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Setting Healthy Boundaries during the Holidays 🦃🎄

Taking care of your self and your body involves learning how to set boundaries in relationships. When you are stressed you are more likely to overeat, make rash decisions and lose sleep.When someone oversteps their bounds in your life or you are finding yourself arguing with someone it can turn on your fight or flight response causing high blood pressure, cortisol spikes, and weight gain.If you find yourself tensing up or changing your behavior around certain people maybe they have too much access to your life. Are you walking on eggshells to prevent a certain behavior?Stop 🚫it or stay away….I promise it’s ok to want to enjoy the holidays in peace without others drama…
If you don’t know how to set boundaries in relationships you will burn out and allow others to control your time and energy. It’s not selfish to set up boundaries, it’s actually very healthy.Here are a couple of affirmations to write down and recite before the Turkey 🦃and Christmas 🎄Tree Trimming….✔ I will not work harder on their problems than my own.✔I will not spend my time trying to change someone who doesn’t want to change.✔I will not allow the same person to repeatedly hurt me over and over.✔I will not change my behavior or my beliefs to appease others.It’s not your job to be everything to everyone and you should not be working harder on people’s problems than they are.Best Wishes on a great Holiday,Lady O 🦋Ashes To Beauty Mentoring & Outreach

Do You Suffer From Holiday Depression?….🦃🎄

Do you suffer from holiday depression, stress, and anxiety??

Do your family members make you crazy around this time of the year?…

Wondering what Aunt Edith will say to embarrass you around the holiday table this year? Thinking that Tums and Tylenol won’t be enough to endure the extra helpings of “sarcasm served cold,” that’s dished out by your mother in law?😒

If you dread family holidays with your cooked-out clan, you’re not alone. The Christian Post posted results from their recent survey: Twenty-four percent of individuals surveyed they dreaded seeing relatives and 16% stated that they did not look forward to attending holiday parties and events.🤷🏾‍♀️

According to an article in Entrepreneur.com, more than 60% of baby boomers, Gen Xers and millennials report feeling increased stress at holiday time. This is at least partially owed to strained relationships and forced interactions with family during the most socially overbooked and financially burdensome time of year.

So why, when we think of celebrating another year coming to a close, and celebrating that with our relatives, does this incite panic attacks and neurosis rather than a peaceful, and benevolent feeling? And a better question, how to avoid conflict at Christmas? Below, some reasons and solutions to family stress during the holidays.

Clashes of Personality

Not everyone has the same ideas about things, and that’s no more apparent than when the entire family gets together. Whether it’s quibbling over how long to cook the turkey, arguing over who gets to host and who gets to make the trip… not agreeing on how much to spend on presents, or navigating conversational minefields… different family personality types can come into conflict at holiday time for sure. And please don’t add politics to the mix…especially during this time!

“Secrets of a Positive Attitude”


Greetings Friends,

Are you constantly bombarded by thoughts of negativity? Plagued by feelings of insecurity? Do you see everything in a negative manner? The reason for this lies deep within your heart. You are what you mentally and spiritually eat. If a person drinks alcohol on a daily basis, odds are their body will be affected in some way. They may have liver issues, develop cancer or incur some other type of health problem directly related to the amount of alcohol they have consumed. In the same way, a person who constantly feeds themselves negative thoughts will simply turn into a negative person.

This is the time to go on a diet. A diet of positive attitude food. You have to literally stop feeding your mind negative things. Ask yourself is this thought negative or positive or negative? What do negative thoughts look like? Well, they start with can’t rather than can, no as opposed to yes, will and not won’t. The Bible which is the greatest self-help book ever written, speaks about taking every thought captive. The problem in our society has become that our thoughts have taken us captive. We have begun to let our thoughts control us.

A great way to know what we are negative about is to ask those people who are closest to us. You can ask your spouse
or another person in your life who really knows you how they would rate your attitude on a scale of 1 to 10. 10 being super positive and 1 super negative. Ask this person to be totally honest with you. You will benefit from their honesty even if it causes you pain. Ask this person what it is that you specifically say that they perceive as negative. Write down what they say and look at the actual words. Now is the time to be honest with yourself. Those words are a reflection of what is inside you. They are who you are. The great thing is that you can change. It is as simple as making a choice to do so. You must decide to replace the thoughts of negativity with thoughts of positivity. Decide what words you will change the negative words on your paper. Once you have done this, make an effort to insert these new positive thoughts in your mind. You will begin to notice a positive change taking place in your life. Your family, friends, and co-workers will all notice it as well. They may not know what is different about you. But they will know that you are not the same person that you were.

The items which are causing negativity in your life could very well be the news, movies, constantly replaying tragedy in your mind and the list could go on. These things should be eliminated if you want your new mental health regimen to be a success. The news is very negative and does not help someone who is trying to rid their mind of such thoughts. When you are feeding yourself thoughts of death from a war or gunshot or car accident visually the outcome will be negative. I do believe there is a time to grieve over the death of a loved one. However, if a person constantly replays this negative event in their minds it can lead to depression. The person who has passed away is not coming back and we must close that chapter in our lives and move on to the next chapter. This is a difficult task that can only be done by making a decision to proceed with our own life, no matter how hard this may be.

You can do it. You can and will have a positive attitude if you simply take the steps outlined above. You do not have to be what you were in the past. You can be different in the future. The choice is yours. I know you will make a positive one.

Much continued positive attitude success,

Olivia B. Shepherd💋
𝓛𝓲𝓯𝓮 𝓔𝓶𝓹𝓸𝔀𝓮𝓻𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽 𝓜𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓸𝓻
𝓣𝓻𝓪𝓷𝓼𝓯𝓸𝓻𝓶𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓸𝓷 𝓒𝓸𝓪𝓬𝓱

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New Podcast Alert 🚨🎙

🚨New Podcast Alert🎙

Life isn’t fair. Everyone, at some point, has to deal with a painful or unpleasant situation that they did not deserve. While some people are able to cope with the “unfair” situation and then move on, others seem to get stuck.

Do you feel stuck?
Do you constantly blame others or yourself for your problems?

Or

Do you quickly move on and make lemonade out of lemons being thrown at you???

Check out this week’s podcast below to learn how to move beyond that victim mentality, so you can start living a victorious life 💫👇🏾…🎙

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It’s My Birthday 🎉Weekend…🙌🏾

#30daysofthankfulness
#mybirthdayweekend

Sooooo it’s my birthday 🎉weekend and I’m so thankful after everything I’ve been through I’m still standing….

My birthday is my favorite thing on earth because for some weird reason I think I’m the only person born on this day 11/19🤷🏾‍♀️🤣

A lot of people think I’m too old to be celebrating, but they don’t know how much I’ve survived…..so with that being said, what birthday 🎈celebration are you thankful for?

Most of us are dealing with mental health issues and probably thought this illness would have taken us out by now, so let us know why celebrating another year of life was worth being thankful for 👇🏾🎂

Olivia B. Shepherd 🎉
Life Empowerment Mentor/Transformation Coach

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Are Your Fears Keeping You From a Great Life….

Good Tuesday friends😊

Have you ever had a fear that kept you from living life fully? Perhaps this fear has stopped you from having MORE fun or experiencing GREATER success. Yes? This article will help you learn to overcome your fear and increase your self-confidence.

Conquering your fears, one by one; builds confidence and increases your quality of life. Don’t let your fears hold you back from living the life you wish you were living.

Try These 10 Tips For Conquering Your Fears:

1️⃣ Recognize fear is present (be mindful that it exist)

2️⃣ Declare you are going to conquer the fear (don’t let shit keep you from your goals)

3️⃣ Expect to feel anxious, awkward and scared (it’s ok to feel scared, but do it anyway)🤷🏾‍♀️

4️⃣ Consider copying a style you like until you find your own style (imitation is flattering)

5️⃣ Focus your attention (stop 🚫with all the distractions)

6️⃣ Motivate yourself with affirmations (you all know I love affirming myself)💞

7️⃣ Step into the fear with abandon

8️⃣ Let go and have fun! Remind yourself to keep breathing. 😁

9️⃣ Pat yourself on the back when it’s over (you did it)💪🏾

🔟 Notice how much easier it gets When you have time, take a personal inventory of the fears keeping you from living the life you want. Then make a commitment and challenge yourself to face and conquer one them that’s been holding you back.

Use the tips above to guide your way. To get started, see if any common fears from the list above fit you:

Have a Terrific Tuesday…😘

𝓞𝓵𝓲𝓿𝓲𝓪 𝓑. 𝓢𝓱𝓮𝓹𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓭

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𝓣𝓻𝓪𝓷𝓼𝓯𝓸𝓻𝓶𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓸𝓷 𝓒𝓸𝓪𝓬𝓱

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