You really ought to let go of your picture of how you want it all to be. It means letting go of attempting to control things over which you’ve no control. Among the prime causes of our suffering is our wishing for matters to be different than they are. Yes, we all want a peaceful existence rather than a world filled with arms of mass destruction. Yes, we all wish for health rather than illness. Yes, we all wish for healthy, happy youngsters rather than youngsters who break our hearts. But occasionally life doesn’t hand us what we wish. And when we let go of our needing it all to be a particular way, we may breathe a sigh of relief and open the door to a more potent way of living.