Tuesday Tips…Tend To Your Own Happiness 😃

Happy Tuesday Friends….

Many of us wish for more happiness.

We want to lead happier, more fulfilling, lives, but the sad truth is that so many of us that wish for more happiness spend much more time tending the happiness of others than we do tending to our own happiness.

Happiness does not simply happen. A person does not suddenly stumble across happiness. Happiness is the result of careful tending and a person who wishes to be happy must tend to their own happiness.

Tending to your happiness does not need to be difficult, complex, or time-consuming. It can be as simple as this four-step formula:

1. Trash your unhappy thoughts and trends

2. Envision yourself happy

3. Needs fulfilled

4. Desires fulfilled

Making yourself a happier person really can be that simple.

Step one is an important one because unhappiness is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Many people are unhappy because they don’t believe they deserve to be happy and they lock themselves into patterns of behavior that make them unhappy.

You must trash your unhappy thoughts and trends.

Look inside yourself and find out what (and when) you think about things that make you unhappy. Is there a specific time of day that you tend to be more unhappy? Is there a specific task or routine that seems to feed your unhappiness? Is there something that you do or think that contributes to your own unhappiness?

Once you identify the areas of your life that cause you unhappiness you can find ways to confront it and combat it. Sometimes you can make a change to avoid the trouble spot altogether, but when that’s not possible find ways to make it less difficult on yourself. Adjust your schedule or your expectations if that will make things better. Recruit help when you can. Just easing off one task or freeing up a few hours can make a huge difference in your attitude. When all else fails and you can’t change or share something unpleasant than don’t hesitate to give yourself a reward for accomplishing it. Knowing you will be rewarded can sometimes make difficult tasks more palatable.

Step two is key. Some people have been unhappy for so long they have forgotten what happiness looks like and feels like. Envisioning yourself happy can help create the happiness habit. Thinking about your own happiness will also help counterbalance times when you are unhappy or working through unpleasant tasks. Think about difficult times as simply stepping stones to happy times.

Step three cannot be overlooked. If your basic needs for food and sleep are not met then you will not be able to focus on happiness. Obviously it is not impossible for hungry, sleep-deprived people to be happy, but most humans are a lot less likely to be happy in that state. Food and sleep provide fuel for both body and mind and the healthier your body and mind then the better chance you have to achieve happiness.

Step four is the final step to achieving happiness. What do you desire? What do you wish for? What do you dream about? Allow yourself to dream big but don’t overlook small wishes and desires. While a two-week cruise might be great just having a weekend at a local resort might really give the rest, relaxation and escape you might need. Or perhaps you’d really like to lose 30 or 50 pounds but finding a way to work in some exercise a few times a week might give you more immediate gratification while eventually accomplishing your long-term goal.

Make a list of your desires, wishes, and dreams — big and small — and keep that list some place handy.

What can you do this week to achieve a small goal?

What can you do this month to take a step toward a big goal?

Sometimes you don’t even need to accomplish your goals to achieve happiness. Sometimes it is simply enough to know that you are working toward your dreams. Often happiness is found on the path to our dreams. Often happiness is created while we strive to make our wishes come true.

You can make yourself a happier person but you must tend to your happiness. 😊

So often we spend more time tending to our outer possessions than we do tending to our inner ones. You can make a few changes to your life to find a better balance and that will help create more personal happiness for you.

Have an amazing Tuesday and remember to tend to your own happiness….

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Monday Motivation Video….

#mondaymotivation

Do you suffer from bad habits that you resort to when trying to cope with your mental health?

Habits can feel like they’re set in stone, but that’s not the case. With a little time and effort, you can break bad habits and develop new ones!

”Don’t Let Your Bad Habits Get The Best Of You”

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Friday Feeling….Recovery is Possible💞

#fridayfeeling

#longpost

This was me 2 years ago being seen for a anxiety attack a little before I decided I wanted to end it all, the second picture is from last week when I was celebrating life and being an America 🇺🇸

I keep posting this pic as a reminder to myself and to you all that in due time all things will get better soon. Yes you don’t see it now and Yes it seems like God doesn’t here you, but I promise He does!

Here I am a suicide survivor turning my ”pain into beautiful 🦋 possibilities “ using the second chance God has given me to heal others and share why life is worth living!

~I know you’re bills are overdue

~You’re relationships are on the rocks

~You’re children are acting out

~ You can’t seem to shake one sickness after another

~ You lost your job, hope, will, and motivation.

Yes girl….I was here as well and believe it or not ending my life wouldn’t have solve a thing. Just think 💭

What if you hold on another day, week, hour, or just one more minute!

What if everything you wanted was right around the corner.

What if all you hoped and prayed for came rushing through that front door 🚪 if you just hold on!

Now you are probably wondering why I’m telling you all this…Girl I tell you this, because I was you!😌

I also tell you this because I’m Alive and well, living a life full of everything I have been praying for!

Nope, everything isn’t perfect but I have transformed my thinking and the way I see life! Everything that happens to us is for us…..

For example, losing your job might mean God has a better one in store, but you wouldn’t move so He had to help you out….remember all your complaining!

Losing that special someone, 🤷‍♀️🏽 hell maybe God was showing you the signs all along but you couldn’t or should I say wouldn’t let go!

You have the perfect business, but you haven’t gotten one client….well I started my first biz with only one client and if I would have given up I wouldn’t be 20 years in and retiring!🙌🏾

So I’m telling you girl hang in there, cause I’m a living witness that things get better!🙌🏾💞

~If you need help setting up a path forward, let’s chat 📲

~Do you need help 🆘 staying on track, lets chat

~Feeling unmotivated, lost hope, and need a swift kick in the butt? Let’s chat

~Need help changing your mindset

Schedule a free call, Zoom, or text with me:

https://calendly.com/ashestobeauty

𝓞𝓵𝓲𝓿𝓲𝓪 𝓑. 𝓢𝓱𝓮𝓹𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓭

{Life Empowerment Mentor&

Transformation Coach}

”Turning Pain Into Beautiful Possibilities”

Wellness Wednesday…Controlling your anxiety!

#wellnesswednesday

Anxiety disorders are the most common mental condition in the United States, affecting approximately forty million of the adult population aged eighteen and above. Sadly, in fear of being ridiculed, people rarely seek professional help. This is one of the biggest reason why a lot of people suffer from anxiety disorders even if it is one of the most manageable mental conditions.

Thanks to the advancement in medical science and research, different forms of interventions and treatment have been developed to help people in overcoming anxiety and panic attacks. Here are some of the commonly used treatments:

◾️Medications. Although medications are not a sure fire cure for your anxiety disorders, it is an effective means o relieving symptoms of anxiety attacks. A wide variety of medications are currently being used to treat anxiety disorders, these include the traditional anti-anxiety drugs, anti-depressants, and beta-blockers. The only down side to this form of treatment is that the medications are habit forming, so it is best to follow the doctor’s specified dosing amount and duration to prevent this from happening.

◾️Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). This treatment focuses on correcting maladaptive thought patterns and behaviors. This treatment helps sufferers pinpoint their irrational thoughts and beliefs that are holding them back from functioning normally through their fears. This treatment also challenges sufferers to break free from those negative thoughts. CBT also deals with exposing sufferers to the object of their fears in a safe and controlled environment. CBT aims to help patients learn how to deal with stressful situations in able for them to start overcoming anxiety.

◾️Natural and herbal treatments. There are herbal remedies available in the market that have been said to treat anxiety. However, the safety and efficacy of using such products have not been well-observed, It is also important to keep in mind that these herbal medications may conflict with any existing medication you may be taking for your anxiety.

◾️Relaxation techniques. These relaxation techniques include: progressive muscle relaxation, controlled breathing, and guided imagery. These techniques are aimed to reducing and resolving physical stress that may be contributing to the anxiety attack.

◾️Hypnotherapy. This form of therapy is conducted by a licensed clinical hypnotherapist by using different therapeutic techniques while you are in a state of deep relaxation.

A healthy and balanced lifestyle helps a lot in controlling and reducing anxiety attacks. Here are some ways to keep anxiety at bay:

🔺Exercise regularly. Exercise is an effective treatment for anxiety as it promotes endorphin production in the body which serves as a natural relaxant. Engaging in yoga or aerobic exercises may also be particularly calming.

🔺Get adequate sleep. A lack of sleep may aggravate anxiety.

🔺Keep a healthy diet. A healthy and well-balanced diet may help in the battle against anxiety and stress.

🔺Meditate. Common types of meditation techniques used to reduce anxiety are: mindfulness, walking meditation, and transcendental meditation. This helps the mind relax and achieve a state of calm.

🔺Avoid alcohol and drugs. Substances won’t help relieve you of your anxieties. These may only make the problems worse, and may even affect your body.

🔺Eliminate caffeine in your diet. Caffeine is a form of stimulant which may stimulate anxiety or panic attacks and may also cause insomnia. It is best to steer clear of such substances to prevent triggering panic attacks.

🔺Cultivate a support system. Spending time with people who support and love you may help relax you and make you feel good. It makes you less vulnerable to anxiety knowing that you’re in the company of people who genuinely care for you.

Overcoming anxiety may not be an easy battle to face. But it is comforting to know that you have a lot of options available to help battle this condition. With a little professional help, emotional support, and the will power to defeat the monster within, you’ll soon be able to live free from anxiety.

Hope these tips help you get a handle of you anxiety….💞

Sunday Inspiration…💞

#sundayinspiration

When you amply understand that you’ve little control of the outside world, you then have 2 choices: you are able to choose to see yourself as a “poor-me” victim at the mercy of conditions or you are able to choose to develop the trust that, regardless what happens in your life or in the world, you’ll have the inner strength to produce something good from it all. Hopefully, you’ll choose the latter! You got this….💪🏾💖

𝓛𝓪𝓭𝔂 ‘𝓞’

”Empowering One Life at a Time”

Sunday/Daily Reminder

#sundayinspiration

#letgo

You really ought to let go of your picture of how you want it all to be. It means letting go of attempting to control things over which you’ve no control. Among the prime causes of our suffering is our wishing for matters to be different than they are. Yes, we all want a peaceful existence rather than a world filled with arms of mass destruction. Yes, we all wish for health rather than illness. Yes, we all wish for healthy, happy youngsters rather than youngsters who break our hearts. But occasionally life doesn’t hand us what we wish. And when we let go of our needing it all to be a particular way, we may breathe a sigh of relief and open the door to a more potent way of living.

𝓛𝓪𝓭𝔂 ‘𝓞’

Transformation Tuesday

#transformationtuesday

Feeling stuck? Stagnant? Like you’re not making any progress? You have hopes, dreams, aspirations and goals but you seem to be running fast without moving anywhere.

Getting unstuck requires an internal shift. It begins with self-awareness and the desire to change, followed by clarity and action.

Follow these quick steps Now: 👇🏾

LET GO GIRL:

Let go of the past, your fears, your expectations and everything you “should be doing”. Are you living with so much fear of what’s going to happen, that you’re feeling paralyzed? 🤷🏽‍♀️If the answer is ‘Yes’ then you need to let it go now!!

UNCOVER YOUR PASSIONS AND PURPOSE:

Your life purpose is not your job, goals, vision or responsibility – it’s what makes you feel alive. It’s what you’d be willing to fight for, it’s what lights you up when you hear people talking about it or what makes you feel envious when you see others living it. What sets your soul on fire 🔥 my dear??

TRANSFORM YOUR MINDSET, YOU TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE:

The most important piece of getting unstuck is believing in yourself. You have got to believe in yourself when everyone around you doesn’t.

You have a unique set of gifts that you were born to share with the world, and a purpose that is 100% unique to you. If you don’t believe in yourself, that all goes away. 🤷🏽‍♀️ So you have no time to be wasting….

It takes massive amounts of courage to get unstuck and to do something different than before. Guess what??? You Got This

Need some guidance on this journey, let’s 💭 chat:

https://calendly.com/ashestobeauty

𝓞𝓵𝓲𝓿𝓲𝓪 𝓑. 𝓢𝓱𝓮𝓹𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓭

”Empowering Recovery One Life at a Time”

Create the life you want with these quick tips……

#fridayinspiration

Feeling stuck and can’t seem to pull it together? Try these quick tips to manifest the life you want:

▪️Change Your Attitude:

This is hard for me too as I can get very upset and weary when my life isn’t going as plan, but you have to constantly look on the bright side and remember every small step is a Giant step toward your goals and you will get there.

▪️Set Up Your Day:

Try to start the day with prayer, meditation, or just some quiet time alone with your thoughts. This helps the

whole day flow smoother and in doing so you set yourself up for amazing things to come into your experience. I pray every morning to safe guard my thoughts and it usually works.

▪️ Keep Your Ideas 💡 To Yourself:

This may seem crazy 😜 since as soon an idea pops into your brain you’re ready to spread the word…but stop 🛑 . When you have a new idea, the energy around it is sacred to you. And when we share that energy before it’s ready, we risk losing it. You start sharing it and suddenly all the bad, negative energy vampires 🧛‍♀️ suck the life out you and your little idea😫

▪️You Must Take Action Now: don’t wait until you think you’re ready…if you have the vision, just start. Start the book, start the business, start whatever it is you’ve been dreaming about. Don’t put it off someone is waiting on your talents 👏🏾

▪️Own Your Greatness: say YES to your value, to serve, to receive money, to gaining clients! You deserve this and it’s your time to Shine 🌟 Say YES to good things coming to you.

There you have it, go out and get the life you been dreaming of😉

𝓛𝓪𝓭𝔂 ‘𝓞’

”Empowering Recovery One Life at a Time”

Wednesday Wisdom

#wellnesswednesday

5 ways to Invest in Yourself:

•Know your limits and respect them

No one can take advantage of you if you don’t let them.

•Make money on the side. A side hustle can make you extra money on the side of your day job. And maybe even one day you can quit to work for yourself!😃

•Find a Buisness/Life coach

Your path to investing in yourself doesn’t have to be a solo trip. Find yourself a business/life coach or mentor who can guide you when you get discouraged or feel lost. (i.e. Me😉)

•Give yourself a break

You already know the importance of self-care but how often do you actually make time for this in your daily life?

•Read books and blogs, Books give you the power to learn new things and bust through career slumps or life!

𝔒𝔩𝔦𝔳𝔦𝔞

”Empowering Recovery One Life at a Time”

Need help on your journey:

https://calendly.com/ashestobeauty