Searching For Happiness…Stop looking in your neighbors yard 🤔

Happy Thursday friends...are you 
looking for happiness in the wrong places...

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We’ve all heard the cliché ‘The grass is always greener in our neighbor’s yard’. What they don’t tell you is that his grass still has to be mowed, watered, weeded, raked and fertilized.

The Buddha was the first to recognize that emotional pain can be just as real and debilitating as physical pain. Through careful observation he determined that people were good at spending time on their physical hygiene, but spent little or no time on mental hygiene. He believed that the key to finding happiness was in relieving one’s emotional suffering and that the best way to reduce this suffering was by controlling our emotions.

Just as a good mother watches where her children go, the wise man watches where his mind goes. One of the harmful emotions that the Buddha taught we need to watch is envy.

Envy is time spent wanting what our neighbor has instead of time spent enjoying what we have. Now it’s true that when used properly envy can be a terrific motivator. The problem is that real envy — always wanting more and then discovering that more still isn’t enough — is difficult to control.

The Buddha taught that the way to achieve happiness begins with turning negative thoughts in to positive ones. The successful landscaper knows that for his lawn to thrive it needs to be weeded and fertilized. The person seeking happiness can begin by following his example and weeding out any negative thoughts and then planting positive ones.

Many people believe that happiness is just a winning lottery ticket away, but true happiness is not based on how much we have, but on how little we need. Happiness is accepting, appreciating and enjoying what the world has to offer. True happiness can only be achieved if we spend more time weeding out envious thoughts rather than in trying to match or better our neighbor’s lawn.

Just because an elephant is the biggest doesn’t mean he’s also the best animal in the jungle.

Sometimes it is as simple as taking the time to look back at how far you’ve come instead of always looking ahead to where you want to be. When was the last time you took a moment to pat yourself on the back for the things you have accomplished?

Besides, maybe your neighbor works harder at his yard than you do, or maybe he’s just luckier. Is matching or bettering your neighbor’s accomplishments really that important? We all get to choose how we spend our time.

Stop looking at your neighbor’s yard and start enjoying your own, that’s what it’s there for. Weed out the envy and you’ll find your whole outlook improving.

Have an amazing day, try looking to yourself for the best way to love and treat yourself with respect 🥰

𝓛𝓪𝓭𝔂 ‘𝓞’

Feeling Stuck About the New Year?

#newyearnewresults

We are in Day 2 of the New Year, and you are officially back into your normal routine, you sit and start to think now what?

Here are 5 questions to ask yourself if you are feeling a bit stuck about how to start this year off right?👇🏾

💫 What Challenge Did I Overcome Last Year?

Think about all the things or just one thing you have overcome and try adding to this list in 2019! No matter big or small, overcoming any challenge should be celebrated 🙌🏾

💫 Who Did I Surround Myself With?

Y’all know how I feel about this question, if they didn’t add value to your life last year, toss their butts this year🤷🏽‍♀️☺️

💫 How Did I Spend Your Time?

Now if you spent your time in the wrong relationships, worrying about others business, going places that aren’t good for you, or wasting time with the wrong folks….I’m going to need you to do better this year. All that time you wasted😒

💫 What new thing can I try this year?

Life is a journey of discovery. We need to keep trying new things every day, no matter our age. Just Do It! 👌🏾

💫 How can I become a better _____________ this year?

It’s time to let go of what kept you from being your best self and start believing that you are victorious and worthy of being better!

Repeat after Me: “I will embrace all the New Year has to offer me”

#upgradeyourlife

Olivia

𝓐𝓼𝓱𝓮𝓼𝓣𝓸𝓑𝓮𝓪𝓾𝓽𝔂 𝓜𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓸𝓻𝓲𝓷𝓰

Self Improvement and Why it’s Important

Happy Tuesday all, so as you know if your reading my blog,(if not I’m going to need you to subscribe) NOW!! LOL I have been on this road to recovery and trying all sorts of things to keep me from falling back into that hole. In order to start this process I gave up drinking, getting angry, and self-doubt. Yes!!! All these things can be hard, but you have to give the shit a try. We all want to improve and become better people, and we all decide that the first of year is when we are going to start….then we fall off!! By March we have found a hundred excuses why we just can’t get it together. I have to admit this was me ust last year, but I’m determined to see this year through and become healthier mentally and physically. So again if you have not subscribe to my blog so you can read my updates….then I suggest you subscribe NOW!!! I have developed an obsessive passion for self-improvement and my personal growth. So this week I’ll be blogging about some of the self improvement tactics I intend to take. As I stated in the beginning, I have completely given up alcohol and  stop letting my anger get out of control. Baby steps people…baby steps! So please feel free to comment on what you will do this week, maybe I can get some pointers from all of you out there….so here’s to a week of self improvement!!!

Ms. Fran