10 Questions To Ask Yourself on Your Self-Improvent Journey….

10 questions you should ask to yourself: a preparation to self-improvement!!!

Be all you can be, but it’s not always in the Army. I often see myself as somewhat contented with my life the way things are, but of course it’s hard to think of anything else when where are real issues to be discussed.🤔

Still I aspire for something deeper and more meaningful.

So we’re all pelted with problems. Honestly it shouldn’t even bother or even hinder us to becoming all we ought to be. Aspirations as kids should continue to live within us, even though it would be short-lived or as long as we could hold on to the dream. They say you can’t teach an old dog new tricks… or can they?

1. What do I really want?
The question of the ages. So many things you want to do with your life and so little time to even go about during the day.

Find something that you are good at can help realize that small step towards improvement. Diligence is the key to know that it is worth it.

2. Should I really change?
Today’s generation has taken another level of redefining ‘self’, or at least that’s what the kids are saying. Having a teenage niece and nephew has taught me that there are far worse things that they could have had than acne or maybe even promiscuity. So how does that fit into your lifestyle?

If history has taught us one thing, it’s the life that we have gone through. Try to see if partying Seventies style wouldn’t appeal to the younger generation, but dancing is part of partying. Watch them applaud after showing them how to really dance than break their bones in break-dancing.😂

3. What’s the bright side in all of this?
With so much is happening around us there seem to be no room for even considering that light at the end of the tunnel. We can still see it as something positive without undergoing so much scrutiny. And if it’s a train at the end of the tunnel, take it for a ride and see what makes the world go round!

4. Am I comfortable with what I’m doing?
There’s always the easy way and the right way when it comes to deciding what goes with which shoes, or purse, shirt and whatnot. It doesn’t take a genius to see yourself as someone unique, or else we’ll all be equally the same in everything we do. Variety brings in very interesting and exciting questions to be experimented.

5. Have I done enough for myself?
Have you, or is there something more you want to do? Discontentment in every aspect can be dangerous in large doses, but in small amounts you’ll be able to see and do stuff you could never imagine doing.

6. Am I happy at where I am today?
It’s an unfair question so let it be an answer! You love being a good and loving mom or dad to your kids, then take it up a notch! Your kids will love you forever. The same goes with everyday life!

7. Am I appealing to the opposite sex?
So maybe I don’t have an answer to that, but that doesn’t mean I can’t try it, though. Whether you shape-up, change the way you wear your clothes or hair, or even your attitude towards people, you should always remember it will always be for your own benefit.(not that I’m looking, since I’m happily married) lol!💓

8. How much could I have?
I suppose in this case there is no such things on having things too much or too little, but it’s more on how badly you really need it. I’d like to have lots of money, no denying that, but the question is that how much are you willing to work for it?

9. What motivates me?
What motivates you? It’s an answer you have to find out for yourself. There are so many things that can make everyone happy, but to choose one of the may be the hardest part. It’s not like you can’t have one serving of your favorite food in a buffet and that’s it. Just try it piece by piece.

10. What Really Makes You Tick?
So? What really makes you tick? You can be just about anything you always wanted to be, but to realize that attaining something that may seem very difficult is already giving up before you even start that journey. Always remember, that self-improvement is not just about the physical or philosophical change you have to undergo, but it’s something that you really want.

Hope these questions give you something to think about….improving yourself is the best project you will ever work on my dear💋

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Recovery Is Possible….🙌🏾 Wednesday Wisdom

Aww the memories….3 years later and I’m still proud of how I’ve overcome all that was meant to destroy me!!!

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Certified Transformation Coach

”Turning Pain Into Beautiful Possibilities”

2 years ago on this date I received my BA from Columbia College 😃👩🏽‍🎓I was so extremely proud, but so massively depressed! I hid it so well and couldn’t wait to get home and get back into my bed. I wanted to die and nobody understood, all they saw was the beautiful young woman going after her dreams!

Thank you to my friends who pushed and believed in me when I could have cared less. I am forever grateful for all of you!!! As I sit back and look at these pics, I can’t help but thank God, thank God for not giving up on me! He knew I had a purpose on this earth and I intend to use my talents to share my testimony!!! #youcandoit #idid #goafteryourdreams #cof2016 #koala

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Wednesday Wisdom…Can You Say Yes To Happiness…Part 2

Happy Wednesday Friends…. Can you say Yes 👍🏾 to Happiness? I ask this question yesterday, so can you? Here are a couple of more ways to say Yes to your happiness….👇🏾☺️

Listen To Your Feelings: All feelings are good. Every feeling occurs for a reason: it is delivering a message. Sometimes that message is pleasant, other times not. Our tendency is to distract ourselves from unpleasant feelings, often through smoking, drinking or drugs of one kind or another. When you feel bad, avoid distracting yourself, and identify the reason—there is some need not being met.

Give Of Yourself: The more you give, the more you receive. There is probably no scientific study proving this to be so, but unconditional giving is hugely rewarding. It seems that the more of yourself you give, the greater the thrill and uplifting effect on your psyche. Help the needy. Give time if you can. Give anonymously, even if you lose the tax deduction!

Make It Happen: You have the ability to make things happen using your mind. Top sports stars, and business people use it, and so can you. There are many ways of doing this; one of the common methods is to use visualization—getting a picture in your mind of whatever it is that you want to happen. It does not actually have to be a visual picture; it could be a feeling, a smell, a sound, or any combination of the senses. Imagine finding the perfect parking near the entrance as you arrive at the supermarket or mall … the sky is the limit, but persevere! We are not used to utilizing this tool, so it takes practice. 😊

Have an awesome Wednesday 💞

3 Keys To Knowing (And Getting) EXACTLY What You Want – xoNecole

I’ll admit it: I’ve been getting a little annoyed by all of the memes, statuses and reminders that 2020 is right around the corner. Partly because I consider my birthday as my own personal New Year, but also because many times, our Instagram feeds look like a buffet of other peoples’ accomplishments
— Read on www.xonecole.com/keys-to-knowing-exactly-what-you-want/

#mondaymorivation

How do we change our stress levels if they are not helping us to function well during the day or sleep well at night?

How do we change our stress levels if they are not helping us to function well during the day or sleep well at night?

How do we change our stress levels if they are not helping us to function well during the day or sleep well at night?
— Read on damonashworthpsychology.com/2019/07/28/how-do-we-change-our-stress-levels-if-they-are-not-helping-us-to-function-well-during-the-day-or-sleep-well-at-night/

#reblog

Tuesday Tips….You Are Worthy💞

Happy Tuesday friends….

A lot of times individuals feel disgruntled because they don’t feel appreciated by other people. That’s understandable. Naturally we all long to be appreciated by others. But if our happiness hinges on the encouragement of others, we may occasionally find ourselves being needlessly discouraged.

The answer is to encourage yourself! Here are a few ways to do just that.

1️⃣Small pieces of bigger blessings.

While encouraging yourself, it’s great to kickoff with the long-familiar and obvious things like family, friends, your home, and so forth. But once you’ve named those things, try to be more particular.

For example, if you’re grateful for your family, individually list the members of your family and then compose a detailed listing of all of the ways you’re thankful for that particular family member. The same can be true for the other biggies. For example, if you’re thankful for your home (and you ought to be, even if it’s humble!), list the particulars about what you value about your home.🙂

Think through every facet of your home, and individually, list what you’re thankful for. They are things you take for granted, and yet would certainly miss if you didn’t have them! I’ve found it helpful to center on one small aspect of the various big things in my life daily and list utterly everything I can think that will encourage me.

2️⃣List of your gifts.

We frequently center on what we’re not good at, or ways we go wrong or wish were different. But we all have assorted gifts and abilities. Centering on those things can provide a good deal of encouragement. Nothing is too little to list! Or, as in the case above, begin with something big, and then list utterly everything you are able to dream up that comes under that certain category. Generallyspeaking, every talent that you have includes multiple “sub talents.” Be particular!

3️⃣Recall the past.

Occasionally when setbacks happen, like not being able to pay the rent on time, remind yourself of the fact that you’ve always managed to keep a roof over your head in the past, and that somehow things will work out this time also.

As well, when remembering the past, occasionally it’s great fun to think way back, even to childhood, about fun, interesting, and exciting experiences. Frequently this makes me laugh, and it also helps me to see how rich and terrific my life has been – and without doubt, will continue to be.

4️⃣Name your cares.

This might seem like an unusual way to be encouraged, and I’ll acknowledge that initially naming my cares sometimes causes me tension! But, naming my cares is often the first step in coping with the issues impending, and as I deal with them, I’m encouraged.

As well, as I name my cares – particularly if write in my journal about them – I frequently see that they are not as bad and scary as I thought. Frequently, when I journal about my cares or the things I’m baffled about, I find that I’m blowing things out of proportion and that the situation isn’t nearly as bad as I initially believed. That’s encouraging!

Remind yourself of encouragement from other people. Yes, this is about encouraging yourself, but occasionally you are able to do that by remembering past encouragement from other people. Maybe no one has done anything to encourage you this past week or even month, but we’ve all had moments of encouragement from other people in the past.

Have an awesome day and be encouraged friends….

Mindset Monday…💞

#mindsetmonday

A lot of folks battle with the idea of being deserving. They feel that there’s something amiss about them. That’s why they feel they don’t deserve happiness, love, riches, you name it. Here are some things to avoid when trying to change your life and love yourself more. When you’re trying to feel you do deserve all the best.

1️⃣ Stave off equating yourself with other people, particularly if they have more than you of whatever. You’re unique and your situation doesn’t match anybody else’s. See yourself as an individual with your own exceptional range of influence, which you sincerely have.💪🏾

2️⃣ Stave off equating your present life with your life as a youngster. You were fundamentally powerless as a youngster, as is every child. What was then, when you were a youngster, doesn’t manipulate what can be when you’re fully grown.🙌🏾

3️⃣ Stave off damaging thinking. It’s said that individulas have between 50,000 and 60,000 thoughts per day – – most of them damaging. If most of your thoughts are damaging, and they’ll be unless you make a concerted effort to alter them, just think how you’re perpetuating negativity in your life.

Are You Getting All You Deserve?

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Daily Reminder…..

Happy Monday….

With hope you forever have a path towards peace. If we get too stressed out and overwhelmed within our own life, we blank out that hope. We blank out that the sun always shines after a rainy day, and that this is simply a bump in the road.

I find immense peace in just recognizing, deep within my heart, that everything will be all right. With hope, I Understand that whatever is apparently dreadful is only impermanent and that in time, things will be just fine. This takes off all of that negativity from my total being, and I feel better pretty much immediately.

I learned that hope is the sole option. Without hope I have zero. Hope isn’t “wishful thinking” of the “if wishes were horses” assortment. Hope is the most potent force in the universe. Hope is faith—in spirit, nature, science, and mankind.

What matters is having hope in the future—hope that we’ll wake up tomorrow to a better day. Hope is the future—the only future worth having.

Have an amazing hopeful week💞

Morning Affirmations…..

#affirmations

Transform how you feel about yourself

Transform your thoughts

🌼“I deserve everything good that happens in my life. I release the need for suffering and misery.”

🌼“From this day forward, I release the need to prove myself to anyone else.”

🌼“I always get the support I need. The universe is with me at every step I take.”

🌼 “Today, the door opens for many opportunities that universe has in store for me.”

🌼“My mind is full of prosperous, loving, and positive thoughts that manifest themselves in my life experiences.”

🌼“I release the past and live in the present. I get to enjoy every good thing that comes and experience life to the fullest.”

You are what you think you are, so think highly of yourself my dear….💞

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