What You Get From ‘Healing’

I’m often asked this question during my Zoom sessions I have with potential clients; sometimes I smile, other times I’m sad! Sad because there are so many of you who believe not healing and staying wounded is better.

So many believe if you start your healing, that must mean all your problems will go away, but that’s not how healing works! Healing helps you cope with your challenges; healing helps you to see the bright side of your chaotic life! Healing allows you to manage better the relationships you have.

I never pretend as a coach, as a friend, wife, or mom that things are all rosy. What I do show you is how to react better to life! How to not let your circumstances become more significant than you!

Trust me, it’s complicated, but staying resentful, chaotic, hopeless, wounded, and broken forever was no longer cutting it for me!

So if you’re on the fence about starting your healing journey, don’t stand there too long. Beginning this process will be the best thing that will happen to you and for your mental wellbeing!

🖤”The place of true healing is a fierce place. It’s a giant place. It’s a place of monstrous beauty and endless dark and glimmering light. And you have to work really, really, really hard to get there, but you can do it.”
~Cheryl Strayed

Happy Healing,

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🗣STOP Giving Your Power Away

Any time you allow someone to negatively influence how you think, feel, or act, you give them power over you.
Giving away your power drains you of the mental strength you need to do your best, hindering your healing and growth!

💎Tune in for 3 ways to regain your power and gain peace!!

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Tips To Beating Depression 💚👇🏾

Everyone of us has days when we are down, worn out, and just not feeling all that happy.

That’s OK, you need to have days like this, otherwise how would you know when you are happy.

Even though we know that sadness is a part of life, let’s try to make it a small part of life.

With that being said, here are a few tips to help you feel better when you are feeling down in the dumps. They are easy to do, easy to practice every day and they work because I have tried them all👇🏾💚

✳️ Stand up straight, sit up straight. When your body is in alignment your energy can flow and when your energy is flowing freely, you can flow. I know this seemms weird, but I actually try this at my desk a lot!

✳️ Smile! Yes, just smile.
Easy to do and effective. Plus you are beautiful and the world needs to see that smile too😁

✳️ Repeat positive affirmations. Things like “I feel good”, “Positive energy flows through my body”, “I see the good in all”.Affirmations are important!

✳️ Listen to some music that you like. It doesn’t have to be anything specific, just something you enjoy. Certain types of music work better than others, but experiment and see what works for you. 🎶

✳️ Take some time out for yourself, relax and read a book, do something for yourself. This is a MUST!

An extra one that I do a lot, especially in the mornings:

✳️ Meditate. Meditation is an excellent habit to develop. It will serve you in all that you do. If you have a hard time sitting still, then try some special meditation Youtube channels that coax your brain into a meditative state.

Hope these help!! Please give a least 2 or more a try!!!💚💚

31 Days Of Mental Health Awareness

How much water 💦do you drink? Do you know that water keeps you hydrated while going through depression! Water helps keep your skin clear and your body fresh!!

I personally drink water all day, if you can’t seem to stomach drinking plain water, try the fruit 🍒 ones!

Getting enough water every day is important for your health. Drinking water can prevent dehydration, a condition that can cause unclear thinking, result in mood change, cause your body to overheat, and lead to constipation and kidney stones.

Water helps your body:

Keep a normal temperature.
Lubricate and cushion joints.
Protect your spinal cord and other sensitive tissues.
Get rid of wastes through urination, perspiration, and bowel movements.

How much water 💦 do you drink?

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Before you lay your pretty heads down tonight, recite these words to yourself, don’t let depression and anxiety have the last words! Because YOU ARE:

WORTHY of everything your heart desires
VALUED even when you feel less than
SPECIAL because nobody else can compare to you
IMPORTANT because you matter to me, your children, your family, your job!

Whisper these words to yourself in the shower, on the side of the bed, in the bathroom!

Sleep Well 💚💚

31 Days Of Mental Health Awareness Day 2:

Coping Skills are best put to use when you are experiencing bad mental health days! Here are a few examples of some I use:

💚Go for a walk to clear my head
💚Journal or Mediate
💚Try to figure out how to solve the problem without self-destructing
💚Call someone and vent

Now your turn write down some coping skills you have used, the healthy ones and the unhealthy ones!
Remember journaling is therapeutic…

Happy Writing 📝

Believe it or not, suffering from mental illness can make you forget to do a lot of the basic things we need to do to function in life, like:

🍴Eating, I remember a time when I would forget to eat because I had slept half the day away! When I did get something it would be junk food, or tons of snacks! My brain just wouldn’t let me process eating food during that time!

🚿Showering was another one, hell I was home all day and hubby would be on the road, so nope I wouldn’t shower much! Yes, there were times that I didn’t shower, my body was too exhausted to handle that task! There is nothing to be ashamed of, being sick is hell! And the only fresh air I got was walking the dog, thank God for him💙🐶

💭During this time I was thinking so much that my brain hurt, so I would turn my brain off and tune out! I forgot to pay certain bills, missed appointments, and didn’t go to work! I suffered from hallucinations and was very paranoid, so I decide not to think if I could help it!

📲Social media was my biggest enemy during my tough days! I was very envious and sad because I compared my sick life to the lives on social media! I would sit for hours and watch how other people lived their best lives, while I was sitting and waddling in my self-pity!!! Please don’t let this be you!!

Go over this little chart and if there is something you have forgotten to do today, don’t be ashamed or beat yourself up! If you have had bad thoughts today, you can change them now! And whatever you do, PLEASE DON’T compare your life to social media, remember half of them show you what they want you to see not the behind the scenes! Go watch a good movie instead!!!

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Mental Health Awareness Month 💚 Day

May is Mental Health Awareness Month💚 let’s start out with a journal prompt to get you started!!! Grab your pen & favorite journal! As we educate, and inspire those around us to STOP THE STIGMA!

Keep these close to you

Wishing you all good mental health 💚

🎧🎙Don’t forget to check out this week’s podcast episode!! 3 Reasons Why You Are Not Healing

Wellness Wednesday

Allow yourself to grow and heal, allow yourself to:

🖤Change Your Routine:
Doing things the same can get boring and leave you stuck in a rut! Allow yourself to do something different, like drive a new way home, eat out in the middle of the week, rest, or lay in bed all day!!

🖤Be Kind To Yourself:
If you don’t treat yourself that right, no one will! Give yourself credit for still standing after everything you’ve been through, go shopping, buy yourself something nice, or sit alone for a few and enjoy the ‘me time’

🖤Feel Your Feelings:
It’s OK if cry you, scream, or rant! It’s OK to feel all those bottled up emotions that you have to hide in order to put on a brave face for others! Feel all those feelings…

🖤Reach Out For Help:
STOP suffering alone, if you need a therapist, mentor, counselor, or a coach it’s perfectly ok to reach out for help! This shows that you are ready to start your healing process and you can’t do it alone! You are brave for asking for help, not weak!!

What will you allow yourself to do today?

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Sunday Self-Care/Love

It’s Sunday and time to prepare for the week, do this by practicing some self-love/care this evening!!!

Here are a few things you can do in order to be able to handle your week, your business, and your family!

Let’s Begin:

💖STOP overthinking:
You are not a mind reader and you can’t see into the future, stay in the now! Focus on things you can control! You can’t prevent life from happening, so chill out!

🖤TRY your best to make time for yourself and not excuses! When you make excuses you prolong your healing, your growth, and you stay stuck in repeating cycles!

💖 MAP out one goal (in baby steps) that you would love to knock off your list! This will give you a sense of accomplishment!

🖤 SET an intention, what do you intend to do this week that will help you get closer to your goals of success! Ex. maybe you want to remain calm this week, or you want to focus on journaling those thoughts!! Set the intention and follow through!

Remember self-care/love isn’t all about bubble baths and mimosas, you have to work on that inner healing first in order to love on others!

If You Suffer Betrayal…You Are Not Alone…Read This Morning Message👇🏾

It might have been your best friend, your mother, father, your sister, or even your lover. It burns deep inside. You can’t sleep for the anger, the shock, and dismay. You may find yourself still not believing it’s happened to you. But it has!

When those we have entrusted with our time, our loyalty, or even our love betray us, we feel violated deep inside. We feel crushed. We wonder if we can ever recover from this…

Guess what you can, I’m 2 years into recovery from the last betrayal by some family members, and once I realized that the Highest suffered the same fate, I then knew I could overcome the hurt and pain!

I have forgiven my betrayers much like Jesus forgave Judas! Not because they deserve it, I have forgiven them for me, for my sanity, and my peace!

Although I will no longer speak their names, I won’t continue hating them because I WILL NOT let them keep betraying me in my mind!

🖤If you are suffering from being betrayed, you are not alone!

🖤You can get through this,

🖤You will recover

🖤You can and will trust again

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