Dare To Be Yourself: 14 Days of Self-Loveโฃ๏ธ

We are now into Day 11 of 14 Days of Self-Loveโฃ๏ธand how many of you sit around scrolling social media, or magazines wishing you were someone else๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ??? Do be shy…I have been there myself; until I looked in the mirror and learned to love โค๏ธ who God created me to be with my big nose, fluffy tummy, and all my love handles…and….

Thereโ€™s no need for you to imitate anybody else either; they already exist. Do you want to be just like your colleague? ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธIf God wanted two identical colleagues, then He would have created a copy of the first. If God needed another person just like your neighbor, then He would have immediately created two of them. He never cloned somebody, so why would you? Every snowflake is different. Creation is not duplication…period!!!

Instead of copying an existing model, God created a whole new YOU! Why? Because He needs you to be just the way you are! Why bother and try to be somebody else? ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ

Donโ€™t imitate others. Observe them, learn from them, but donโ€™t try to be like them. Learn their skills but then implement them in your own life and move forward on your own road. Because you are walking your own road, you cannot follow the footsteps of somebody else, nor can someone else walk your road for you. They have their road, you have yours.

Why did the Creator give all of us different fingerprints, different ears, different noses? Wouldnโ€™t it have been much easier for Him to make all of us out of a single mold? One model; no differences, no comparisons. He could have done it, but He didnโ€™t. Why not? Apparently He needs us to be individual. He needs us to be different. Certainly this fact adds to the pleasure of the game. If all the characters in the play were alike, then it wouldnโ€™t be much fun to watch. He surely likes us all to be different. And He surely needs us all to be different!

Given the undisputed fact that we are all different, why would you try to be like somebody else? Why change your looks or your body with plastic surgery? Why not be happy with the way you are? Iโ€™m not just talking about appearance, but also about talents. Character. Everybody is unique. While longing for talents you donโ€™t have, you are neglecting those talents that you do have. This is rather counter-productive, no? You have been gifted with a unique set of talents, so find out what they are and use them. (I teach this to the women I mentor )

There is no coincidence. Everything in the universe exists for a reason. You are not talented by accident! Neither is it haphazard that you donโ€™t have some talents you would like to have.
If you donโ€™t have a nightingale voice, you were not meant to sing. You can do something else with your life according to the talents you do have, and leave the singing to someone who is naturally equipped for that. If you have no acting talents, you should not act. If you weigh too much, youโ€™d better start dreaming about something else than being a fashion model. (Not that us as big gals couldn’t model)๐Ÿ˜‰but you get what I mean…

Another undisputed fact is that everybody is gifted with his or her own unique talents. Make no mistake! Talents are not only about activities like singing, acting, dancing, painting, writing or excellence in sports. Your unique talent could be your spontaneity, your enthusiasm, your connection with animals, caring for the disabled, your generosity, being a good teacher or public speaker, being a loving community member, or being a good problem solver. It could be your capacity to love, your natural joy, your brilliance, intelligence, easily assimilating new languages, radiating beauty, having a funny way of expressing yourself, making others laugh, kindness, tenderness, and many more. The list of possible talents is very, very long indeedโ€ฆ๐Ÿคฉ

What matters in the end is for you to be yourself, right? To be yourself is to find out what your unique talents are. Unique, you say? Others are spontaneous too! Plenty of people are generous or friendly. True, but your uniqueness lays in the combination of your key talents. Find out what your prominent talents are and how you can put them together. In the synergy and alignment of your key talents lies the beauty of your uniqueness.๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿพโฃ๏ธ

It would be a big waste of time trying to be someone else. You are at your best being Yourself! The world needs you as you are, exactly as you are! Dare to be yourself. The more you dare to be yourself, the more freedom you will feel. ๐Ÿ™Œ๐ŸพThe more freedom you feel, the more you will dare. Daring and freedom support each other to re-create your unique self in an ever expanding celebration of Life. Your life.

Now, go out and do you boo..๐Ÿ˜˜you have my permission!!!!!

Have an Oโ€™mazing day,

๐™Š๐™ก๐™ž๐™ซ๐™ž๐™– ๐˜ฝ ๐™Ž๐™๐™š๐™ฅ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™™

๐™๐™ง๐™–๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™ข๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐˜พ๐™ค๐™–๐™˜๐™/๐™ˆ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ค๐™ง

โ€œ๐™ƒ๐™š๐™ก๐™ฅ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™’๐™ค๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™๐™ง๐™–๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™ข ๐™๐™๐™š๐™ž๐™ง ๐™ˆ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™™๐™จ ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™Š๐™ง๐™™๐™š๐™ง ๐™๐™ค ๐™๐™ง๐™–๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™– ๐™‰๐™š๐™ฌ ๐™‡๐™ž๐™›๐™šโ€œ

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5 Simple Techniques to Collect Positivity in Your Life – Ethereal Empathy

5 Simple Techniques to Collect Positivity in Your Life – Ethereal Empathy
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14 Days of Self-Loveโฃ๏ธMonday Motivation…

Happy Monday…I am still on the topic of Self-Love and from now until Friday I will continue to give you all tips to learn the importance of loving yourself completely…โฃ๏ธ

This morning we will start with motivation, which is the heart of all we do! If we lack motivation we end up not loving ourselves properly…So here we go, continue reading…

Pain may sometimes be the reason why people change. Getting flunked grades make us realize that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to look for a source of income. Being humiliated gives us the โ€˜pushโ€™ to speak up and fight for ourselves to save our face from the next embarrassments. It may be a bitter experience, a friendโ€™s tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need in order to improve ourselves.

With the countless negativities the world brings about, how do we keep motivated? Try these tips I prepared from A to Zโ€ฆ

๐˜ผ- Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things and places. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, โ€œthe future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.โ€๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿพ

๐˜ฝ- Believe in your self, and in what you can do.๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿพ

๐˜พโ€“ Consider things on every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides.๐ŸคŽ

๐˜ฟโ€“ Donโ€™t give up and donโ€™t give in. Thomas Edison failed once, twice, more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Make motivation as your steering wheel. ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿพ

๐™€-Enjoy. Work as if you donโ€™t need money. Dance as if nobodyโ€™s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if youโ€™ll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.๐ŸคŽ

๐™โ€“ Family and Friends โ€“ are lifeโ€™s greatest โ€˜Fโ€™ treasures. Donโ€™t loose sight of them.๐ŸคŽ

๐™‚โ€“ Give more than what is enough. Where does motivation and self improvement take place at work? At home? At school? When you exert extra effort in doing things.๐ŸคŽ

๐™ƒโ€“ Hang on to your dreams. They may dangle in there for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force.๐ŸคŽ

๐™„โ€“ Ignore those who try to destroy you. Donโ€™t let other people to get the best of you. Stay out of toxic people โ€“ the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success.

๐™…โ€“ Just be yourself. The key to success is to be yourself. And the key to failure is to try to please everyone.๐ŸคŽ

๐™†โ€“ keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way to self improvement.


๐™‡โ€“ Learn to love your self. Now isnโ€™t that easy? ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธโค๏ธ

๐™ˆโ€“ Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes.๐ŸคŽ

๐™‰โ€“ Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game. ๐ŸคŽ

๐™Šโ€“ Open your eyes. ๐Ÿ‘€People should learn the horse attitude and horse sense. They see things in 2 ways โ€“ how they want things to be, and how they should be.๐ŸคŽ

๐™‹โ€“ Practice makes perfect. Practice is about motivation. It lets us learn repertoire and ways on how can we recover from our mistakes.๐ŸคŽ

๐™Œโ€“ Quitters never win. And winners never quit. So, choose your fate โ€“ are you going to be a quitter? Or a winner?๐ŸคŽ

๐™โ€“ Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. We must hear the little voice within us telling us to get started before others will get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasnโ€™t raining when Noah build the ark.๐ŸคŽ

๐™Žโ€“ Stop procrastinating. (Really ๐Ÿšซ stop putting off your dreams)

๐™โ€“ Take control of your life. Discipline or self control jives synonymously with motivation. Both are key factors in self-improvement.๐ŸคŽ

๐™โ€“ Understand others. If you know very well how to talk, you should also learn how to listen. Yearn to understand first, and to be understood the second.๐ŸคŽ

๐™‘โ€“ Visualize it. Motivation without vision is like a boat on a dry land.๐ŸคŽ

๐™’โ€“ Want it more than anything. Dreaming means believing. And to believe is something that is rooted out from the roots of motivation and self-improvement.๐ŸคŽ

๐™“โ€“ X Factor is what will make you different from the others. When you are motivated, you tend to put on โ€œextrasโ€ on your life like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on.๐ŸคŽ

๐™”โ€“ You are unique. No one in this world looks, acts, or talks like you. Value your life and existence, because youโ€™re just going to spend it once.๐ŸคŽ

๐™•โ€“ Zero in on your dreams and go for it!!! (What are you waiting for)๐ŸคŽ

So there you go from A-Z reasons to stay motivated while learning to love ๐Ÿ’— yourself in the process!

Have an Oโ€™mazing week ahead…

XoXo

๐™Š๐™ก๐™ž๐™ซ๐™ž๐™– ๐˜ฝ ๐™Ž๐™๐™š๐™ฅ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™™

๐™๐™ง๐™–๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™ข๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐˜พ๐™ค๐™–๐™˜๐™/๐™ˆ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ค๐™ง

14 Days of Self-Loveโฃ๏ธSelf-Care Tips for Relieving Stress

Feeling stressed? Join the club! It seems that these days, feeling stressed is just about the default emotion for many of us. The problem is that we often donโ€™t know how to handle or control those feelings. 

Thatโ€™s a real shame, given just how simple and easy it really is to get feelings of stress and anxiety back under control. Follow these 7 self-care methods you can use to raise your spirits. Self-love/care isn’t selfish…remember thatโ˜บ๏ธ

1๏ธโƒฃ Breathe

Breathing correctly is a powerful method for fighting anxiety. Look into something called โ€œbelly breathingโ€ for an idea of how to do this.

Another tip is to try using specific breathing exercises, such as the fourfold breath. You can learn many of these from yoga. (I learned this in my coping skills class, works wonders) ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿพ

2๏ธโƒฃ Take a warm bath ๐Ÿ›

A warm bath provides a time to just relax and focus on yourself. Moreover, the warm water will relax your muscles, while any scented candles can further lull you into a state of calm. (Bathtime should be something you do at least once a week) โ˜บ๏ธ

3๏ธโƒฃ Eat something wholesome ๐ŸŽ๐Ÿฅ’๐Ÿฅฆ๐Ÿฅ—

Eating triggers the release of serotonin. Very often, when we are very stressed, it is actually at least partly because we have not eaten recently. As such, our blood sugar is low and we have high cortisol! (I’m not a BIG fan of eating healthy, but the Keto diet worked wonders for me )

4๏ธโƒฃ Exercise ๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ

Exercising also triggers serotonin. Itโ€™s also a great way of reminding ourselves that we are in control, and that we can do something productive and healthy if we so choose. (So they ๐Ÿ˜‚, I hate exercising ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ)

5๏ธโƒฃ Listen to up-beat music ๐ŸŽง

Music can help to guide and shape your emotions. Upbeat music is particularly effective when it comes to stimulating a great mood, and helping you to forget your troubles. (A little rap music ๐ŸŽถ doesn’t hurt anybody๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿพ)

6๏ธโƒฃ Talk to a friend

Talking to friends is an excellent way to improve your mood. Humans are social animals, and as such, we are wired to spend time with other people. Not only that, but a good friend can help talk you through your stresses, or at least distract you from them with some lighthearted chat. (Good friends help make life better) ๐Ÿ’•

7๏ธโƒฃ Meditate ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ

Meditation teaches you to rise above emotions that are dragging you down, and to take conscious control over your attention, and your mood. This is a powerful tool, and one that everyone can benefit from.

To get started, just find a quiet place, sit down, close your eyes, and focus on your breathing. If you find your mind wanders, then just gently bring it back to your breath. ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿพ

Hope these tips help you are your journey to loving yourself more…โฃ๏ธ

XoXo ๐Ÿ’‹

Olivia B. Shepherd

Transformation Coach/Mentor

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14 Days of Self-Love โฃ๏ธDay 5

As you know I’m still teaching the women in my FB group Unleashing Your Mask all about the importance of self-love, and as promised I am sharing with you as well. I gave them a few tips about the importance of journaling ๐Ÿ“• so here you go:

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Now, you all know how much journaling means to meโ€ฆI listed down below some reasons why you be falling in love โค๏ธ with journaling tooโ€ฆ

๐Ÿ“”โœ๏ธJournaling is a simple act and something many of us might have done as children. As we get older, we often feel we donโ€™t have time for journaling, and we drop the habit. But this is a huge shame, as not only is journaling a rewarding experience in itself, itโ€™s also a practice that can help you to cultivate a better mindset, more gratitude and overall greater happiness and calm.
So how does journaling offer all of those benefits? In this presentation, thatโ€™s exactly what weโ€™ll be looking at.

โœ๏ธIt Helps You Reflect on Your Day: ๐Ÿ˜

Firstly, journaling will help you to reflect on your day, and gives you the opportunity to think deeply about what went well and what went wrong. This kind of โ€œblack boxโ€ thinking is perfect for making positive changes in your life, as it helps you to see where things could be going better.

โœ๏ธIt Provides a Record:

Another great reason to journal is that it allows you to remember things that you would otherwise have forgotten. The simple act of writing things down helps to cement them in the memory, and to thereby ensure they have more lasting impact. At the same time though, this also give you the option to read those things back and to relive days and weeks from your history.
Not only does this give you a better sense of perspective and context for your life, but it also means your memories become fuller. That in turn makes your life seem longer and richer, which helps to make you a more contented and well-developed individual.

โœ๏ธGratitude:

Journaling doesnโ€™t just mean writing down what happened during the day. It can also mean taking part in various different exercises.
One such exercise is gratitude. Take some time each day to write down three things that you are grateful for. This practice will help you to remember that you already have so much, and to not simply focus on the things you donโ€™t have. Guess which makes you happier?

โœ๏ธSelf-Love: (this is my fav reason)โฃ๏ธ

Another similar exercise is to write down three more things, this time things that you like about yourself. Alternatively, you could write down nice complements that others have paid you. This helps us to focus more on our positive traits, rather than negative ones โ€“ as we so often do.
Simply taking the time to bask in these feelings of self-love can transform the way you feel on a daily basis. And itโ€™s all thanks to journaling! โ˜บ๏ธ

There you have it, let’s pull out those journals and get to journaling ladiesโ€ฆ

Also here are questions 4๏ธโƒฃ and 5๏ธโƒฃ along with the affirmations for the dayโฃ๏ธ

Wishing you an awesome Wednesday and hope you all are practicing Self-Love…โฃ๏ธ

Olivia B. Shepherd

Transformation Coach/ Mentor

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How To Let Go of Toxic People

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Self-care/love is not just about what you do, but also what you STOP doing.
There are many habits and behaviors that can slowly eat away at your mood, your contentment, your health, and more. Taking sensible care of ourselves means learning to identify these things, and to stop doing them.

Down below I will be discussing one of the most harmful habits that many of us maintain: Spending time with toxic people.๐Ÿ˜ณ
So, whatโ€™s a toxic person?

Essentially, thatโ€™s anyone who consistently makes you feel worse about yourself. Perhaps they are judgemental, maybe they are unkind, or maybe they are selfish. Unfortunately, many of us continue to put up with such people, simply because we have become used to their treatment of us. Or perhaps out of a misguided sense of loyalty.๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ

Either way, this can eat away at your self-confidence, cause stress, and ultimately make you less happy and successful.
The problem is how to get away from someone who is deeply ingrained in your routine!

๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸพThe first thing you need to do is to identify these people and to recognize that they wonโ€™t change. Too often, we think that we can change people by changing the way we treat them. In truth, most people are very much set in their ways. Itโ€™s unlikely theyโ€™ll ever change, and certainly not through the influence of a friend or acquaintance. You simply canโ€™t afford to wait.๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ

With that out of the way, it might still be hard to completely stop seeing someone. If they work where you do, or if you have mutual friends, then it can be tough to go โ€˜cold turkeyโ€™ as it were. (but don’t give in)

Instead, then you might do better to simply create boundaries. (y’ all know how I feel about boundaries) If this person lets you down, then learn to stop expecting things from them. If they are unkind, then try to avoid alone time.

You might have to see them in group settings, but you donโ€™t owe them anything, and there is no reason for you to spend time with them one-on-one.

You have given this person chances, and you donโ€™t owe them anything. You canโ€™t โ€˜fix them,โ€™ so you MUST not let them harm you. Keep your interactions to a courteous minimal, and donโ€™t be afraid to coldly cut them offโ€ฆ
Youโ€™ll find that life becomes MUCH easier when you do.

Baby Steps my dear..

Olivia B. Shepherd โฃ๏ธ

Do You Have Trouble Saying โ€Noโ€ or Setting Boundariesโ—๏ธโ“

Many of us fail to care for ourselves the way we should. Part of this is down to a lack of consideration for the way we treat ourselves โ€“ perhaps self-care simply isnโ€™t something youโ€™ve considered in the past.

But part of it is also down to your sense of commitment to others. That is to say that we often put ourselves second, simply because we put everyone else first.

And this is perhaps most apparent in our inability to say โ€œno.โ€ How many times have you been invited to an event that you donโ€™t have time or energy for, only to accept simply because you donโ€™t want to let that person down?

Learning to say โ€œnoโ€ is therefore one of the most important things you can do if you want to be happier with yourself, and if you want to protect your mental health.

Hereโ€™s how to do it.

Tip 1๏ธโƒฃ Do it right away

Too often we will put off the act of saying no, because we canโ€™t bare to do it! This of course only makes it more of a shock to people when we tell them. Not only that, but it then hangs over us. So just bite the bullet and tell them!

Oh and donโ€™t say โ€˜maybeโ€™ only to then change your mind. THIS is what makes people think you are โ€˜flakyโ€™ โ€“ not the act of saying no itself.

Tip 2๏ธโƒฃ Donโ€™t make excuses

Do you want to come out tonight?

No sorry, my family are visiting, and also I have a cold, and also I have no money.

No one buys these excuses, and it makes people think you donโ€™t want to spend time with them. Just saying โ€˜noโ€™ because you need some time to yourself is perfectly fine. Whatโ€™s more, is that if you and your friends can be honest with each other and not place pressure on one another, then you can improve your relationships.

Tip 3๏ธโƒฃ Donโ€™t fret about it๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ

Many of us donโ€™t want to say no, because we fear that weโ€™ll never be invited out again, or because we think weโ€™ll hurt someoneโ€™s feelings. In truth, the other person will likely think nothing of it! So, donโ€™t worry about it.

And if you ARE worried, then you can always just invite them out for coffee or drinks next time. That shows youโ€™re interested, so no harm was done!

There you have quick simple tips to saying โ€Noโ€ and setting boundaries without feeling guilty!!!

Will you say โ€Noโ€ today???

Happy Tuesday,

Olivia B. Shepherd โฃ๏ธ

Transformation Coach / Mentor





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Happy February โฃ๏ธThe Month of all Things Self-Love & Self-Care

Happy February, โ˜บ๏ธ apparently the little hog saw his shadow so yayyyy for early spring ๐ŸŒธ. Which is kind of funny because here in the south we haven’t had much of the cold weather ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธlol. So there you have it… February is also the month of love but I like to focus on self-love for those of us who suffer from depression and anxiety. In my Facebook join here if you like ๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿพ https://www.facebook.com/groups/unleashingyourmask I help the women to focus on the importance of self-love/care and why they should make it a priority in their lives.

Each day I will give a journal prompt and an affirmation of the day, along with some great tips to get through this month…so if you are not apart of my group, I will share a couple of tips with you all as well. Below are the questions so far, please feel free to answer them here or jot them down in your journals๐Ÿ“”๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿพ

Also here are some affirmations to use all, selflove is all about loving who you are and who God created you to be…โฃ๏ธ

Remember you are built for this๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿพ
Only God opinion matters

I hope this month finds you well…

XoXo โค๏ธ

Olivia B. Shepherd