10 Questions To Ask Yourself on Your Self-Improvent Journey….

10 questions you should ask to yourself: a preparation to self-improvement!!!

Be all you can be, but it’s not always in the Army. I often see myself as somewhat contented with my life the way things are, but of course it’s hard to think of anything else when where are real issues to be discussed.🤔

Still I aspire for something deeper and more meaningful.

So we’re all pelted with problems. Honestly it shouldn’t even bother or even hinder us to becoming all we ought to be. Aspirations as kids should continue to live within us, even though it would be short-lived or as long as we could hold on to the dream. They say you can’t teach an old dog new tricks… or can they?

1. What do I really want?
The question of the ages. So many things you want to do with your life and so little time to even go about during the day.

Find something that you are good at can help realize that small step towards improvement. Diligence is the key to know that it is worth it.

2. Should I really change?
Today’s generation has taken another level of redefining ‘self’, or at least that’s what the kids are saying. Having a teenage niece and nephew has taught me that there are far worse things that they could have had than acne or maybe even promiscuity. So how does that fit into your lifestyle?

If history has taught us one thing, it’s the life that we have gone through. Try to see if partying Seventies style wouldn’t appeal to the younger generation, but dancing is part of partying. Watch them applaud after showing them how to really dance than break their bones in break-dancing.😂

3. What’s the bright side in all of this?
With so much is happening around us there seem to be no room for even considering that light at the end of the tunnel. We can still see it as something positive without undergoing so much scrutiny. And if it’s a train at the end of the tunnel, take it for a ride and see what makes the world go round!

4. Am I comfortable with what I’m doing?
There’s always the easy way and the right way when it comes to deciding what goes with which shoes, or purse, shirt and whatnot. It doesn’t take a genius to see yourself as someone unique, or else we’ll all be equally the same in everything we do. Variety brings in very interesting and exciting questions to be experimented.

5. Have I done enough for myself?
Have you, or is there something more you want to do? Discontentment in every aspect can be dangerous in large doses, but in small amounts you’ll be able to see and do stuff you could never imagine doing.

6. Am I happy at where I am today?
It’s an unfair question so let it be an answer! You love being a good and loving mom or dad to your kids, then take it up a notch! Your kids will love you forever. The same goes with everyday life!

7. Am I appealing to the opposite sex?
So maybe I don’t have an answer to that, but that doesn’t mean I can’t try it, though. Whether you shape-up, change the way you wear your clothes or hair, or even your attitude towards people, you should always remember it will always be for your own benefit.(not that I’m looking, since I’m happily married) lol!💓

8. How much could I have?
I suppose in this case there is no such things on having things too much or too little, but it’s more on how badly you really need it. I’d like to have lots of money, no denying that, but the question is that how much are you willing to work for it?

9. What motivates me?
What motivates you? It’s an answer you have to find out for yourself. There are so many things that can make everyone happy, but to choose one of the may be the hardest part. It’s not like you can’t have one serving of your favorite food in a buffet and that’s it. Just try it piece by piece.

10. What Really Makes You Tick?
So? What really makes you tick? You can be just about anything you always wanted to be, but to realize that attaining something that may seem very difficult is already giving up before you even start that journey. Always remember, that self-improvement is not just about the physical or philosophical change you have to undergo, but it’s something that you really want.

Hope these questions give you something to think about….improving yourself is the best project you will ever work on my dear💋

𝓛𝓪𝓭𝔂 ‘𝓞’


From Brokeness to Wholeness

As I’ve told you all, I have join this new mentoring group Diamonds and Pearls. I’ve been learning so much and thought I’d share some more of our discussions: 

From Brokeness to Wholeness

Our life is full of brokeness- broken relationships, broken promises, broken expectations. How can we live with that without becoming bitter and resentful except by returning again and again to God’s faithful presence in our lives. – Henri Nouwen

Wholeness does not mean perfection: it means embracing brokeness as an integral part of life. -Parker J. Palmer

Discussion Questions

  1. What does brokeness mean to you?
  2. Share what your brokeness looks and feels like.
  3. Brokeness is a place where you need to be to start over; to be filled; to decrease; to be mended

This discussion was so great and once I again I found out so much about myself. It also felt good to be able to share how you feel in a judgement free zone. So take down these questions and try writing them down in a journey and come back to them later. Chat soon…

Ms. Fran😊

Tuesday was much Better….

Happy Halloween again! I’m super happy this day is coming to an end, I hate to be such a grouch, but them kids drive me crazy. After all the recent break ins around here, opening my door to some kid in a mask today freaks me the hell out! Sorry…so I didn’t pass out any candy, guess that does make me the ‘mean old lady’ in the neighborhood.lol!!! Well yesterday was a hell of a day, but my Tuesday turned out great. I got up this morning with no problems, and went on about my day without any hesitation. Tonight was my Diamonds and Pearls meeting, don’t know if I mentioned that I had join this mentoring group a couple of weeks ago. It’s a mentoring program with a group of ladies who share personal life stories, each of these ladies like me, all have some type of baggage in our lives that we carry around. So I have been attending this group along with my therapy sessions, and my coping skills class. Needless to say, I have been learning so much about myself and learning how to cope with my depression better. These groups are judgement free and I can just be myself. So tonight we are getting ready for our fashion show, it’s so nice to see all the ladies looking forward to being pretty and building each other’s confidence up. I’m super excited about it and can’t wait to get all fabulous. Tonight we also were doing some organizing of our folders, and as I was looking through mines, I found all the topics they were discussing before I came on board. So I’ll leave you all with a couple of quotes, and a quick look into some of our disscussions….gd night and enjoy!!!

“I’ve come to believe that each of us has a personal calling that’s as unique as a fingerprint- and that the best way to succeed is to discover what you love and then find a way to offer it to others in the form of service, working hard, and also allowing the energy of the universe to lead you.”- Oprah Winfrey

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement.”- Helen Keller

“Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”- Golda Meir

Oh my these quotes give me goosebumps….

Some of our discussion questions are pretty simple, but made me think long and hard about my life and myself. 

  • Where am I going?
  • What does it mean to be a woman?
  • How do I separate my roles from my “true self”? (mother, wife. aunt, boss, employee, student, and friend).
  • Why do I feel so good/bad about myself now?

Think I’ll be doing some journal stuff  this weekend….

Ms. Fran