Month: August 2019

Tuesday Tips….Building Your Self-Esteem💞

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When someone thinks of a person with self-esteem most people think of someone who has a positive attitude. While someone who generally has self-esteem could have a positive attitude, this is not what I am referring to.😃

Having self-esteem is when you have a high regard for yourself, when you value who you are. In other words, having self-esteem is when you have a strong belief and respect for yourself.

If you find yourself down a lot and have a hard time feeling good, you may be dealing with low self-esteem. Below you will find 3 ways to build your self-esteem.

1️⃣Give credit where credit is do: When you accomplish a particular task give yourself credit for doing something successfully. It may be something as small as thanking someone for something. That is a success because you acknowledge something that someone has done for you. So, give yourself credit for the things you do. I bet if you really thought about it, you do a lot of successful things throughout the day. Start giving yourself credit for that.

2️⃣Say good things to yourself: When you accidentally drop or spill something, what are the first words out of your mouth? If the words dummy, idiot, stupid, or any other negative words come out of your mouth, try not reacting to the situation. Take a deep breath and move on knowing we all have accidents. The point here is not to react to the situation. Give yourself a break, think good thoughts about yourself, and don’t forget to laugh. 💪🏾

3️⃣Accept the good in you: Just like giving yourself credit for the success you have each day, acknowledge the things you know how to do well. There are things you can do better than anyone. If you gave it some thought you can come up with a number of things you do well. What are some of the things you do well? Think about it, and when you do, write them down. So, the next time you are feeling down go back to the list you made and accept the good in you.

Building your self-esteem is going to help you take bigger risks and have a more fulfilling life. With a high self-esteem, you can accomplish anything. You will find yourself sticking with your goals, and taking on any challenge that comes your way. Building self-esteem does take time; however, anything that is going to help you live your life to the fullest is worth it. Try finding someone who can help you along the way, a friend, a mentor, or even a coach. You can do it, I know you can!🙌🏾

XoXo💋

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Daily Reminder💞

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Happy Tuesday Friends..what have you been trying to do but disappointed that it didn’t work?

Remember it’s ok to try, try, again until you get the results you want..

Who gone stop you boo…..💪🏾😃

Have a Terrific Tuesday 💋

Monday Mindset….🦋

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For many people happiness is an elusive butterfly in the garden of life. Imagine a young child in the garden on a summer day. The child sees a beautiful butterfly flitting from flower to flower. With eyes of wonder the child wants to see it close up, touch it, and hold it in their hands. The child goes towards the flower that the butterfly is resting on, with arms out stretched, only to find as he just gets in reach, the butterfly moves to another flower. Undeterred the child follows the butterfly to the next flower, and then the next, but the butterfly always stays just out of reach.😊

As adults, happiness can seem just like that butterfly, always just out of reach. It becomes almost an obsession and the words “if only…” become an increasingly large part of our thoughts and vocabulary. If only I had more money I would be happy, if only I was in a great relationship I would be happy, if only I could have a different job……….and the list goes on. Even if we achieve one of our “if only “desires, the happiness we seek is still just out of our reach. The truth of the saying “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” becomes our focus and perception. If this becomes our focus, we find that dissatisfaction and unhappiness increasingly keep growing in our life and experience.

The unhappiness within us can not be completely satisfied by external events or circumstances. To find happiness in life we must first be at peace with ourselves internally. External events and circumstances can bring us happiness in the moment, but they do not have a lasting effect on our inner self. Life experience brings a mixture of good and bad circumstances to everyone. To rely on life’s experiences for our source of happiness would mean living life in a constant emotional roller-coaster ride.

😃Happiness comes from within. The inner contentment that survives the roller coaster ride of life has its roots deep within our being. The source of happiness comes from finding and embracing who we are as a person, and living a life of purpose. We need to find peace in every aspect of our life- the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. To discover acceptance, purpose and peace in all of these areas will give a sense of completion in life. If we neglect any one of these areas, we experience a sense of emptiness and feel something is missing. There is not a solid foundation for building happiness within, but we then, typically start to try to fill this incompleteness by looking for outside solutions. That is the point when we can fall into the ‘elusive butterfly’ syndrome, and experience such frustration.

Is happiness an elusive butterfly for you? Spend some time in quiet reflection. Are you neglecting one of the four important parts of who you are and experiencing a sense of emptiness within? The more you discover, embrace and accept your uniqueness and purpose, the more you will experience the butterfly of happiness alighting on your shoulder.

Sending positive vibes friends….💋

Daily Reminder…Monday Motivation

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Yes…it’s Monday again!!!

A fresh new day for a fresh new start and if there were some goals you wanted to accomplish last week, start today!!!

Start by visualizing yourself getting shit done…💪🏾

Visualizing your dreams coming true makes it easier to work toward achieving it; it keeps the achievement alive in you.

This is a very important part of your journey that may help you access how much you want that certain thing that you have been wishing and hoping for!!😊

Have an awesome productive week my friends…💋

Full Moon August 2019 🌚

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#fullmoon🌚2019

I have never been into rituals about the moon, but lately I have been reading up on some ways to connect spiritually with God and the His universe! My mind has been all over the place this month and I felt the need to do a little journaling full moon ritual to clear my moon! Here are a few you can use to:

•These thoughts and beliefs are no longer serving me:

•If I continue to hold onto these thoughts and beliefs they will negatively impact my life by:

•They will negatively impact my loved one’s lives by:

•They will negatively impact the world by:

•I am ready to release these thoughts and beliefs because:

This month I want to remember that:

• I am ready to step into:

•I am ready to receive:

•My soul is craving less of:

•My soul is craving more of:

”The moon is a loyal companion.

It never leaves. It’s always there, watching, steadfast, knowing us in our light and dark moments, changing forever just as we do. Every day it’s a different version of itself. Sometimes weak and wan, sometimes strong and full of light. The moon understands what it means to be human.

Uncertain. Alone. Cratered by imperfections.”

𝓛𝓪𝓭𝔂 ‘𝓞’

Tuesday Tips…Can You Say Yes To Happiness…Part 2😃

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Happy Tuesday, how easy is it for you to say ’Yes’ to happiness?😃

Here are a few tips to help if you need a little boost👇🏾 don’t forget the 1st 3 tips in a previous blog post! 💞

4️⃣Listen To Your Feelings: All feelings are good. Every feeling occurs for a reason: it is delivering a message. Sometimes that message is pleasant, other times not. Our tendency is to distract ourselves from unpleasant feelings, often through smoking, drinking or drugs of one kind or another. When you feel bad, avoid distracting yourself, and identify the reason—there is some need not being met.

5️⃣Give Of Yourself: The more you give, the more you receive. There is probably no scientific study proving this to be so, but unconditional giving is hugely rewarding. It seems that the more of yourself you give, the greater the thrill and uplifting effect on your psyche. Help the needy. Give time if you can. Give anonymously, even if you lose the tax deduction!

6️⃣Make It Happen: You have the ability to make things happen using your mind. Top sports stars, and business people use it, and so can you. There are many ways of doing this; one of the common methods is to use visualization—getting a picture in your mind of whatever it is that you want to happen. It does not actually have to be a visual picture; it could be a feeling, a smell, a sound, or any combination of the senses. Imagine finding the perfect parking near the entrance as you arrive at the supermarket or mall … the sky is the limit, but persevere! We are not used to utilizing this tool, so it takes practice.

7️⃣Accept The Things You Cannot Change: We resist things we don’t like, and often expend a tremendous amount of energy on this resistance. Whilst this can be good, and has resulted in tremendous advances through history, we should work to understand those things we cannot change, and then move on. Rather use the saved energy on something more worthwhile and productive. This is not to say that you should complacently accept anything. If you truly desire change, you should work towards that change; but spending time worrying about something without actively working to change it is unproductive and damaging to your wellbeing.

You have the power to create your Happiness…just follow my tips and you will be smiling in no time…enjoy💋

Recovery Is Possible….🙌🏾 Wednesday Wisdom

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Aww the memories….3 years later and I’m still proud of how I’ve overcome all that was meant to destroy me!!!

𝓛𝓪𝓭𝔂 ‘𝓞’

Certified Transformation Coach

”Turning Pain Into Beautiful Possibilities”

2 years ago on this date I received my BA from Columbia College 😃👩🏽‍🎓I was so extremely proud, but so massively depressed! I hid it so well and couldn’t wait to get home and get back into my bed. I wanted to die and nobody understood, all they saw was the beautiful young woman going after her dreams!

Thank you to my friends who pushed and believed in me when I could have cared less. I am forever grateful for all of you!!! As I sit back and look at these pics, I can’t help but thank God, thank God for not giving up on me! He knew I had a purpose on this earth and I intend to use my talents to share my testimony!!! #youcandoit #idid #goafteryourdreams #cof2016 #koala

#columbiacollege