6 Signs You Are WAY Too Self-Critical – xoNecole

As life would have it, as I’m starting this piece, Kelis’ music video for “Bossy” is playing on the tube. Something that I’ve always liked about Kelis, as an artist, is she’s gonna do whatever she wants to do. We don’t have to get it, so long as she does. If we like it, that’s merely a bonus. Yeah,
โ€” Read on www.xonecole.com/signs-you-are-way-too-self-critical/



Happy Wednesday….Letโ€™s talk about Wellness

Happy Wednesday, what you feed your body and soul impacts your mind.

Feed your body and mind good things…

Yeah I know it’s so hard to start a healthy life style but it’s so damn worth it!

So as you go about your day, stay away from negativity, drama, processed foods, drugs, and alcohol ๐Ÿท if you can.

I promise your body will body will thank you ๐Ÿ˜Š

Heal Your Body…Heal Your Mind

Meet the Baltimore Yogi Helping Black Men ‘Heal’ Through Yoga | PEOPLE.com

Changa Bell founded the Black Male Yoga Initiative in 2015 to teach Black men and boys in the community the importance of holistic health
โ€” Read on people.com/human-interest/changa-bell-black-men-yoga-heal/

Love this story, it’s ok my black brothers to love and take care of yourself ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿฝโ€โ™‚๏ธโค๏ธ

Mental Health Awareness Month Fay 22….๐Ÿ’š


Positive body image is important to establish, especially early on in life, so the psychological stressors of negative body image cannot take their toll.

We either think weโ€™re too fat, too skinny, or weโ€™re just confused all together.

I myself have felt for a long time that I didnโ€™t like my body only because I compared my body to women I saw on social media….yeah right crazy ๐Ÿ˜

Here I was about 3 years ago so upset about my weight but wasnโ€™t doing anything about it. Yes, you think only teenage girls fall victim to feeling this way, but in reality itโ€™s just as common in older women as well.

Being negative about your body can cause you to have low esteem. We have to learn how to be positive about our bodies.

Being positive about the way you look is great, but just not enough; learning to be positive about your appearance, health and well-being is what should define body positivity.

Take care of your body from the inside then out, having a different body wonโ€™t change your mindset. Having a better body wonโ€™t change whatโ€™s aching in your heart.

So have you looked in the mirror lately?

What do you see? How do you feel about your body?

Donโ€™t let your mental health fool you into thinking that you have to look like what society says you do.

Remember God created you the way you are, so take care of your body by watching what you put into it!

It is critical to love yourself at every stage in life and establish this before any type of transformation occurs.

“My body is perfect the way that it is and I honor it in this state.”

โ€œI am comfortable in my own skinโ€

You are beautifully and wonderfully made my dear๐Ÿ’‹

๐“›๐“ช๐“ญ๐”‚ โ€˜๐“žโ€™๐Ÿ’š

Wellness Wednesday…practicing Self-Care ๐Ÿ’“






Physical Release

Healthy Foods



Stress Management



Emotional Maturity




Positive Social Media

Support Systems


Ask For Help

Spend Time Together


Time Alone

Meditation ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ




Sacred Space

PERSONAL: โ˜•๏ธ


Knowing Yourself

Personal Identity

Honoring Your True Self


Healthy Environment

Security and Stability

Organized Space




Money Management


Paying Bills

WORK: ๐Ÿ–ฅ

Time Management

Work Boundaries

Positive Work Environment

More Learning

Break Time

In each areas listed here are somethings you can do to create better self-care in your life! Take a moment and just go through the list and write out what you can do better…ex. Work Boundaries, you could write: donโ€™t hang out with Susan at lunch because sheโ€™s a Debbie downer and sucks up my energy! You get it????

You can practice self-care in all aspects of your life, not only will this improve your life but your mental wellbeing as well!!!๐Ÿ˜Š

๐“›๐“ช๐“ญ๐”‚ โ€˜๐“žโ€™๐Ÿ’“

โ€œSelf-care is a divine responsibility & I accept this responsibility with joyโ€

Mental Health Awareness Month ๐Ÿ’š


We are sometimes our own worst critics, we see ourselves as hopeless, less than, not worthy….but God sees us as beautiful human beings regardless of our flaws! We make things harder on ourselves which is super ridiculous, so how can you turn this around? How can you feel better about yourself, your life, your health? Let me know and how can you encourage others? ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

๐“›๐“ช๐“ญ๐”‚ โ€˜๐“žโ€™

Letโ€™s Practice Mindfulness



๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธBreath in and out, Feel the flow of your breath

๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธForgive yourself for every negative thought

๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธBe Grateful, Say thank you to nature, people and your health

๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธEmpty your mind, take a few minutes to be still

๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธGo easy on yourself, you will start to see the progress

Mindfulness: a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.

Mindfulness can be achieved wherever you are, give it a try when you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed!๐Ÿ’š

๐“›๐“ช๐“ญ๐”‚ โ€˜๐“žโ€™

Wellness Wednesday…๐Ÿ’š



๐Ÿ’šTake Off The Mask ๐Ÿ‘บ

Stop hiding and pretending to be ok if you’re not! You are only hurting yourself, take the mask off.

๐Ÿ’šDecide What Matters and What Doesn’t

Please stop giving energy to people or things that drain your energy throughout the day, you are not a cell phone that can be charged instantly. Stress is a hell of a thing to get rid of, so don’t even bother

๐Ÿ’šPractice Patience

Now, this is a hard one but comes in handy when you feel like hitting a co-worker, fighting with your kids/ spouse, or even at a red light! Breath in and out…count 1,2,3! This melts the stress away just for a bit, gives you time to rethink going to jail๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿพ

๐Ÿ’šLet Go Of The Thoughts That Are Not Serving You

Everything that comes into your head doesnโ€™t need to be thought about! Let it go and focus on positivity, yes itโ€™s hard but try your best. This also soothes the stress in the moment and keeps you from getting all worked up over some stupid thought!

๐Ÿ’šStop Taking Things So Personally

Everything isn’t about you all the time, let others express their thoughts without you going into some rage like your being picked on. This causes your heart to race and you are probably overthinking the situation period…calm down sis!!!๐Ÿ–๐Ÿพ

๐Ÿ’šEmbrace Self Discipline

Ok chick, this is where self-talk comes in! Blowing off the handle at every little thing doesnโ€™t help you or the situation. Your voice will raise along with your blood pressure, which causes stress and strokes. Youโ€™re too beautiful to look and sound ugly…positive self-talk goes a long way suga๐Ÿ˜Š

Need a little more help?

Feeling Like You Canโ€™t Go It Alone?

Letโ€™s Chat:


๐“›๐“ช๐“ญ๐”‚ โ€˜๐“žโ€™

{Life Empowerment Mentor}

โ€œEmpowering Recovery One Life at a Timeโ€

10 Healthy Habits To Transform Your Life…๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿพ


1. Complete this sentence to start your day.

โ€œI love myself because I ___________.โ€

2. Do housework as much as you can. (Yes a clean house soothes the mind)

3. Have an evening walk with your family.

4. Park your vehicle farther away from the destination. Walking more means burning more!

5. Spend time in Garden and Yard Work.

(I promise this is relaxing and soothes the mind as well)

6. Take the stairs instead of elevators.

7. Your brain also needs exercise. Play some brain games

8. Start journaling.

9. Join classes like dance, tennis, yoga, aerobics, scuba diving or anything you love.

10. Take a break to yourself whenever you stressed out.

A lot of these I have personally done, except for number 9๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ…think I might have to try some yoga ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ

Wishing You Well,

๐“›๐“ช๐“ญ๐”‚ โ€˜๐“žโ€™๐Ÿ’“

Wellness Wednesday…tips for better sleep ๐Ÿ’ค


Many of us are having difficulties falling asleep at night. Instead of sleeping and dreaming they roll around in their beds trying to fall asleep. The result usually is people not rested enough in the morning and tired all day. This results in stress and less performance on the job or at home. Here are a list of 6 powerful tips that have helped me to achieve better sleep.

๐Ÿ›ŒRoom temperature: Keeping the temperature in your bedroom at 70 degrees Fahrenheit or below is recommended. Too often an overheated bedroom is causing sleep problems. Scientific studies show that the body can better relax with temperatures at 70 degrees or slightly below.

๐Ÿ›ŒReduce caffeine. A recent study showed that caffeine is not metabolized efficiently and fast enough at night. The effects of caffeine last much longer than most people expect. The result is difficulty falling asleep. Studies have shown better sleeping patterns if no more caffeine is consumed after 6.00 PM.

๐Ÿ›ŒAvoid alcohol. Alcohol will keeps the body from reaching the deeper stages of sleep, where the body does most of its healing and resting. The result of drinking can be a very light sleep or difficulty falling asleep in general. (Learned this the hard way)๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ

๐Ÿ›ŒBeds are for sleeping. If you are used to watch TV in bed or even work while being in bed, you may find it much harder to relax and to fall asleep. Remove the TV and do not work in bed. Sleep requires your brain to slowly shutdown and any distraction will cause sleeping problems.

๐Ÿ›ŒGo to bed at around the same time every day. Don’t change your bedtime back and forth. Having a certain schedule developed it will be easier to fall asleep pretty much at the same time every day. A recurring schedule will help your body to get into a sleep pattern and make it easier to fall asleep.

๐Ÿ›ŒRemove the alarm clock from your view. Starring at the time will only create the feeling that you have to sleep, but you are not. These worries will make things even worse. Losing the feeling for time by not seeing the actual and how long you have been awake has shown to improve healthy sleep.

Hope some these help you…..

๐“›๐“ช๐“ญ๐”‚ โ€˜๐“žโ€™

{Life Empowerment Mentor}