Tuesday Tips…Can You Say Yes To Happiness…Part 2😃

Happy Tuesday, how easy is it for you to say ’Yes’ to happiness?😃

Here are a few tips to help if you need a little boost👇🏾 don’t forget the 1st 3 tips in a previous blog post! 💞

4️⃣Listen To Your Feelings: All feelings are good. Every feeling occurs for a reason: it is delivering a message. Sometimes that message is pleasant, other times not. Our tendency is to distract ourselves from unpleasant feelings, often through smoking, drinking or drugs of one kind or another. When you feel bad, avoid distracting yourself, and identify the reason—there is some need not being met.

5️⃣Give Of Yourself: The more you give, the more you receive. There is probably no scientific study proving this to be so, but unconditional giving is hugely rewarding. It seems that the more of yourself you give, the greater the thrill and uplifting effect on your psyche. Help the needy. Give time if you can. Give anonymously, even if you lose the tax deduction!

6️⃣Make It Happen: You have the ability to make things happen using your mind. Top sports stars, and business people use it, and so can you. There are many ways of doing this; one of the common methods is to use visualization—getting a picture in your mind of whatever it is that you want to happen. It does not actually have to be a visual picture; it could be a feeling, a smell, a sound, or any combination of the senses. Imagine finding the perfect parking near the entrance as you arrive at the supermarket or mall … the sky is the limit, but persevere! We are not used to utilizing this tool, so it takes practice.

7️⃣Accept The Things You Cannot Change: We resist things we don’t like, and often expend a tremendous amount of energy on this resistance. Whilst this can be good, and has resulted in tremendous advances through history, we should work to understand those things we cannot change, and then move on. Rather use the saved energy on something more worthwhile and productive. This is not to say that you should complacently accept anything. If you truly desire change, you should work towards that change; but spending time worrying about something without actively working to change it is unproductive and damaging to your wellbeing.

You have the power to create your Happiness…just follow my tips and you will be smiling in no time…enjoy💋

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Recovery Is Possible….🙌🏾 Wednesday Wisdom

Aww the memories….3 years later and I’m still proud of how I’ve overcome all that was meant to destroy me!!!

𝓛𝓪𝓭𝔂 ‘𝓞’

Certified Transformation Coach

”Turning Pain Into Beautiful Possibilities”

2 years ago on this date I received my BA from Columbia College 😃👩🏽‍🎓I was so extremely proud, but so massively depressed! I hid it so well and couldn’t wait to get home and get back into my bed. I wanted to die and nobody understood, all they saw was the beautiful young woman going after her dreams!

Thank you to my friends who pushed and believed in me when I could have cared less. I am forever grateful for all of you!!! As I sit back and look at these pics, I can’t help but thank God, thank God for not giving up on me! He knew I had a purpose on this earth and I intend to use my talents to share my testimony!!! #youcandoit #idid #goafteryourdreams #cof2016 #koala

#columbiacollege

Wednesday Wisdom…Can You Say Yes To Happiness…Part 2

Happy Wednesday Friends…. Can you say Yes 👍🏾 to Happiness? I ask this question yesterday, so can you? Here are a couple of more ways to say Yes to your happiness….👇🏾☺️

Listen To Your Feelings: All feelings are good. Every feeling occurs for a reason: it is delivering a message. Sometimes that message is pleasant, other times not. Our tendency is to distract ourselves from unpleasant feelings, often through smoking, drinking or drugs of one kind or another. When you feel bad, avoid distracting yourself, and identify the reason—there is some need not being met.

Give Of Yourself: The more you give, the more you receive. There is probably no scientific study proving this to be so, but unconditional giving is hugely rewarding. It seems that the more of yourself you give, the greater the thrill and uplifting effect on your psyche. Help the needy. Give time if you can. Give anonymously, even if you lose the tax deduction!

Make It Happen: You have the ability to make things happen using your mind. Top sports stars, and business people use it, and so can you. There are many ways of doing this; one of the common methods is to use visualization—getting a picture in your mind of whatever it is that you want to happen. It does not actually have to be a visual picture; it could be a feeling, a smell, a sound, or any combination of the senses. Imagine finding the perfect parking near the entrance as you arrive at the supermarket or mall … the sky is the limit, but persevere! We are not used to utilizing this tool, so it takes practice. 😊

Have an awesome Wednesday 💞

Tuesday Tips…Tend To Your Own Happiness 😃

Happy Tuesday Friends….

Many of us wish for more happiness.

We want to lead happier, more fulfilling, lives, but the sad truth is that so many of us that wish for more happiness spend much more time tending the happiness of others than we do tending to our own happiness.

Happiness does not simply happen. A person does not suddenly stumble across happiness. Happiness is the result of careful tending and a person who wishes to be happy must tend to their own happiness.

Tending to your happiness does not need to be difficult, complex, or time-consuming. It can be as simple as this four-step formula:

1. Trash your unhappy thoughts and trends

2. Envision yourself happy

3. Needs fulfilled

4. Desires fulfilled

Making yourself a happier person really can be that simple.

Step one is an important one because unhappiness is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Many people are unhappy because they don’t believe they deserve to be happy and they lock themselves into patterns of behavior that make them unhappy.

You must trash your unhappy thoughts and trends.

Look inside yourself and find out what (and when) you think about things that make you unhappy. Is there a specific time of day that you tend to be more unhappy? Is there a specific task or routine that seems to feed your unhappiness? Is there something that you do or think that contributes to your own unhappiness?

Once you identify the areas of your life that cause you unhappiness you can find ways to confront it and combat it. Sometimes you can make a change to avoid the trouble spot altogether, but when that’s not possible find ways to make it less difficult on yourself. Adjust your schedule or your expectations if that will make things better. Recruit help when you can. Just easing off one task or freeing up a few hours can make a huge difference in your attitude. When all else fails and you can’t change or share something unpleasant than don’t hesitate to give yourself a reward for accomplishing it. Knowing you will be rewarded can sometimes make difficult tasks more palatable.

Step two is key. Some people have been unhappy for so long they have forgotten what happiness looks like and feels like. Envisioning yourself happy can help create the happiness habit. Thinking about your own happiness will also help counterbalance times when you are unhappy or working through unpleasant tasks. Think about difficult times as simply stepping stones to happy times.

Step three cannot be overlooked. If your basic needs for food and sleep are not met then you will not be able to focus on happiness. Obviously it is not impossible for hungry, sleep-deprived people to be happy, but most humans are a lot less likely to be happy in that state. Food and sleep provide fuel for both body and mind and the healthier your body and mind then the better chance you have to achieve happiness.

Step four is the final step to achieving happiness. What do you desire? What do you wish for? What do you dream about? Allow yourself to dream big but don’t overlook small wishes and desires. While a two-week cruise might be great just having a weekend at a local resort might really give the rest, relaxation and escape you might need. Or perhaps you’d really like to lose 30 or 50 pounds but finding a way to work in some exercise a few times a week might give you more immediate gratification while eventually accomplishing your long-term goal.

Make a list of your desires, wishes, and dreams — big and small — and keep that list some place handy.

What can you do this week to achieve a small goal?

What can you do this month to take a step toward a big goal?

Sometimes you don’t even need to accomplish your goals to achieve happiness. Sometimes it is simply enough to know that you are working toward your dreams. Often happiness is found on the path to our dreams. Often happiness is created while we strive to make our wishes come true.

You can make yourself a happier person but you must tend to your happiness. 😊

So often we spend more time tending to our outer possessions than we do tending to our inner ones. You can make a few changes to your life to find a better balance and that will help create more personal happiness for you.

Have an amazing Tuesday and remember to tend to your own happiness….

3 Keys To Knowing (And Getting) EXACTLY What You Want – xoNecole

I’ll admit it: I’ve been getting a little annoyed by all of the memes, statuses and reminders that 2020 is right around the corner. Partly because I consider my birthday as my own personal New Year, but also because many times, our Instagram feeds look like a buffet of other peoples’ accomplishments
— Read on www.xonecole.com/keys-to-knowing-exactly-what-you-want/

#mondaymorivation

Daily Reminder…Monday Motivation💞

#dailyreminder

Remember taking action requires you to have faith in yourself – especially when everything and everyone around you is telling you that you cannot do it. In the end, you have to remember that you know yourself best. You know what you are capable of, and if you believe that your vision is within reach then don’t ”abort the process” when difficulties arise.

God created your vision for you…💪🏾

Have an awesome ✨ and blessed week!

𝓛𝓪𝓭𝔂 ‘𝓞’

How do we change our stress levels if they are not helping us to function well during the day or sleep well at night?

How do we change our stress levels if they are not helping us to function well during the day or sleep well at night?

How do we change our stress levels if they are not helping us to function well during the day or sleep well at night?
— Read on damonashworthpsychology.com/2019/07/28/how-do-we-change-our-stress-levels-if-they-are-not-helping-us-to-function-well-during-the-day-or-sleep-well-at-night/

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Tuesday Tips….You Are Worthy💞

Happy Tuesday friends….

A lot of times individuals feel disgruntled because they don’t feel appreciated by other people. That’s understandable. Naturally we all long to be appreciated by others. But if our happiness hinges on the encouragement of others, we may occasionally find ourselves being needlessly discouraged.

The answer is to encourage yourself! Here are a few ways to do just that.

1️⃣Small pieces of bigger blessings.

While encouraging yourself, it’s great to kickoff with the long-familiar and obvious things like family, friends, your home, and so forth. But once you’ve named those things, try to be more particular.

For example, if you’re grateful for your family, individually list the members of your family and then compose a detailed listing of all of the ways you’re thankful for that particular family member. The same can be true for the other biggies. For example, if you’re thankful for your home (and you ought to be, even if it’s humble!), list the particulars about what you value about your home.🙂

Think through every facet of your home, and individually, list what you’re thankful for. They are things you take for granted, and yet would certainly miss if you didn’t have them! I’ve found it helpful to center on one small aspect of the various big things in my life daily and list utterly everything I can think that will encourage me.

2️⃣List of your gifts.

We frequently center on what we’re not good at, or ways we go wrong or wish were different. But we all have assorted gifts and abilities. Centering on those things can provide a good deal of encouragement. Nothing is too little to list! Or, as in the case above, begin with something big, and then list utterly everything you are able to dream up that comes under that certain category. Generallyspeaking, every talent that you have includes multiple “sub talents.” Be particular!

3️⃣Recall the past.

Occasionally when setbacks happen, like not being able to pay the rent on time, remind yourself of the fact that you’ve always managed to keep a roof over your head in the past, and that somehow things will work out this time also.

As well, when remembering the past, occasionally it’s great fun to think way back, even to childhood, about fun, interesting, and exciting experiences. Frequently this makes me laugh, and it also helps me to see how rich and terrific my life has been – and without doubt, will continue to be.

4️⃣Name your cares.

This might seem like an unusual way to be encouraged, and I’ll acknowledge that initially naming my cares sometimes causes me tension! But, naming my cares is often the first step in coping with the issues impending, and as I deal with them, I’m encouraged.

As well, as I name my cares – particularly if write in my journal about them – I frequently see that they are not as bad and scary as I thought. Frequently, when I journal about my cares or the things I’m baffled about, I find that I’m blowing things out of proportion and that the situation isn’t nearly as bad as I initially believed. That’s encouraging!

Remind yourself of encouragement from other people. Yes, this is about encouraging yourself, but occasionally you are able to do that by remembering past encouragement from other people. Maybe no one has done anything to encourage you this past week or even month, but we’ve all had moments of encouragement from other people in the past.

Have an awesome day and be encouraged friends….

Daily Reminder….💞

Good morning friends….💞

God forever works with you when you ask Him to and when you’ve faith that He is doing so. Then your prayer can’t fail. It is God who’s changing things and not you.

 

Regardless what the condition, how hard or how impossible you feel it might be, God will see you through.

Remember this: want in the heart for anything is God’s sure promise sent in advance to indicate that it’s yours already in the limitless realm of supply, and whatever you wish you may have for the taking.

 Have an awesome day 💞

6 Signs You Are WAY Too Self-Critical – xoNecole

As life would have it, as I’m starting this piece, Kelis’ music video for “Bossy” is playing on the tube. Something that I’ve always liked about Kelis, as an artist, is she’s gonna do whatever she wants to do. We don’t have to get it, so long as she does. If we like it, that’s merely a bonus. Yeah,
— Read on www.xonecole.com/signs-you-are-way-too-self-critical/

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