5 Steps for Building Self-Confidence in the New Year 🎊 #mondaymotivation

Happy New Week; here’s a little Monday motivation to get your week started…
Self-confidence is an all-important trait you need to acquire in today’s fast-paced world. For one thing, you must have confidence in yourself first to earn the confidence and respect of others. The following strategies may be useful to overcome such self-conquering thought habits. Consider these steps as the building blocks for greater confidence in any aspect of your life. 💪🏾

1️⃣ Concentrate on your strengths rather than on your weaknesses.

Confidence comes from within. You have to concentrate on the positive things about yourself. Remember the past is over; you can only change the future. Write down ten positive things about yourself. Concentrate on your potentials. These are the reasons you should love yourself and have high self-confidence in yourself. Give yourself credit for every positive thing you have written about yourself. Remember, you’re somebody special. 💖

2️⃣ Remind yourself of past successes.

Confidence builds on past success. Because you had success before, you can (and will) have it once more. We strengthen our confidence in any interest when we remind or review ourselves of past successes. If you are trying to develop confidence in a new aspect, past success can still be useful in strengthening our confidence. For instance, if you had success in doing something new in the past, recall those experiences when trying something else new even if it is in a completely different part of your life.

3️⃣ Take risks.

Try doing things that you’ve never tried before. It’s always a little bit of a challenge in doing new things and just the act of accepting these challenges, some little and some big, whether we are successful or not, frequently improves our self-confidence. Approach new experiences as opportunities to learn instead of occasions to win or lose. Doing so brings you new opportunities and can improve your sense of self-acceptance. Not doing so turns every possibility into an opportunity for failure, and inhibits self-growth.

4️⃣ Use self-talk.

Use self-talk as an opportunity to contradict destructive beliefs. Then, remind yourself to stop and replace more realistic assumptions. For example, if you catch yourself expecting perfection, tell yourself that you can’t do everything perfectly, that it’s only possible to try to do things and to try to do them well. This also allows you to accept yourself while still working to improve.

5️⃣ Visualize your future success.

Corporate executives, Olympic athletes, and successful people in all types of undertakings see future success. Confidence will increase when we visualize ourselves succeeding. Think about it. If you know you will succeed, your confidence will soar, right? Seeing future success does that very thing for us. Our minds cannot distinguish the difference between something real and something vividly imagined. So vividly visualize your success. What will it look like, smell like, taste like, and feel like to have succeeded? Who will be with you, what will you be hearing and where will you be? How will you be feeling at that instant? Placing this much vivid detail into your mind increases the likelihood of success, and supports greater confidence! Apply these steps in your daily life and your confidence will soar in the New Year 🎊

Have amazing week….🌟

𝓞𝓵𝓲𝓿𝓲𝓪 𝓑. 𝓢𝓱𝓮𝓹𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓭

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Feeling Stuck About the New Year?


We are in Day 2 of the New Year, and you are officially back into your normal routine, you sit and start to think now what?

Here are 5 questions to ask yourself if you are feeling a bit stuck about how to start this year off right?👇🏾

💫 What Challenge Did I Overcome Last Year?

Think about all the things or just one thing you have overcome and try adding to this list in 2019! No matter big or small, overcoming any challenge should be celebrated 🙌🏾

💫 Who Did I Surround Myself With?

Y’all know how I feel about this question, if they didn’t add value to your life last year, toss their butts this year🤷🏽‍♀️☺️

💫 How Did I Spend Your Time?

Now if you spent your time in the wrong relationships, worrying about others business, going places that aren’t good for you, or wasting time with the wrong folks….I’m going to need you to do better this year. All that time you wasted😒

💫 What new thing can I try this year?

Life is a journey of discovery. We need to keep trying new things every day, no matter our age. Just Do It! 👌🏾

💫 How can I become a better _____________ this year?

It’s time to let go of what kept you from being your best self and start believing that you are victorious and worthy of being better!

Repeat after Me: “I will embrace all the New Year has to offer me”



𝓐𝓼𝓱𝓮𝓼𝓣𝓸𝓑𝓮𝓪𝓾𝓽𝔂 𝓜𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓸𝓻𝓲𝓷𝓰

Happy New Years Eve and Happy Anniversay to Me!

2017 is officially coming to a end, as I celebrate my 13th wedding anniversary. We have seen many ups and downs in our marriage. Times when I just thought it wasn’t worth fighting another year, but here we stand 13 years strong. I must admit every sense I started getting myself on track I was able to understand him more. He still doesn’t understand the mental illness, but he does understand that I need my space when I’m having an episode. He not only provides for me, he also tries to go out his way to make life happy. So to those of you who are fighting to save your marriage, and believe it’s over after the first year….take it from me, look in the mirror and see if you can do better. Tonight I have been invited to many places, but have to admit my son is on my mind real heavy. I believe he will be ok, and that he will get through this strong. I just worry about his mindset and how much he will miss his son. I’m going to do my best to keep his spirits up, and step in to help Gen (mom) with my grand baby, I still can’t fathom him his life going this way. So everybody I’m wishing you all a Happy New Year and many blessings. For those of us who suffered so much, may God give us double for our trouble. Chat soon….

Ms. Fran


A Year In Review…..

Well this is the last Thursday of 2017 and by this time next week my son will officially will be in prison for 2 days, but I’m not going to let that get me down. I have come to far to go back down that dark hole. WOW….I have come such a long way this year, and I really want to step into 2018 with my mind focused and ready to take back my life. This year and previous years before were pure hell, the constant disappointments, the crying, the late nights with anxiety attacks, and oh the constant thoughts of suicide. For about four years I was in such a damn funk, I didn’t ever see me getting better at all. My marriage was in trouble, I was flat broke, and could barely get out the damn bed. I didn’t want to live anymore…hell for what nothing was going my way and I couldn’t figure out why God was making me suffer for so long. Hell, I took my dad in, made sure he was good and neglected my own health for him. The man who raped me….I’m now his caregiver for as long as he is living. I’m no longer mad about that, just didn’t understand why none of my blessings were chasing me down like so many people said they would. Did God forget about me? Why did I have to go through so much hell, pain, and suffering? Life just wasn’t worth living anymore, I drank uncontrollably just to medicate the pain. I drove drunk more times than I would like to admit, I was out of control and didn’t give a damn anymore. My whole entire life just started flashing before my eyes during my drunken nights. Hoping I drank just enough to forget about everything, everyone, and most of all me. I had considered myself a failure, yes I earned two degrees, landed a couple of teaching gigs, but I just couldn’t cope. Why should I be happy, no one around me was happy, no one cared what I did, they just looked at me as some drunken mess. Feeling guilty, worthless, hopeless, were the only feelings I could feel. I had friends who were brave enough to keep the pills out of my hand, and comfort me when I needed it the most. Then the day came, it was time to end it all. I drank and drove myself to the gravesite where granny is, I needed to talk to her, I needed to know that she was ready to see me. I needed to know that I was making the right decision about ending it all. But God……my granny was my angel, I checked myself into the hospital that night. I was saved by my granny, and I will be forever grateful to her in heaven. Checking myself into the hospital was the best thing I ever did! I got on the right meds, I’m now seeing a therapist and I have been feeling better everyday. Then all that came crashing down when my son decided to get himself into some damn trouble. Are you kidding me????? This can’t be happening, my sweet baby boy was now a convicted criminal. My heart is crushed, the life I planned for him was over and there was no helping him out of this.  Why oh Why? But thanks to my meds and the much-needed therapy I think I can accept this situation for what it is. I am now the mother of a convicted felon, and guess what?…it doesn’t make me a bad mother. I raised him right and he decided to make a bad decision, although he was 19 at the time I won’t make too many excuses for him. So as I look back over this year, I’m happy for all the hell I went through. I now know that I can freaking handle things, I now know that my life isn’t over if something bad happens. I’m studying mindfulness, patients, and learning how to cope without drinking. Life is getting better, and I’m going to get stronger. I’m going to walk into 2018 killing shit…I’m tired of being sad and life is to freaking short. I want to be able to share my story with the world, I want people to know that it is a rainbow at the end of that damn dark cloud. So cheers to a New Year….chat with ya soon!

Ms. Fran