Month: January 2020

5 Steps for Building Self-Confidence in the New Year 🎊 #mondaymotivation

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Happy New Week; here’s a little Monday motivation to get your week started…
Self-confidence is an all-important trait you need to acquire in today’s fast-paced world. For one thing, you must have confidence in yourself first to earn the confidence and respect of others. The following strategies may be useful to overcome such self-conquering thought habits. Consider these steps as the building blocks for greater confidence in any aspect of your life. 💪🏾

1️⃣ Concentrate on your strengths rather than on your weaknesses.

Confidence comes from within. You have to concentrate on the positive things about yourself. Remember the past is over; you can only change the future. Write down ten positive things about yourself. Concentrate on your potentials. These are the reasons you should love yourself and have high self-confidence in yourself. Give yourself credit for every positive thing you have written about yourself. Remember, you’re somebody special. 💖

2️⃣ Remind yourself of past successes.

Confidence builds on past success. Because you had success before, you can (and will) have it once more. We strengthen our confidence in any interest when we remind or review ourselves of past successes. If you are trying to develop confidence in a new aspect, past success can still be useful in strengthening our confidence. For instance, if you had success in doing something new in the past, recall those experiences when trying something else new even if it is in a completely different part of your life.

3️⃣ Take risks.

Try doing things that you’ve never tried before. It’s always a little bit of a challenge in doing new things and just the act of accepting these challenges, some little and some big, whether we are successful or not, frequently improves our self-confidence. Approach new experiences as opportunities to learn instead of occasions to win or lose. Doing so brings you new opportunities and can improve your sense of self-acceptance. Not doing so turns every possibility into an opportunity for failure, and inhibits self-growth.

4️⃣ Use self-talk.

Use self-talk as an opportunity to contradict destructive beliefs. Then, remind yourself to stop and replace more realistic assumptions. For example, if you catch yourself expecting perfection, tell yourself that you can’t do everything perfectly, that it’s only possible to try to do things and to try to do them well. This also allows you to accept yourself while still working to improve.

5️⃣ Visualize your future success.

Corporate executives, Olympic athletes, and successful people in all types of undertakings see future success. Confidence will increase when we visualize ourselves succeeding. Think about it. If you know you will succeed, your confidence will soar, right? Seeing future success does that very thing for us. Our minds cannot distinguish the difference between something real and something vividly imagined. So vividly visualize your success. What will it look like, smell like, taste like, and feel like to have succeeded? Who will be with you, what will you be hearing and where will you be? How will you be feeling at that instant? Placing this much vivid detail into your mind increases the likelihood of success, and supports greater confidence! Apply these steps in your daily life and your confidence will soar in the New Year 🎊

Have amazing week….🌟

𝓞𝓵𝓲𝓿𝓲𝓪 𝓑. 𝓢𝓱𝓮𝓹𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓭

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Are You Ready To Be Happy This New Year 🎊

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Happiness is a "now you feel it, now you don’t" emotion.😁😩🤷🏾‍♀️ 

I know this from personal experience and from hearing of the experiences of others.  Sometimes I’m very happy, other times, sad, joyful, contented, frustrated, and sometimes very neutral. 

Several years ago I had no reference point for the word happy.  I knew technically the meaning of the word, however, the experience eluded me.  Joy I could do, happy for some reason, no.

One day during a workshop the word happy was demonstrated to me with much laughter from the audience.  Now I not only get "happy" but remember it also as a fun experience.  

There are many small things that can make me happy as well as give me endless joy.  I’ve listed seven simple ways toward experiencing a happy moment, but the first check you have a reference point to the word happy.  Find out what happiness really means to you? 

1️⃣	Remember or create a ‘happy’ moment.  When you live the experience of ‘happy’ your mind and body will remember.  Feel the happiness in all parts of you, expand this feeling if need be.  Practice this daily.

2️⃣	Access the Present moment.  Notice what happens to you when you’re totally focused on a comedy show on television, when you listen to light-hearted music or when you dance - even if it’s on your own.  I sometimes groove to a tune in my office when no-one’s looking – it makes me feel good, cool, give me a break from what I’m doing and I laugh at myself! 

3️⃣	Invite friends over for some playtime.  Organize paper, crayons, paint, and colored pencils, whatever you can think of and do some drawings or paintings.  You could also ask each person to bring along a plate of food.

 4️⃣	Spend time with nature, go for a walk down the beach or park; observe wildlife in your area or visit a plant nursery.  Notice your mood when amongst the spirit of nature.

5️⃣	Take something with you that gives you great pleasure such as a book, journal for writing or your MP3 player and sit and "Be" under the canopies of trees for a few hours.

6️⃣	Learn something totally new such as another language; pottery or painting or start your meditation, personal or spiritual development program.  You’re only ever limited by your own imagination.   

7️⃣ Join a club or group that you have an interest in.(like my Facebook group)👉🏾 Unleashing Your Mask You can then expand your friendship base with other like-minded souls. 

With any of the above activities assess what and how you’re feeling as well as where you feel the emotion and how much are you laughing, grinning, or smiling?  Remember them totally by living the experience and you will then be able to recall this memory when you want to.

Include to memory your experience colors, smells, sounds, and tastes – all the better for remembering your happy time with.

Quiet time spent alone can open the door to the possibility of connection to that most amazing and magical part of you that is your true self, the spirit within.🌟

From my experience, the key to a happy life begins with remembering who you are, know what gives you enjoyment, be present, and know that regardless of your circumstances no-one can take away your thoughts or dreams, they are yours to keep for as long as you wish.💖 

XoXo

Olivia B. Shepherd
Transformation Coach/Mentor

12 Thoughts For A Happy 😁New Year 🎊

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Happy New Year 🎊 friends🥳


We are officially into a new week of the new year, how are things going????


Did any of you make resolutions?


Do you actually keep them? 🤔


Well if you like me, I just make goals and keep it moving🤷🏾‍♀️


So if you need a little help to stay positive about those resolutions, let me help:👇🏾


Live each day so that you will neither be afraid of tomorrow nor ashamed of yesterday.” – Author Unknown 


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A-spiration

P-rosper

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E-ager

W-isdom

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1. To face the coming year’s problems use HOPE, faith, and your trust in God and His wisdom to guide you to the future that’s right for you. You can create your own future by focusing your thoughts on what you wish to accomplish. Know that you are responsible for everything that happens in your life – both good and bad.


2.  Make it your ASPIRATION to achieve something worthwhile. Learn a new skill, or seek greater knowledge in areas you don’t now have. Seek and master new ways to do something that’s already been done -and- do it better! Use the power of purpose by giving whatever it is you desire the highest amount of your attention. This determines how successful you will become.


3. Make a concentrated effort to improve, grow, and PROSPER. Increase your financial security. Dare to be happy. Exercise and stay in good health. Keep a positive attitude. Do whatever it takes to improve your personal and business image. And know that your relationship with giving is the spiritual source of your true prosperity.


4. Treat your life, family, friends, and others you meet as a PRECIOUS gift to be enjoyed, and of great value. Regard them with a love that is special and – it will all come back to you. Send forth good and its multiples. Honor every one you come in contact with today, tomorrow, and make it an ongoing behavior. This too is paid back to you by the Universe.


5. To YEARN is to express compassion. In this coming new year, experience it and show compassion for those less fortunate then you are. Offer ways to help others whenever and wherever you can. Give only good. The more you give of yourself, the more comes back to you. It may help make this a better world.


6. Learn to NETWORK and link to other like-minded individuals; whether it’s in an educational, business, or social setting the benefits can add to your growth and success. Celebrate and share your abilities so that you can attract more of the same.


7.  Be EAGER to learn new things. Opportunities are all around you. Having an intense passion or desire to find new opportunities is the sign of an enthusiastic person. This desire comes from God. In order for you to find new opportunities, always move toward your goal with spiritual awareness.


8. WISDOM – the ability to make well thought out decisions comes from maturity and understanding. In any given situation, it is wise not to judge until all facts are understood. Be open to understanding another’s point of view. Do you look at the world with a positive or a negative vision?


9. YESTERDAY is a day that has just passed. Now you are free to live in the present. Use each new day wisely and full of gratitude for every hour, every minute, and every second. Set goals for each day and take specific actions that will help you accomplish them.


10. ELOQUENT. Are you confident, persuasive and effective in the way you communicate? When speaking with others how would you rate yourself? Are you always voicing negative opinions? Or, are you positive in expressing your thoughts?


11. ADVERTISE. For those in business, always make the positive features and benefits of your product or service known. Appeal to the emotions of your prospective client. Give quality service and products so that your self-esteem is strengthened and your reputation is valued.🤑


12. – In the coming new year, here’s hoping that you will REWARD yourself for any successful personal and business achievements. Improve your skills where and when needed. Change any negative habits, and always follow His guidance in all things you attempt to do.🙏🏾


May this New Year bring you many blessings of good health, dreams to come true, prayers to be answered, and gratitude for all. Remember:


“Life is a series of new beginnings and in every ordinary moment there are a thousand miracles to behold.” -Flavia Weedn




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