Are Your Fears Keeping You From a Great Life….

Good Tuesday friends๐Ÿ˜Š

Have you ever had a fear that kept you from living life fully? Perhaps this fear has stopped you from having MORE fun or experiencing GREATER success. Yes? This article will help you learn to overcome your fear and increase your self-confidence.

Conquering your fears, one by one; builds confidence and increases your quality of life. Don’t let your fears hold you back from living the life you wish you were living.

Try These 10 Tips For Conquering Your Fears:

1๏ธโƒฃ Recognize fear is present (be mindful that it exist)

2๏ธโƒฃ Declare you are going to conquer the fear (don’t let shit keep you from your goals)

3๏ธโƒฃ Expect to feel anxious, awkward and scared (it’s ok to feel scared, but do it anyway)๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ

4๏ธโƒฃ Consider copying a style you like until you find your own style (imitation is flattering)

5๏ธโƒฃ Focus your attention (stop ๐Ÿšซwith all the distractions)

6๏ธโƒฃ Motivate yourself with affirmations (you all know I love affirming myself)๐Ÿ’ž

7๏ธโƒฃ Step into the fear with abandon

8๏ธโƒฃ Let go and have fun! Remind yourself to keep breathing. ๐Ÿ˜

9๏ธโƒฃ Pat yourself on the back when itโ€™s over (you did it)๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿพ

๐Ÿ”Ÿ Notice how much easier it gets When you have time, take a personal inventory of the fears keeping you from living the life you want. Then make a commitment and challenge yourself to face and conquer one them that’s been holding you back.

Use the tips above to guide your way. To get started, see if any common fears from the list above fit you:

Have a Terrific Tuesday…๐Ÿ˜˜

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Monday Motivation…Your Happiness Comes from Within๐Ÿ˜ƒ

Happy Monday friends...new week, fresh start to create your happy๐Ÿ˜€are you ready??? Read on:๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿพ

Look we all know life isn't the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere โ€“ โ€œHow did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?โ€  Then I pause and observed for awhileโ€ฆ I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a place called "self".๐Ÿค”
So, how does one become genuinely happy? 

Step 1 is to love yourself. 

My old teacher once said that "loving yourself means accepting."  To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes. 

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have โ€“ truly, you know the answer to the question "how to be genuinely happy."

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life and how it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, winning and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person's life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell youโ€ฆ every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that. 

Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the NFL. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn't it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself โ€œWhew!๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿพ I got a point today. I'm glad I gave it a shot.โ€, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur โ€œGeez, I didn't even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!โ€ and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn't about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life doesn't always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy?  Every one has his own definition of "happiness". 

Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success. So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don't have to have the best things in this world. It's about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self "Oh, I'll do better next time", you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try โ€“ that will make you a genuinely happy person. 

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project "how to become genuinely happy". For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.

Again, throw me that same question "how to become genuinely happy?". I'll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- "Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life's aches and pain. But most of us don't know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self,because then you don't just become happy you also become free."

Have an amazing start to the week…๐Ÿ’ž

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Tip Tuesday…How To Live With Joy๐Ÿ˜Š

Good morning friends, well it's October but if you live in my neck of the woods it's still 90 degrees๐Ÿ˜ฉ....I'm so ready for fall, but until then I'm still going live with Joy...๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ‚

Living with joy can sometimes be a challenge.

When things appear to be going against our will, we tend to experience this as pain, suffering, or that weโ€™re having a bad day. Recognizing that we are in control of our feelings, and that we have the choice to live in joy, or in fear is the first step to creating a life full of joy and positivity.

One principle that we all need to acquire is the ability to see all situations, people, and events from a positive perspective. Instead of viewing bad things in life as a prompt to get upset and angry, try to view the โ€œbad thingsโ€ as lessons that are helping you grow, helping you to become as whole of an individual as possible. Too many times, we think that the outer world, the physical reality is creating our day, causing us to be sad or unhappy; however it is the opposite that is true. We create our day, we create the circumstances for joyous living.

The most important lesson is that โ€œbeingnessโ€ precedes experience. In order to be happy, we first need to โ€œbe happyโ€ inside, and this internal happiness radiates outward through every cell of our bodies and creates the outer experience of a smile, or a laugh, or an intimate connection between two people. It is in this โ€œbeingnessโ€ that we have the ability to see and to choose our feelings, desires, goals, and dreams, which then enables us to manifest an outer reality based on our true selves.

We create the reality in which we experience joy, anger, love, and fear. Because we have the ability, the free will, to choose our reality, we can make that conscious choice to try to just be happier, more grateful, and more sensitive. This happiness though will never come if you are looking outside of yourself first. Because, what we just learned is that in order to be happy we have to have the internal feeling of happiness to then create that happiness in our daily lives. Remember that your beliefs about reality create your experience of it.

So, start changing your negatives into positives, gain clarity, and open your heart by looking inside yourself. When we start changing ourselves from inside out, the universe will respond to us in ways in which we could never imagine. The ability to start manifesting your goals and dreams is already inside of you. Take the leap to start living in joy today.

Have an amazing day and find some reason to live with joy regardless of your circumstances or where you aren’t in life….

Live with joy my friends,

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Wednesday Widsom…Learn how to make Everyday Special๐Ÿ˜

The same sun, the same sky, the same home, and the same routine.โ˜น

Life is boring.

Every day is same.

How to carry on from day to day?๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธWhy does a week not have seven sundays? Don’t you find yourself saying – ‘I want to enjoy life. I am getting bored with my schedule that never changes. There is no excitement in my life.’ Ask few friends around their life and they will say something similar.

Why is life becoming a bore for them and how to make it exciting?

Can one escape work? No sensible person can? Can a parent stop caring for his/her children? No.๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ Can an executive stop taking decisions? No. Then how to make life exciting? There must be some way. Yes, there is a way and it is very simple. Just look out of your window and watch the sky. Do you observe any clouds? Look at them. Look at the different shapes? Who made them? From where did they arrive and where will they go? Look at some flowers in your home. Observe the symmetry. Touch and feel the softness. How lovely! We are surrounded by treasures, but we have no time to look at them. A child’s smile can make today a different day than any other day. Try to make a child smile and feel the joy.

Look at the night sky. Observe the stars and think about the distances. Some are so far away that it takes light, hundreds of years to reach us. How many millions of years you will take to walk and reach them? What is beyond them? Observe, think and get excited. Life need never be dull for any of us. Take another example. While sitting on your table, have you ever wondered about the wood that was used to make it? Have you thought about the life of the tree? A small seed grew into a gigantic tree.

How exciting. What of the tar on the road? It comes from deep inside the earth, goes to refineries and is laid on the roads.

How deep must the oil well have been? How did they locate the oil and what will happen after we finish all the oil?( I totally often wonder about this)

The world is full of objects that can make us think and wonder. ๐Ÿค”

It is our attitude that makes our life.

If we adopt a child-like attitude towards things, we will bring joy back in life. ๐Ÿ˜

I am not asking you to give up your work and enjoy. But find time during the day to look at things and wonder. Bring joy back in your life.

You can begin right now.

Look at your screen.

What happens to the text after you shut down your computers?

Where do they all go, when you close the browser?

Isn’t life full of excitement?

Live it.Dont just let it go by…. yes some of these suggestions seem weird but you get the picture my dear, life doesn’t have to be boring at all. Hope today you will find excitement in your life and be thankful God has given you this life regardless of the circumstances…

Have an amazing day friends,

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Searching For Happiness…Stop looking in your neighbors yard ๐Ÿค”

Happy Thursday friends...are you 
looking for happiness in the wrong places...

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Weโ€™ve all heard the clichรฉ โ€˜The grass is always greener in our neighborโ€™s yardโ€™. What they donโ€™t tell you is that his grass still has to be mowed, watered, weeded, raked and fertilized.

The Buddha was the first to recognize that emotional pain can be just as real and debilitating as physical pain. Through careful observation he determined that people were good at spending time on their physical hygiene, but spent little or no time on mental hygiene. He believed that the key to finding happiness was in relieving oneโ€™s emotional suffering and that the best way to reduce this suffering was by controlling our emotions.

Just as a good mother watches where her children go, the wise man watches where his mind goes. One of the harmful emotions that the Buddha taught we need to watch is envy.

Envy is time spent wanting what our neighbor has instead of time spent enjoying what we have. Now itโ€™s true that when used properly envy can be a terrific motivator. The problem is that real envy — always wanting more and then discovering that more still isnโ€™t enough — is difficult to control.

The Buddha taught that the way to achieve happiness begins with turning negative thoughts in to positive ones. The successful landscaper knows that for his lawn to thrive it needs to be weeded and fertilized. The person seeking happiness can begin by following his example and weeding out any negative thoughts and then planting positive ones.

Many people believe that happiness is just a winning lottery ticket away, but true happiness is not based on how much we have, but on how little we need. Happiness is accepting, appreciating and enjoying what the world has to offer. True happiness can only be achieved if we spend more time weeding out envious thoughts rather than in trying to match or better our neighborโ€™s lawn.

Just because an elephant is the biggest doesnโ€™t mean heโ€™s also the best animal in the jungle.

Sometimes it is as simple as taking the time to look back at how far youโ€™ve come instead of always looking ahead to where you want to be. When was the last time you took a moment to pat yourself on the back for the things you have accomplished?

Besides, maybe your neighbor works harder at his yard than you do, or maybe heโ€™s just luckier. Is matching or bettering your neighborโ€™s accomplishments really that important? We all get to choose how we spend our time.

Stop looking at your neighborโ€™s yard and start enjoying your own, thatโ€™s what itโ€™s there for. Weed out the envy and youโ€™ll find your whole outlook improving.

Have an amazing day, try looking to yourself for the best way to love and treat yourself with respect ๐Ÿฅฐ

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Wednesday Wisdom…what have you done today for happiness tomorrow ๐Ÿ˜€


Happy Wednesday…๐Ÿ˜€

If you want to be happy tomorrow you need to begin working at it today. It’s just that simple..

Some people spend their lives waiting for happiness to arrive on its own and it never comes. Others work hard at creating wealth but still arenโ€™t happy, discovering that money only brings a whole different set of problems. Happiness is a state of mind and not the size of your bank account. Happiness is emotional and not physical. Each individual needs to work at creating their own happiness.

I like how Richard Bach, the author of Jonathan Livingston Seagull, put it when he said, โ€œIf your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem.โ€

To find happiness you first have to understand where happiness comes from. Memories are to the mind what a mirror is to the eyes – a reflection. The mirror reflects the physical while our memories reflect the emotional. When you look in the mirror it reflects what you look like; when you look in your mind it reflects who you are. One big difference between the two is that you can change what you see in the mirror but you canโ€™t change the memories reflected in your mind.

We tend to spend a lot of time trying to improve what we see in the mirror, but little or no effort trying to improve our thoughts. Every action creates a memory. Do you really think that the person who is bitter and angry today was happy and cheerful yesterday? If a person says or does something which angers or upsets us, we can either add to the painful memory with our own negative actions or we can replace them with positive actions and create positive memories.

If you want to be happy tomorrow you must choose carefully what you do today, because todayโ€™s actions will be reflected in tomorrowโ€™s memories and you can not make them go away. Everything you do today will be in tomorrowโ€™s reflection. The next time a person angers you, instead of lashing out, try imagining that you are holding up a mirror that bounces the reflection back at him, knowing that his actions or words are a reflection of him and not of you.

We all want to like what we see in the mirror. To be truly happy we also have to like what we see reflected in our minds. What the mirror reflects is not nearly as powerful as what the mind reflects, for it reflects our words and actions.๐Ÿ’—

What will your reflections be filled with?

Will your reflections/memories be filled with goodness and joy or with bitterness and anger?

What have you done today that will bring you happiness tomorrow?๐Ÿ˜ƒ

Hope this post gives you something to think about….๐Ÿค”

Have a wonderful Wednesday,

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3 Simple Ways to Live Happy Now๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿพ

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๐Ÿ’œEveryone strives to be happy but the mistake that everyone makes is that they think that happiness is some kind of finishing line in a race. Once you crossed that line, you will live happily ever after. That is NOT true. Happiness is a choice! You can choose to make your life happy. So here are a few ways you could try:

1. Let go of past memories.

Everyone has both sad and happy moments. So forget about your painful memories. Whatโ€™s in the past stays in the past. Instead focus on your good memories and move on.

2. Be optimistic.

Always try looking on the bright side of things. Look for the silver lining behind each dark cloud. For example, if you had an unfortunate accident and your car is badly dented, but on the bright side is that nobody got hurt and that dent in your car can be repaired. There is always a bright side to look on so be optimistic!

3.Donโ€™t let the small stuff bug you.

Remember all the small petty stuff that used to bother you? Forget all about it and focus on the bigger picture. Life is too short to be worry about trivial stuff.

Olivia๐Ÿ’œ