Setting Healthy Boundaries during the Holidays 🦃🎄

Taking care of your self and your body involves learning how to set boundaries in relationships. When you are stressed you are more likely to overeat, make rash decisions and lose sleep.When someone oversteps their bounds in your life or you are finding yourself arguing with someone it can turn on your fight or flight response causing high blood pressure, cortisol spikes, and weight gain.If you find yourself tensing up or changing your behavior around certain people maybe they have too much access to your life. Are you walking on eggshells to prevent a certain behavior?Stop 🚫it or stay away….I promise it’s ok to want to enjoy the holidays in peace without others drama…
If you don’t know how to set boundaries in relationships you will burn out and allow others to control your time and energy. It’s not selfish to set up boundaries, it’s actually very healthy.Here are a couple of affirmations to write down and recite before the Turkey 🦃and Christmas 🎄Tree Trimming….✔ I will not work harder on their problems than my own.✔I will not spend my time trying to change someone who doesn’t want to change.✔I will not allow the same person to repeatedly hurt me over and over.✔I will not change my behavior or my beliefs to appease others.It’s not your job to be everything to everyone and you should not be working harder on people’s problems than they are.Best Wishes on a great Holiday,Lady O 🦋Ashes To Beauty Mentoring & Outreach

Do You Suffer From Holiday Depression?….🦃🎄

Do you suffer from holiday depression, stress, and anxiety??

Do your family members make you crazy around this time of the year?…

Wondering what Aunt Edith will say to embarrass you around the holiday table this year? Thinking that Tums and Tylenol won’t be enough to endure the extra helpings of “sarcasm served cold,” that’s dished out by your mother in law?😒

If you dread family holidays with your cooked-out clan, you’re not alone. The Christian Post posted results from their recent survey: Twenty-four percent of individuals surveyed they dreaded seeing relatives and 16% stated that they did not look forward to attending holiday parties and events.🤷🏾‍♀️

According to an article in Entrepreneur.com, more than 60% of baby boomers, Gen Xers and millennials report feeling increased stress at holiday time. This is at least partially owed to strained relationships and forced interactions with family during the most socially overbooked and financially burdensome time of year.

So why, when we think of celebrating another year coming to a close, and celebrating that with our relatives, does this incite panic attacks and neurosis rather than a peaceful, and benevolent feeling? And a better question, how to avoid conflict at Christmas? Below, some reasons and solutions to family stress during the holidays.

Clashes of Personality

Not everyone has the same ideas about things, and that’s no more apparent than when the entire family gets together. Whether it’s quibbling over how long to cook the turkey, arguing over who gets to host and who gets to make the trip… not agreeing on how much to spend on presents, or navigating conversational minefields… different family personality types can come into conflict at holiday time for sure. And please don’t add politics to the mix…especially during this time!

Christmas Activities to Boost Your Mood! 🎄👇🏾

🎄Whip up an eggnog cocktail.

Invite your friends over for a cozy night in and sip on the go-to drink. Or, even better, snack on an eggnog-inspired dessert.

🎄Mail a letter to Santa.

Because kids aren’t the only ones wishing for some Christmas magic.

🎄Video chat with an out-of-town friend or relative.

Take a few minutes to wish a faraway friend or family member a very merry Christmas.

🎄Find a fun way to display your holiday cards.

Say goodbye to holiday paper clutter by displaying the season’s greetings in a creative way. (my fav)

🎄Deliver homemade holiday treats to someone unexpected.

Whether it’s the cashier at your local Kroger or Walmart, they’re sure to love a delivery of Christmas treats.

Happy Holidays 🥰

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Joy to the world! ‘Tis the season to be jolly! Festive music fills the air; holiday cheer abounds . Everyone is happy at holiday time — right? Wrong.🤷🏽‍♀️

🤶🏽This time of the year isn’t filled with cheer for some

🤶🏽Holiday Depression is a ’thing’

🤶🏽I know for me I’m usually sad or little jealous because families are all getting together and mines is so spread apart, not because we live in different states, no because we are so damn dysfunctional 🤦🏽‍♀️

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