Building Mastery/Mindfulness

If you are struggling with problems like being overwhelmed, over thinking, or overreacting. Then some of these skills I learned in my session on yesterday can probably help. Our mind can be our worse enemy: how many times have you experienced these things:

  • criticizing yourself, or letting others do it
  • Missing out on what someone said to you, because your mind was some place else, now that person is mad at you
  • You don’t realize a person or situation makes you upset, so you decided to stay, and then you explode with anger when it’s the last straw
  • Noticing at the last-minute that the relationship was very toxic, because you didn’t pay attention to their actions toward you

Being Mindful and Building Mastery can help you cope with these, and other situations before they get worse. Examples of Build Mastery activities in our daily life:

  • Hygiene
  • Doing your dishes
  • Cleaning whatever needs to be cleaned
  • Completing tasks or homework
  • Checking the mail/paying bills
  • Maintaining a certain level of organization

Build Mastery skills also include taking on realistic challenges and working toward your goals like,exercising, developing a hobby, or standing up for yourself.

Also don’t forget to give yourself credit for being mindful of your efforts. We don’t give ourselves enough credit for trying, depression and anxiety can be overwhelming. There may be times the only thing you can do is get out of bed, so congratulate yourself on that.

Now, imagine if there was a skill that would help pay better attention to what you were thinking, feeling, or doing at any moment. Imagine this skill could help you make healthier decisions and better choices that would improve your life. Well this skill defiantly exist and it is called Mindfulness: “the ability to be aware of your thoughts, emotions, physical sensations, and actions in the present’ (McKay, Wood, and Brantley 2007, 89.) This means instead of getting distracted by your thoughts, worries, regrets, and criticisms, you pay attention to what’s happening to you in the moment; so that you can make choices about what to do next. 

I know this may seem hard for some of us who suffer from mental illness to focus, but I really believe this could help. I have been practicing the mindful breathing exercises as well. Hope this helps one of you…..

Ms. Fran




30 Days of Gratitude Day: 6

“Gratitude is wine for the soul. Go on. Get drunk.” -Rumi

Happy Monday and new time, man I love this new time change. As you know I’m in the bed before 6 anyway, so being dark early is right up my alley. lol Well today was a long but productive day, my Monday started off pretty good. I felt rested and got up with no problem at all. Today was the day I take dad to run his errands, and gives him a chance to ride in the car for a bit. Since he has a new girlfriend at his place, they seem to get out a little more together. She’s a nurse, so she is able to help him walk and be careful. Also today was the first day of my new coping skills class, and therapy day. I wasn’t really ready for therapy today, but glad I stayed the whole hour. Which brings me to why I’m thankful today, I’m more than thankful for my therapy sessions. I find so much relief in going, I had something bothering me yesterday and she just brought it out of me. I cried just a little, not sad tears, but tears of ‘yes that’s it’!! I feel like my thoughts are so clear when I’m with her, I mean I feel like she has been knowing me for years. I wonder if we are supposed to be kind of cool with each other? Today she told me something personal about her daughter and I felt like we were best buds. Just wondering if that’s ok? If it’s not, oh well! I couldn’t be more thankful for her. She sees the old fabulous, courageous, pretty, and diva I use to be. She sees me, not just my illness. I mean I feel like my old self, with a new brain when I’m there with her. So once again, who said therapy was bad for ya!? Hope this week is starting off great for you all, chat soon….

Ms. Fran