How Do You Cope With Negative Emotions?????

Happy Wednesday friends,

I will be interviewing a young lady who deals self-care through meditation, journaling, and affirmations! She empowers her clients to learn how to manage negative emotions and listen to their inner guidance!

If you have a question you would like answered please leave in comments or DM, email, or Vox me!

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Email: ashestobeauty@oliviabshepherd.org

I look forward to your questions!!!

Olivia 💓

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Affirmations and Positivity 💝

Everyone has that little voice within themselves that constantly tells them when they can or cannot do something. Most often, that little voice is giving you a million and one reasons why you can’t, which only adds to our self-doubt.

Positive affirmations are positive thoughts or words that describe a desired situation or outcome, such as success. These have to be repeated over and over again in order to trigger the subconscious mind into positive action. 

Most people spend far too much time repeating negative words and statements in their mind, whether consciously or subconsciously. Keep telling yourself that you can’t do something, that you are too lazy, or that you are stupid and don’t be surprised if you never succeed at anything. Words and statements work both ways, to build or destroy. But their capacity to cause harm or good is up to us.

The repetition of positive affirmations help focus your mind on your aim, automatically building corresponding mental images in the conscious mind, when then affects the subconscious mind. By using this process consciously and intently, you harness the power of your subconscious mind to transform your habits, behaviour , mental attitude and reactins.

The most effective affirmations are those that are composed by yourself. But in order to be truly effective, you must believe whole-heartedly in your own affirmations. It is best to state your positive daily affirmations in the present tense, for example, “I am…,” rather than “I will be….” Also, choose words which will evoke positive mental images, describing what you really want. If you desire to lose weight, tell yourself “I am getting slim” rather than “I am not fat”.

The transformative powers of positive affirmations are very real. By repeatedly stating what you want to be true in your life, you mentally and emotionally see and feel it as true, thereby attracting it into your life.

Write down a few affirmations of your own and leave them around your house or workplace. 📝

Good Sunday Night,

Olivia 💝

Merry Xmas Eve 🎄

Good morning friends, happy Monday and Christmas Eve! 🤗

Lord, sometimes the Advent season can be stressful, even difficult.

There are moments of awkwardness when someone gives you a gift and you have nothing for them, or vice versa.

There are moments of loneliness amid the bustle. The pains of fractured relationships seem especially sharp at this time of the year.

Please keep my eyes focused on you. Help me not get so invested in the idea of a ”perfect holiday” that I neglect my daily time in prayer.

Wishing all of you an amazing day, sending virtual hugs to those in need of one! 🤗🥰

Remember to put your mental health first and continue to stay focused!

Merry Christmas,

Olivia 🎄💋

Gratitude Journal 12/9/18 📔

Happy Sunday bloggers, hope everyone is having a great morning so far.☺️

Just wanted to take the time to say Thank You for reading my blog. I’m not the best writer but I do enough to get my point across.

Thanks also for the gift of writing.

What a joy it is to express myself through words!

A letter, a diary entry, a blog, or a report…all these things are ways I can share my thoughts and knowledge with the world.

I am grateful for the chance to express myself and pray that God will guide my pen every time I write.

Olivia ✍🏾

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Gratitude Journal 📔 12/5/18

Good morning friends,

How good it is to talk to God!

Formal prayer is important, but today I just want to pour out my heart and speak to God in my own words.

Thank you for the opportunity to talk to you as a friend.

Thank you for listening to my prayers and understanding my heart ❤️

Remember you can talk to Him without judgement and shame.

Come as you are…..

Have an amazing day,

Olivia

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Self-Care isn’t Selfish…it’s ok to Reward Yourself ☺️👇🏾

Good Morning friends,

Today I am going to treat myself!

Thank you for the opportunity to do something special “just because.”

Thank you for giving me the chance to reward myself just for being me.

I am grateful for these little joys and for the ability to recognize that I am worthy of pampering.

My life is special, and today I am thankful for the chance to rejoice in myself.

Now, I haven’t decided what I’m going to do yet!

I just know whatever I do I deserve to do it, and will not be told I’m being selfish. 😃

What do you feel like doing but didn’t want to take the time to do?

Happy Tuesday Luvs,

Olivia💋

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Want a Stressed Free Holiday??Follow These Tips 🎄🎁👇🏾

“The stress-free way to enjoy the holidays is to plan, take one step at a time, and have a sense of humor.” Beth Tabak

Can you feel the holiday jitters beginning? Suddenly there it is right around the corner. Relax! Take time to plan well now and ease into the holidays with a big smile. Grab a journal and pen, and let’s get started.

🎁Reminisce over previous holidays- In your journal create a column for What Works and another for Not That Again. Under What Works list the activities that bring you joy, come naturally, and click into place. Under Not That Again list your challenges. Jot down the things that drain your energy and bring you down. What can you do to delegate, dump, or change the items in the Not That Again column and embrace more of the activities in the What Works column? What changes need to be made?

🎄Choose a theme you can be excited about- What is important to you this holiday? Base your theme on that. If you want to stay home instead of traveling your theme could be “Home for the Holidays”. If your budget is tight consider “Simply Sensational”. Your theme helps you stay focused. A theme that honors your spirituality could be “Faith and Family First”. Or choose a favorite quote such as Mahatma Gandhi’s “Be the Change You Wish to See in the World”. Get creative, have fun, and write it down.

🎁Set your top 4 priorities- Base them on what you really want which should connect with your theme. Get crystal clear. Write them down. When you know your priorities you are able to respond easily to a request and set boundaries. When someone asks you to get involved request 24 hours to respond. Look at your priorities and see if it serves them. If it does, consider it. If not, the answer is likely no.

🎄Create a Map- What if you took a big trip without planning? You would likely get lost, waste time, and experience anxiety. It makes sense to plan at the holidays when so many areas of our lives are effected: time, energy, personal care, relationships, physical environment, and finances. Consider creating a task list thru the end of the year. It takes a block of time but will save you time and stress. It will rescue you from running in circles, going back and forth to the same place, and trying to remember what’s next. In the past I’ve had hundreds of items on my task list. No wonder we get stressed when we attempt this in our heads. Here’s a tool to help. On your computer create a chart with 4 columns. Use your theme for the header. Under your theme list your priorities horizontally. Label the columns in a way that is helpful to you. I use Business, Personal, Holiday, and Need List. Use small font and minimal margin space to fit as many rows as possible. Print your map. List your tasks and add on as they come to you. Keep your map with you at all times. Schedule time to carry out the tasks. Have fun and build momentum as you make progress. Remember to save it for next year.

🎁Simplify- Every task must be handled. You can do it, delegate it, or dump it. Eliminate what does not serve your priorities. What can you get help on and delegate? This is a good time to get rid of those items on your Not That Again list. Hire someone to decorate or a housekeeper for the month. Have everyone bring a dish instead of you doing it yourself. Get your family involved and remember that things don’t have to be perfect. Let go. This will give you the space to embrace what you truly enjoy.

🎄Set a budget- Develop a budget that feels good. There are lots of ways to make a holiday special without adding stress to your budget. Show people they are appreciated. Plan family fun and activities. You can let someone know what is special about them in a card, letter, cassette, or video. Get creative. Every year I have one gift for the kids to find. I wrap empty boxes inside each other. When they open the last box there is a clue telling them the next step. Don’t let a tight budget steal your joy. Make it fun!

🎁Set boundaries- Decide now what you will not tolerate. Write it down. Remember your Not That Again list? Is there someone who ropes you into things you don’t want to do? Have the conversation that’s overdue. No is no. If someone keeps asking after you said no, they are attempting to control you. Setting boundaries is about educating people on how they can treat you. Is there someone you need to educate?

🎄Schedule time for planning and yourself- When is a good time to update your plan? When can you take time for you? Put it on your calendar each week thru the end of the year. Keep the appointments. Add this line to your daytimer as a reminder: “I have an appointment in honor of myself this ______(day) at __:__ (time) to do something special for me because I sooooooo deserve it!”

🎁Give in a way that gives you joy vs. obligation- When you give in a way that comes naturally to you, you stay in integrity with who you are. Therefore, you are able to share your own special gifts with others. When you are doing what you love life clicks. If there is a situation you are dreading, think about how you can tweak it and handle it in a way that would bring you more joy.

🎄Take action now- Begin today so that you are tying up your last bows well before the pitter patter of hoofs on the rooftop. Keep your holiday journal and map close at hand. The sooner you complete your tasks, the sooner you can sit back, smile, and enjoy the season!

What I want for you is to take action to move one step forward to prepare for the holidays…Starting Now!

Please send your thoughts and comments. I would love to hear from you.😀

Olivia

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Black Friday Mentoring Alert🚨 Work with Me☺️👇🏾

Joy to the world! ‘Tis the season to be jolly! Festive music fills the air; holiday cheer abounds . Everyone is happy at holiday time — right? Wrong.🤷🏽‍♀️

🤶🏽This time of the year isn’t filled with cheer for some

🤶🏽Holiday Depression is a ’thing’

🤶🏽I know for me I’m usually sad or little jealous because families are all getting together and mines is so spread apart, not because we live in different states, no because we are so damn dysfunctional 🤦🏽‍♀️

🤶🏽Can you relate

Do you feel like you can’t make it through another holiday feeling this way?

🤶🏽Well, let me help you!

🎄From December 7 December 28th, I’m offering to be your Holiday Mentor 🧚🏾‍♀️

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You will get:

🎁Unlimited messaging, phone, email support

🎁1 Skype or Zoom talk per week

🎁Unlimited text messaging inspiration to your cell phone daily

🎁Workbook, resources, and tools for support

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🎁I’m basically your virtual mentor / friend for the rest of the year!!!

🎁Sounds good then schedule your free 30-minute call or skype to see if we’re a fit!!!

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I owe more than great gratitude to Olivia B. Shepherd for helping me regain my freedom and my life back again. I’ve always worried very much but things got much worse with time and at my lowest point, I couldn’t stand large crowds and was afraid of driving alone. The only place I felt safe was around my family. My mom heard about Olivia from a friend and got me signed up. Everything has been a fairytale ever since. She has equipped me with techniques to deal with my depression and anxiety issues. Her love and support has helped cast worries and fear out of my life. I can’t put a price on the assistance I’ve got so far, you are a God send Olivia. Loads of thanks!

Pearl Andrews

Gratitude Journal 📓 11/15/18

Good morning friends, who among us is afraid of change or trying something new.

🙋🏽‍♀️I know I was but no more, I’m super excited about all my new experiences!!!

Lord, sometimes I get frustrated, especially when I have to face something new.

Thank you for giving me an open heart.

Help me accept change and rejoice in new experiences and new people.

Help me to be grateful for new opportunities and always see the good things even when I am afraid to try something new.

Don’t be afraid to embrace new things, there’s so much on the other side of fear!!!

Have an amazing day!!!!

Olivia 💓

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