?” Self-doubt and fear are also what make us listen to those voices and decide to give up before we get started. (don’t let this be you)

While many people experience self-doubt and fear at some point in their lives, they take action anyway. Others remain stuck or are confident in only one area of their life, such as work. They are too afraid to try new things like going back to school, entering new relationships or learning new skills.

When we let self-doubt and fear rule our lives, we miss opportunities. We predict and believe that nothing good will happen to us, so we don’t try anything new, and refuse to take even low-level risks. This leads us to discount people or situations that could help us reach our goals. While self-doubt and fear can come in different forms and from different sources, we can learn to break through them.

I struggled with self-doubt for years as a child, a teen, also throughout my adult life. Fear kept me from pursuing so goals and dreams I wanted to accomplish.

This resulted in me never being my true self, so it was hard to step out of my shell, although I’m a very outgoing person I let fear and doubt rob me from my best life. Not anymore…😊

Today I have a successful cleaning and new mentoring business. I have close friends, and a wonderful son and grandson. Learning from my life and others, I'm raising him to believe in himself, understand his feelings, and not be afraid of his fears. You too can learn to let go of your fears in order to live your best life by using these simple tips I provide here below:👇🏾
If you need help overcoming feelings of self-doubt and fear, please read these ten techniques and processes that have helped me get to this place in my life.

1️⃣ Make a list of your fears. Only by admitting that they exist can you seek solutions.

2️⃣ Write down how these fears affect your life.

3️⃣ Become aware of the voices in your head and write down those negative messages.

4️⃣ Start building a support system of friends and eliminate people from your life who foster feelings of negativity.

5️⃣ Join a support group of people who have similar issues.

6️⃣ Change each negative message to one that is affirming and constructive.

7️⃣ Read books that help you feel better about yourself.

8️⃣ Be aware of your past, and be willing to let go of it.

9️⃣ List your goals and the actions you need to achieve them.

🔟 Take one of those actions every day. Each time you do something that brings you closer to achieving your goals you will feel better about yourself.

When fears and self-doubts come back, and they still do, I break through them by using the tools and skills I’ve learned and now teach. They work.😊

Have an awesome Tuesday,

𝓞𝓵𝓲𝓿𝓲𝓪 𝓑. 𝓢𝓱𝓮𝓹𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓭

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Thursday Thoughts…What If You Dared To Be Yourself…💞
			


	


				

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Do you always wish you were someone else?🤷🏾‍♀️ Do you ever wish you could live someone else’s life???


I know those of us who suffer from mental illness hhave these thoughts all the time, but what if you dared to be You and only You?????? 


There’s no need for you to imitate anybody else; they already exist. Do you want to be just like your colleague? If the Creator wanted two identical colleagues, then He would have created a copy of the first. If the Creator needed another person just like your neighbor, then He would have immediately created two of them. He never cloned somebody, so why would you? Every snowflake is different. Creation is not duplication.Repeat that….Instead of copying an existing model, He created a whole new YOU! Why? Because He needs you to be just the way you are! Why bother and try to be somebody else?Don’t imitate others. Observe them, learn from them, but don’t try to be like them. Learn their skills but then implement them in your own life and move forward on your own road. Because you are walking your own road, you cannot follow the footsteps of somebody else, nor can someone else walk your road for you. They have their road, you have yours.Why did the Creator give all of us different fingerprints, different ears, different noses? Wouldn’t it have been much easier for Him to make all of us out of a single mold? One model; no differences, no comparisons. He could have done it, but He didn’t. Why not? Apparently He needs us to be individual. He needs us to be different. Certainly this fact adds to the pleasure of the game. If all the characters in the play were alike, then it wouldn’t be much fun to watch. He surely likes us all to be different. And He surely needs us all to be different!Given the undisputed fact that we are all different, why would you try to be like somebody else? Why change your looks or your body with plastic surgery? Why not be happy with the way you are? I’m not just talking about appearance, but also about talents. Character. Everybody is unique. While longing for talents you don’t have, you are neglecting those talents that you do have. This is rather counter-productive, no? You have been gifted with a unique set of talents, so find out what they are and develop them.There is no coincidence. Everything in the universe exists for a reason. You are not talented by accident! Neither is it haphazard that you don’t have some talents you would like to have.
If you don’t have a nightingale voice, you were not meant to sing. You can do something else with your life according to the talents you do have, and leave the singing to someone who is naturally equipped for that. If you have no acting talents, you should not act. If you weigh too much, you’d better start dreaming about something else than being a fashion model.Another undisputed fact is that everybody is gifted with his or her own unique talents. Make no mistake! Talents are not only about activities like singing, acting, dancing, painting, writing or excellence in sports. Your unique talent could be your spontaneity, your enthusiasm, your connection with animals, caring for the disabled, your generosity, being a good teacher or public speaker, being a loving community member, or being a good problem solver. It could be your capacity to love, your natural joy, your brilliance, intelligence, easily assimilating new languages, radiating beauty, having a funny way of expressing yourself, making others laugh, kindness, tenderness, and many more. The list of possible talents is very, very long indeed…so dare to be you my dear!!!!! Just think of how wonderful it would be!!!😘Have an amazing day friends…𝓞𝓵𝓲𝓿𝓲𝓪 𝓑. 𝓢𝓱𝓮𝓹𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓭Life Empowerment Mentor/Transformation Coach”Helping women like myself who suffer from depression…build their confidence up in life, businesses, and relationships! Helping them find that inner strength to overcome their illness”



        
    
					

		
		
			





			
				



	
	

					
Monday Motivation…Your Happiness Comes from Within😃
			


	


				

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Happy Monday friends...new week, fresh start to create your happy😀are you ready??? Read on:👇🏾

Look we all know life isn't the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere – “How did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?”  Then I pause and observed for awhile… I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a place called "self".🤔


So, how does one become genuinely happy? 

Step 1 is to love yourself. 

My old teacher once said that "loving yourself means accepting."  To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes. 

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question "how to be genuinely happy."

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life and how it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, winning and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person's life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that. 

Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the NFL. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn't it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself “Whew!🙌🏾 I got a point today. I'm glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn't even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn't about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life doesn't always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy?  Every one has his own definition of "happiness". 

Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success. So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don't have to have the best things in this world. It's about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self "Oh, I'll do better next time", you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person. 

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project "how to become genuinely happy". For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.

Again, throw me that same question "how to become genuinely happy?". I'll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- "Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life's aches and pain. But most of us don't know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self,because then you don't just become happy you also become free."


Have an amazing start to the week…💞


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Mental Health Awareness Week…Anxiety and Self Help💚
			


	


				

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No body has any fun with persisting anxiety problems. Nobody understands the your situation when you are suffering from anxiety until and unless that person himself or herself has suffered from anxiety. Therefore in such case intake of a pill can help your situation or you can learn a few courses of action of self-help, which would help your deal better when you are anxious. However you must know that if you are taking pills to make living with anxiety better then you might as well become physically and psychologically dependent on pills. So you must not count pills as the permanent solution. You wont gain complete freedom of mind and satisfaction by taking pills. 


It is recommended that you seek doctor’s advice so that the root cause of your anxiety can be detected at the initial stage.


You can always help your situation although the symptoms will never completely disappear. With the anxiety self help tools many people have learnt dealing better with anxiety.

Here are a few things that will help.


1.  Check your diet.(This has helped me a lot)


When we have a balanced diet then our bodies tend to function better. If there are no adequate vitamins, minerals in our diet then it might lead to emotional and mental troubles.

Panic disorders can be caused due to deficiency in the regular diet.  200 mg of calcium and 1000 mg of magnesium should be added to your regular diet. Inclusion of iron, potassium, selenium and chromium will help to deal you with anxiety self help. Eating a lot of vegetables, whole grains and nuts can be taken as self help tool in managing anxiety.

You must avoid refined sugar, soft drinks, alcohol, coffee, and any else that has caffeine content like tea, coffee, or chocolate.


2.  Get some exercise.(Ok I go for walks, but not a fan of exercise 😔)


Regular exercising will help your body to relax and relieve it from stress and also help toning your body. Therefore exercising definitely helps in alleviating anxiety.

You must include a 30 minutes exercising program daily. Exercising helps in producing endorphins. You will see you feel better after you exercise.


3.  Learn how to relax.(Also something I’ve learned to do more of)


It is important to learn to pursue activities that will help you to relax. Listening to music, talking to a friend, working on a crossword puzzle, read a good book, take a walk, a nap, paint a picture, or some other hobby?  Doing things that you enjoy will definitely help to alleviate your stress.


4.  Get enough sleep 🛏


If you are stressed and suffering from anxiety as a result, then try to get some deep and proper sleep. Sleep is a natural relaxer and sleeping will definitely do good to you when you are suffering from anxiety. Learn to let some of those other things go, and perform some anxiety self help.


5.  Remove a negative attitude (This is a must)


There are various external forces that may add a negativity in you, which might lead to stress. Try and avoid developing any negative feelings. Such feelings can only spoil your day. Inorder to avoid such feelings grow in you may take help of the self-help methods and those are bound to help!


In short it is advised that you don’t let external affairs stress you and aggravate your anxiety and you must make your living with anxiety easier by adopting some of these self-help measures…wishing you well!


Wishing You Good Mental Health,


𝓞𝓵𝓲𝓿𝓲𝓪 𝓑. 𝓢𝓱𝓮𝓹𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓭


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Mental Health Awareness Week…Acknowledge Your Depression💚
			


	


				

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Good morning, I still belive to this day people don't believe depression is real.....in order to heal you are going to have to ackknowledge this fact! 


Depression is an illness and needs to be acknowledged as such. It is not a reason to be ashamed. The reason so many people fail to seek help for their depression is that they are ashamed. Unfortunately, this is one of the feelings associated with depression anyway and makes the illness difficult to acknowledge.


If you are constantly feeling particularly low, well-meaning friends might tell you to “snap out of it” or even start to get irritated by your mood. Your depression will feed off this negativity and you start to wonder why you can’t just “snap out of it”. You then start to feel that there’s something wrong with you because it should be so easy and it’s just “not right” that you feel so bad all the time. Well, it’s not right and there is something wrong with you. You have a medical condition and you deserve treatment in the same way as any other patient. If you had a cold for six months would you ignore it and hope it would pass? 🤷🏾‍♀️ No, you would dose yourself up with anything you could find and maybe see a doctor to find out if there’s an underlying reason for it to last so long.


Depression is sadness that lasts too long. Everyone is sad at some point in their lives but depression is more than that. It is a feeling that you can’t bring yourself up from the bottom. In the end you give up trying. People start to avoid you. You feel worse. You need to find external help to treat the problem in the same way as you would if you had a long-lasting cold. You could try herbal remedies – there are some in your pharmacy – or you could see your doctor. There may be an underlying physical cause for your depression.


If your doctor cannot help you they may refer you for counselling. Don’t be embarrassed to go for counselling but do make sure you are comfortable with your counsellor. If not, try another one. Counselling should not be discounted because you don’t feel comfortable with your first choice of practitioner. In everyday life you will naturally find that you get on with some people and clash with others. You cannot afford to have a personality clash with your counsellor. On the other hand you must be sure that it is a personality clash and not just that you don’t agree with what they are saying. A general rule is to go with your instincts. If you like the person and seemed to get on well in the first couple of sessions then stick with it because they might just have touched on the root cause of your problem.


In some cases, acknowledging depression may be difficult because you have lived with it so long that you don’t know whether it is depression or not. If you have grown up with depression it is possible not to realise that you are actually depressed because you have no concept of how normal people should feel. You may feel angry all the time or you may feel like going to the middle of an empty field and simply screaming. You may feel anxious, have trouble sleeping or even sleep too much. You may think that your family would be better off without you (and actually believe that to be true) and may have considered running away or suicide. You may worry about death all the time (yours or someone else’s) and not let yourself be happy just in case…… (or even “I must enjoy this now in case………..”). If you are feeling any or all of the above then you need to consider talking to someone. Even if it is just a friend or family member to start with, they may be able to advise you and encourage you to seek professional help.


Once you have acknowledged that you have depression please remember that it is a medical condition and can be cured. You don’t have to feel this way for ever. Nobody actually thinks of you the way you think they do. Talk to someone. Seek and accept help and you will find that there is a different way of seeing life. I am rooting for your recovery, we all in this together never feel like you are alone…ever!!☺


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Do You Know The Advantages of Being Confident….
			


	


				

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Good day friends,  how many of you know the advantages of being confident????

Confidence was something I had to learn all over again after depression and anxiety took it away, but I regained it and look out people...you can't tell me me nothing now!!! I'm confident in all things I do and you can be that way as well...read on👇🏾



Almost all successes and attainments in life come from your ability to feel certain that you can accomplish what you set out to achieve. Confidence is the gateway to success; to the life that you wish to lead and to the dreams that you desire to live.

With confidence you can boldly progress towards your ambitions and aspirations. With confidence you can rise up and handle life’s demands and challenges. You can tackle any hurdle and obstruction, and move on to the next step of your journey to fulfilment and achievement.

One of the principle requirements to anything you want to do in your life is confidence. Confidence is an indispensable part of your development, betterment, progress and success, both at a personal and professional level. With confidence you can forge ahead to fulfil your potential and perform at your peak level.

Having confidence is the crux that allows you to achieve your true potential in whatever situation; in your relationships, your work or career, your finances and your self-image.

When you experience a lack of confidence, it may stop you from striving for what you want. This feeling of lack of confidence can be the root of many complications and hardships that block you from achieving your desires. It can be like a large thorn that continually bursts the bubble of desire.

There may have been times when you have felt a level of confidence when you were engaged in an activity that you were good at; such as driving a car, being a parent or managing your team. At those times you would have displayed a high level of certainty, which is a form of confidence.

However, there may have been other circumstances where you found that you felt less confident. On these occasions, you would achieve a fraction of what is truly possible for you. With determination and focus to pursue and gain confidence, you can develop the strength and fortitude to climb out of the depths of any circumstances, and take advantage of the opportunities and successes that lay ahead of you.

In the same way that you have learned to lack confidence, you can also learn to have unlimited confidence. And the simplest and quickest way to kick-start the engines of your brain, is to know and accept that confidence can be an acquired process; it can be learned and formatted to suit all moments.

As your confidence increases, you can take a front row seat in mastering many areas of your life. You will find that you become more and more comfortable and confident in multiple areas, including:
•	Moving ahead in your career 
•	Starting your own business
•	Embracing the risks of every day life
•	Refusing to be held back by fear
•	Creating circumstances rather than waiting for them
•	Smiling more and enjoying life 
•	Dramatically improving your health

Successful and dynamic people have gained mastery on how to feel courageous and confident. When you develop and build on your own confidence skills, you, too, will feel and become a different person. You will feel much more enthusiastic, motivated and determined in every aspect of your life.

Once you improve on the way you think and feel about yourself, your beliefs and your actions will follow. You will confidently overcome the challenges that life thrusts upon you and you will manage them with new-found belief and faith in your capability to do so.

As you become more confident you abandon worry, hesitation and, more importantly, you side-step fear. The focus here is on your whole being, every part of you; your thoughts, the images in your mind, your emotions, and ultimately your behaviour and the actual outcomes in your life.

Bear in mind that as you focus on change, change does begin to happen. It is fun, motivating and very rewarding to feel and see yourself growing and improving and becoming more confident and effective day-by-day and week-by-week.

There is great power in believing that you can succeed in your quest for greater confidence. With awareness and consistency, this is attainable. Your confidence can stretch beyond any measurable scale and further still, knowing no boundaries.

Just think of what you can do with all the confidence that you have! Have an amazing day friends...
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Wednesday Wisdom…Super Size Your Life🙃
			


	


				

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Good morning friends...are you looking for ways to get out of that rut we call life??? Here are a couple of ways you can turn your life into a Supersize surprise👇🏾


McDonald’s does it, why shouldn’t you? Life is filled with choices; why not choose to live life in a more satisfying way.


1. Say Yes to Life. “Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact.” -Henry James


Saying yes to life allows wonderful blessings to come to you. Say yes to opportunity and success. Say yes to a life that you live by your standards. Say yes to making your own decisions and not seeking approval of others. Say yes to a fulfilling and rewarding career. Say yes to a relationship that energises, supports and stimulates you. Say yes to a promising future. Say yes to living without guilt, resentment or regrets. Say yes to spending more time on your self improvement. Say yes to living an authentic life. Say yes to taking chances and freeing yourself from fear. Say yes to happiness and achievements. Say yes to a well-lived life.


2. Love Yourself and Others Unconditionally. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude; it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs…..” I Corinthians 13: 3, 5)


When was the last time you loved without hesitation or caution? Withholding love as a means of control only leads to distrust and resentment.


Loving unconditionally means loving without judgment.


Free yourself from unrealistic expectations and accept the person you love for who they are. Do not expect your needs and wants to be fulfilled by someone else. Allow those you love to express themselves without fear of rejection.


Do not punish yourself or loved ones for past mistakes. People use the word love very loosely, but do not stop to think of the implications of using the word. Take the time to be responsible in how you show love.


Allow yourself to love and be loved.


3. Take Risks “There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin


Everything in life involves a risk. Are you allowing fear of rejection and failure to dictate your life? Fear inhibits success. Take chances and free yourself from limiting beliefs. Taking risks empowers you to take charge of your life.


Be curious about life; experiment and try new things. Set goals for yourself and take action. Step out of what is safe, comfortable and familiar to you. Examine what feelings emerge when you are thinking about taking a risk. Ask yourself, “What am I afraid of?”


Concealing yourself in a safe container prevents you from exploring other possibilities. Embrace the unknown and anticipate success. You will never know the outcome if you don’t take the risk.


4. Make the Impossible, Possible “The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”- Winston Churchill


Think it can’t happen; then it won’t.


It is possible to get through the difficult times in life. Learn from failures and take responsibility for your life. Listening to your inner critic can sabotage your dreams.


Silence the critic by reaffirming all the things you are capable of doing. Dream big and be excited about your future. Find and release your untapped talents. Believe in your abilities and discover what you have to offer the world.


Think about all the things you can’t do and try to do them.

Think back to a time, when something was difficult and you were able to overcome the challenge. Continuing to live life in a safe container doesn’t help you gain anything in life. Take the necessary actions to achieve your goals.


Stop assuming and start achieving!


5. Make Your Life Really Count. “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” – Annie Dillard


What’s your legacy?

How do you want to be remembered?


The life you live defines who you are and the choices you make will determine what impact you will have on the lives of others. Never underestimate the power of your words and actions. You were uniquely created to make a contribution to the world.


It is your right and your obligation to make your mark in this world. Surround yourself with people who are supportive, positive and encouraging. Show appreciation and gratitude to those around you. If you have a message to share, then share it with the world. Staying small and thinking small will not get you where you need to be in life. Starting today, have a new perspective on life.


Start a new chapter in your life and don’t worry about what others think, do what mmakes you happy!!!


Have an amazing day,


𝓞𝓵𝓲𝓿𝓲𝓪 𝓑. 𝓢𝓱𝓮𝓹𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓭


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Tip Tuesday…How To Live With Joy😊
			


	


				

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Good morning friends, well it's October but if you live in my neck of the woods it's still 90 degrees😩....I'm so ready for fall, but until then I'm still going live with Joy...😊🍂


Living with joy can sometimes be a challenge.


When things appear to be going against our will, we tend to experience this as pain, suffering, or that we’re having a bad day. Recognizing that we are in control of our feelings, and that we have the choice to live in joy, or in fear is the first step to creating a life full of joy and positivity.


One principle that we all need to acquire is the ability to see all situations, people, and events from a positive perspective. Instead of viewing bad things in life as a prompt to get upset and angry, try to view the “bad things” as lessons that are helping you grow, helping you to become as whole of an individual as possible. Too many times, we think that the outer world, the physical reality is creating our day, causing us to be sad or unhappy; however it is the opposite that is true. We create our day, we create the circumstances for joyous living.


The most important lesson is that “beingness” precedes experience. In order to be happy, we first need to “be happy” inside, and this internal happiness radiates outward through every cell of our bodies and creates the outer experience of a smile, or a laugh, or an intimate connection between two people. It is in this “beingness” that we have the ability to see and to choose our feelings, desires, goals, and dreams, which then enables us to manifest an outer reality based on our true selves.


We create the reality in which we experience joy, anger, love, and fear. Because we have the ability, the free will, to choose our reality, we can make that conscious choice to try to just be happier, more grateful, and more sensitive. This happiness though will never come if you are looking outside of yourself first. Because, what we just learned is that in order to be happy we have to have the internal feeling of happiness to then create that happiness in our daily lives. Remember that your beliefs about reality create your experience of it.


So, start changing your negatives into positives, gain clarity, and open your heart by looking inside yourself. When we start changing ourselves from inside out, the universe will respond to us in ways in which we could never imagine. The ability to start manifesting your goals and dreams is already inside of you. Take the leap to start living in joy today.


Have an amazing day and find some reason to live with joy regardless of your circumstances or where you aren’t in life….


Live with joy my friends,


𝓞𝓵𝓲𝓿𝓲𝓪 𝓑. 𝓢𝓱𝓮𝓹𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓭


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Thursday Thoughts…You Have Choices in Life
			


	


				

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All that you create or do not create in your life- comes from choice.  Embrace and understand the dynamics of this essential ingredient of power.  You suffer when you dis-empower yourself by feeling that you are not in control of your destiny.  Freedom lies in understanding that you choose everything!  Even in "inaction" there is a choice.  In reality there is no true inaction or stagnation.


You can justify your situation by proclaiming, “I have no choice” “I cannot do anything to change my circumstances” “there is nothing I can do” etc. That is a false belief.  You can “choose” to allow the outer world to affect how you see your situation- yet; there is never a situation in which you do not have power and a choice.


With each choice, there is a consequence and an energetic price that must be paid.  So, it is not that you do not have a choice- you are only choosing which energetic price you choose to pay.


If you are currently in a working situation in which you are unhappy, you can make several choices. 👇🏾


You can choose to stay because you are fearful of change, of the economy or whether or not you can find another means of income.  The price you will pay for this choice is continued feelings of boredom, anger, hopelessness, lethargy and depression.  Eventually this feeling will affect other areas of your life.


You can choose to stay- yet, change the energetic of how you see your situation.  The simple act of using an empowering thought form can create a dramatic change in how you see your situation.  “I will stay in this job because it is providing me with an income at this time.  I will keep my eyes open for new opportunities and know that this is a temporary situation and I can choose again at any time”. 


You can choose to leave the job with the understanding that you are a creative being and can manifest a new source of income.  From an outer view, this looks as if it is the most “expensive” choice in terms of energy.  Yet, on another level it is not.  What is required is a profound faith. 


The first of these three examples is actually the most “expensive” for to continue to live under such circumstances will rob you of your life force.  The most gentle of the three is the second option and the most daring and magical is the last.


The same wisdom applies to relationships (both platonic and romantic)❤


You can choose to stay in an unhappy, stagnant or abusive relationship. You can continue to complain about how miserable you are and how you cannot leave the relationship for various reasons.  You can justify and make excuses for your circumstances- yet; all the while you will continue to live in anxiety and pain.  You can choose to continually dream about what else may be out there for you- yet, never giving yourself an opportunity to explore the possibilities.  The price for this choice is an un-calculatable amount.


You can choose to stay in the relationship with the affirmation of “I love this person and I choose to communicate my feelings with them to help bring about the needed changes.  I will focus on the positive qualities and begin to let those be the guiding force.  After a period of time, if I am still unhappy and see that the situation will not change, then I can choose again”. By doing this, you empower yourself by knowing that you are staying because it is YOUR CHOICE- not because you have no other options.


You can choose to leave the relationship and understand that this choice may lead to some pain and loneliness for a short time.  You may feel sadness and loss, yet with that will come an undeniable sense of freedom.  The level of your anxiety, negative thoughts and feelings will diminish, making way for a higher vibration of life affirming energy.  Your affirmation would be “I am choosing to leave this relationship/friendship because it is not contributing to my joy and ultimate happiness. I know it may be painful for a little while- yet, I also know there are billions of people on the planet and numerous opportunities to meet new friends and lovers.”


When you use the words choose or choice in an affirmation, prayer or thought- the ears of the Angels perk up and they listen.  The Universe begins to realign your world to meet that choice.  There is so much magic in the understanding of this wisdom. 😇


The same principle applies to what you view as “missing” in your life.  You want to create a business, prosperity, a new job or a relationship yet you see that nothing is manifesting in your life.  You can CHOOSE how you see your situation.  You can make conscious choices as to how to get to the place you want to be.  Statements like “I will never work for myself, I do not have the means to create my own business.” “I will never find a good job”, “I will never meet my soulmate/twinflame”, “I will always be poor”, “I will never get what I want” – all reinforce the CHOICE to create more of the same. 


Choose creative and life affirming statements and thought forms and watch how your life is transformed.  The Angels stand ready to assist you in your choices to create your desires.


I choose to take steps to immerse myself in the knowledge and learning I need to start my own business.  I choose to put all my energy to creating what I want.


I choose to KNOW that there is a wonderful abundance of potential life partners and friends in the world for me.  I choose to attract individuals who I will enjoy being with. 


I choose to embrace HEALTH and vitality.


I choose to feel good.


I choose to allow prosperity to flow into my life.


I choose to allow my spiritual insight and faith to be my guiding force. Remember the choice is yours, this life is yours…choose wisely my friends!


Have an awesome day…


XoXo


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Wednesday Widsom…Learn how to make Everyday Special😁
			


	


				

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The same sun, the same sky, the same home, and the same routine.☹


Life is boring.


Every day is same.


How to carry on from day to day?🤷🏾‍♀️Why does a week not have seven sundays? Don’t you find yourself saying – ‘I want to enjoy life. I am getting bored with my schedule that never changes. There is no excitement in my life.’ Ask few friends around their life and they will say something similar.


Why is life becoming a bore for them and how to make it exciting?


Can one escape work? No sensible person can? Can a parent stop caring for his/her children? No.🤷🏾‍♀️ Can an executive stop taking decisions? No. Then how to make life exciting? There must be some way. Yes, there is a way and it is very simple. Just look out of your window and watch the sky. Do you observe any clouds? Look at them. Look at the different shapes? Who made them? From where did they arrive and where will they go? Look at some flowers in your home. Observe the symmetry. Touch and feel the softness. How lovely! We are surrounded by treasures, but we have no time to look at them. A child’s smile can make today a different day than any other day. Try to make a child smile and feel the joy.


Look at the night sky. Observe the stars and think about the distances. Some are so far away that it takes light, hundreds of years to reach us. How many millions of years you will take to walk and reach them? What is beyond them? Observe, think and get excited. Life need never be dull for any of us. Take another example. While sitting on your table, have you ever wondered about the wood that was used to make it? Have you thought about the life of the tree? A small seed grew into a gigantic tree.


How exciting. What of the tar on the road? It comes from deep inside the earth, goes to refineries and is laid on the roads.


How deep must the oil well have been? How did they locate the oil and what will happen after we finish all the oil?( I totally often wonder about this)


The world is full of objects that can make us think and wonder. 🤔


It is our attitude that makes our life.


If we adopt a child-like attitude towards things, we will bring joy back in life. 😁


I am not asking you to give up your work and enjoy. But find time during the day to look at things and wonder. Bring joy back in your life.


You can begin right now.


Look at your screen.


What happens to the text after you shut down your computers?


Where do they all go, when you close the browser?


Isn’t life full of excitement?


Live it.Dont just let it go by…. yes some of these suggestions seem weird but you get the picture my dear, life doesn’t have to be boring at all. Hope today you will find excitement in your life and be thankful God has given you this life regardless of the circumstances…


Have an amazing day friends,


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